Question to women - when you go out with a man you really like and want to get between you, usually how long do you wait before going to bed with this man? And a question to men - when do you think it is right to become intimate with a woman? (again, we are talking about cases when there are serious intentions or you are looking for something more than fun, otherwise it is clear) How long would you wait? When do you think it's too soon? And as an important explanation - we accept that in the given situation both parties have some sexual experience behind their backs and it will not be their first time.
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It is very important for me to know each other well, to have friendship and to trust each other before we have a love affair with the person. Of course, these things continue and develop during the love affair. That would make it easier for me to relax. Otherwise, it's generally different for me - maybe in the first month, sometimes more ... it depends on how much I trust the person. I have girlfriends who indulged in their halves in the first month, others in 3-4, etc. F19
Hi, I think a woman should wait at least a month before sleeping with a man she wants to have a serious relationship with. At least that's how my personal experience and that of the women around me shows - if the time is less than a month, no matter how nice it looks, the relationship just won't be serious or not as much as the woman wants in this case. For this one month, both partners have time to rethink everything and decide if they really want to be together. Besides, both parties need time to dream ... but not for too long! A woman
If we've known each other for years, maybe as soon as the spark ignites, or almost immediately. In any case, a short or longer period of courtship is very pleasant. However, if we have just met, even if some chemistry is obtained, I think that a period of 2-3 months is at least normal to have. Nowadays, you don't even know what type you're going to run into. If something starts to bother or looks wrong, blindness is the last thing that is acceptable for a woman.
And a question to men - when do you think it is right to become intimate with a woman? 2-3 weeks
The first time you both want it. Men's serious intentions will remain serious, no matter how you have sex on your first date or after 3 weeks. And if it's someone who is just looking for sex, then everything will come to light much faster.
It's different. It happened to me to have sex with a man 2 hours after we met. But then, as they were talking, they had already 'let off steam', I realized that he didn't like me at all as a person and I told him not to look for me, and that the problem was in me :) g30
5, "Serious intentions of men will remain serious, no matter how you have sex on your first date or after 3 weeks" For me as a man this does not apply. Based on how long it will take for my wife to "let go", I draw a lot of conclusions. If I know her long before, then it will not affect, but in other cases, it will largely determine the development of the relationship. I have personally heard how sexologists agree that if a woman wants a serious relationship, she should never be in a hurry. And according to my observations, this is exactly the case. Yes, there are always exceptions, of course.
Contrary to my reasoning and experience at number 2, I went to bed with my wife on the second date. I tried the first one, but it reflected me :-) And the fact that she let me go to the second one, didn't turn out to be an indication that she was a very serious woman. From another point of view, why, since we are mature people, we like each other, we have a lot of sex, we waste time and do not enjoy the fun right away. Ah, I would forget; -) ........... I never thought a woman was a whore just because she slept with me quickly. She just wanted to, we liked each other and we hit the moment. Conversely, it may be complete rubbish, but to play it on a serious woman and hang you, ie. look at me, I'm not easy. It's as if she doesn't like it and lets go of her husband because he deserves it. Sounds like - come on, I'll let you go at the end, you've been waiting and courting me for a long time. I don't see women, who have slept with you, as used, and that the two have enjoyed each other and sex. From this point of view, I do not see why things should be delayed.
8, and this side of the coin has it, yes. BUT look the other way. If it hadn't worked out with your husband? You'd go out with a few more people until you found love, and with all of them, if you'd fucked on a first date, until you felt like it, you'd screw up a piece and then go prove yourself you're not a whore. If some of these pieces are taken and talked about, that's it.
It is very individual and there is no way to say. People have different understandings. It depends on the specific partners and the specific situation. And in general - in some cases, when we sleep with someone can have an impact (negatively or positively - whether it was soon after the acquaintance, waiting or long after it), and in other cases it does not matter at all. There is no way to draw general conclusions and summarize. Because even if we see which option is the most common, it will not "work" in every situation. Because of all this, it is best to act according to our specific feelings about the specific situation. And whatever happens! We will either fit or not! Ž
Number 9 - I'm number 8. I give an opinion as a man - it is obvious that I am a man and how my wife let me go .. Why do you interpret me as if it was written by a woman and you address me as a woman :-) Number 6 - fun.
13, sorry, I was wrong. But I was speaking in principle anyway, I was not referring to you specifically. But the units lead me to think how intolerant people are to random mistakes, which in any case do not matter much to my thesis. Instead of understanding the meaning, they made an involuntary mistake.
There is no rule for such a thing. You both feel it and judge it. As a woman, I did not go to bed on a first date. I'm not saying I wouldn't do it. If we both want each other very much .. At 4-5 meetings I usually reach intimacy. There is no point in waiting for weeks and months, especially for people after 30 years. We are not small, we have some experience and we know what we want. If a woman is a virgin it is different, of course. But I can't imagine burning with passion for someone and hanging around for two weeks. This is torture. Not to mention that there are cases when people wait longer and sex does not work at all. Or they understand that they like different things.
15, no, man, we are intolerant not only of mistakes, but also of your generalizations about women. ;)
17, show me where I have summarized all the women. I only wrote that people accept the large number as a whore. I'm saying that a lot of people take it that way, not me. I haven't summarized anywhere, but by inertia you beat me to pieces because I was confused about the gender of the commenter. I had just read a few comments and confused the authors of the various comments. But my thesis is the same. However, you are infallible and you are absolutely never mistaken, the fact that I was confused turned out to be the most important thing in the case, so now you suddenly realized that it was because of generalization. There is nothing like that in my comment. But anyway - why am I even trying to convince people who reacted so sharply because of an unintentional mistake. If this is the most important thing in this case, then so much is your mind.
18, the very fact that you say these words speaks for itself. I wouldn't point it out as an argument, but you do. Right? ;) 17
I hope the admins approve my comment. I am a 27-year-old man from Sofia. For the last 4 years I have been in a relationship that ended recently. Before that I have a few shorter relationships and for better or worse I have a lot of meetings behind me. You don't have to wait with sex at all. If a woman likes you, she'll let you go right away. We assume you have terrain. If not at least you will push or whistle in the car. With sex you can wait a week if you just have nowhere to go, but you see that there is a desire and chemistry between you. If you have terrain (you or she) and everything went well at the meeting, but she does not want to directly fuck her. Of course, if you like it a lot, go out 2-3 more times and leave it with the same result. Many people will not agree with me. This is very clear to me. In theory, things are one thing, in practice others. As I said, I have experience and it's not about 20-30 girls. There are many women who do not intend to sleep with you, but will waste your time. That's how they raise their self-esteem and get a draw. I'm not a tight man, but the money accumulates over time and since you only get company in return, it's not worth it when you look for something different. Initially I had started to take them to restaurants, but I decided to put as a filter to go out for coffee first. Sunday, Starbucks, Costa, nothing so special and you still have to spend at least BGN 15 for her and BGN 15 for you. And you will be surprised how many girls will enjoy the fact that you have set aside BGN 15 for her and will want to go out again without having interest in you so that you can write them again for BGN 15 .... Not to mention the fact that if a woman liked you will go to bed with you and without drinking it and immediately, but you still have to show her some respect, even if it's as little as taking her to have a better coffee and a cooler cake. The point of this is to avoid relationships with semi-virgin girls. An experienced woman will never have a problem going to bed early with some she liked because she knows it's not such a big deal. I've dated girls without much experience and I've had to explain several times in my life that the first When we quarrel, this does not mean that we separate, but that we need to understand each other on the topic we have differences and reach a consensus.
19, last? Why is? Because of the mistake, because of the "generalization", because of "those words" that I had the audacity to point out as an argument or just like that? You are already entangled. And even if I put them as an argument, what? Do you have to knock units of any opinion other than yours at first, just because it is different from yours. For a minor mistake, you reacted as if I were a criminal. Your behavior is offensive. From now on, I will do the same. Just to make something go wrong, to make a mistake, a gender or something, I just smear the one and start explaining to him how it is because of "those words". As I see it, in practice and this is exactly what happened in the forum. They comment on who made what mistakes, they are sued, criticized, but in the end no advice and understanding is given, which is actually the purpose of the site. Others have different opinions, why didn't you give them units? But there the skirt was not confused and did not touch you in ..., right? And then you're super tolerant, you don't "generalize" about it, no matter that you're caught up in something super insignificant, and I'm the big criminal that I got the wrong gender, you almost have to lynch me.
And because of the 2. And yes - I'm not absolutely tolerant either. There is no such film. Everyone has their own prejudices. And yes - I wouldn't use the "go prove you're not a whore" argument. Why and to whom to prove? Everyone does what they want. Who does not like it as it is - the road and that's it! We do not live for people's opinion. And we will be fine with people who accept us as we are. And would you tell a man not to make numbers on the first date, because then his numbers can speak for him?
My unit is And because of the mistake, And because of "go prove you're not a whore." I'm not tangled. But you take my words as you can and as you wish.
hello everyone let's look at 2 hypothetical scenarios for intimacy 1. a student in a library meets a student and Thai invites her to see her. for a few months they get to know each other, like each other, but she is still not ready for sex. at the age of six months they finally sleep together and start a relationship 2. the same student meets a very attractive, muscular and socially dominant man in a bar with a shiny black jeep. he takes her to his apartment and breaks her off from sex the same night. So ... let's get to the word. The student is spun on a slow skewer for several months until he "deserves" it, and the dude is given it immediately. In my opinion, any woman can be a "whore" for the "right" man. How fast a woman will sleep with you depends on how much you attract her, not on the moral compass with which she deceives the balaclavas.
And voting is complicated so that we can vote from our point of view. Once it is set, if we want, we will vote. And I don't see what the problem is with that. You are very obsessed with the "rating". Exit the movie. ;)
25, is not a question of rating, but of the attitude and condemnation of a stupid unintentional mistake and the shift of focus from what I wanted to say to the stupid mistake. It's just that your pettiness has derailed me. It's not the singular problem, it's the stupid reason to judge me for a fucking mistake. I ask - is this the idea here? Let's point out the stupid mistakes. Was that the most important thing in my stupid fucking comment? "And yes - I'm not absolutely tolerant either." Clearly, my "generalization" is for judgment and is not tolerant, but your intolerance and pettiness are not a problem. If she was so critical of her own pettiness, you wouldn't have an equal. There are obviously some people gathered here for whom these little things are more important than what I wanted to say. OK - don't agree with me, everyone has an opinion, but to react like that because of an unintentional mistake I don't understand. It's as if I've killed a person, as if you're never mistaken. I wish people were more open-minded and tolerant of such trifles, but alas. I'm sorry I fell to the level of arguing, but I just hate such petty things. Author, I'm sorry about the fucking arguments, I messed up your subject. It will not happen again, I promise.
Why do you accept it as a condemnation? No one went to judge you! This is just our assessment of your comment. Why do you have a problem with it? And if you don't have a problem, why do you even question it? Everyone votes as they see fit. It is!
27, evaluate, but evaluate my opinion, not the stupid mistake. Sama said that the mistake also contributed to the unit. Didn't you already understand that it's not about the unit or your assessment, but about the fact that a small thing like an unintentional mistake matters to you, that you even gave me units. Why do other comments not have so many units? There is mine only because I made a mistake and you admitted it yourself. It's a pity to grab such things and shift the focus. It's insulting, you understand?
In this case, the topic is "when is it right", and there is simply no such thing as right and wrong in this regard - I do not see the reason why some people here are yawning. It's all a matter of personal feeling, and in general men are more inclined to try on the first date, it is normal for women to be more conservative, but again, everything depends. At the present time, the meetings start before there is a live acquaintance - should we include this time in the bill? I don't believe I'm the only one who has fallen in love virtually - you write to someone, you like their speech, you exchange photos, and when it comes (and if it does) to a live meeting you're half ready to kiss and crush him, yes you are happy for him and you dream of being in bed for an hour. I'm talking about myself, I don't know how it is with other men, but I've always been repulsed by a woman being so "tanned" that she's ready to skip a coffee meeting at a nearby hotel - all my relationships started with a relatively long virtual acquaintance (2 months or more), I've never considered this time wasted, the details are only ironed out at the meeting, and the rest is a matter of so often conjugated chemistry. Until now, it has not happened to me to reach first, to toss, to make hints and reservations that "we are already great people, so what". On the contrary, precisely because we are great people, it seems to me that we need to find a balance between the thinking of the two chapters and not behave like one-dayers. In this line of thinking, I understand what he meant by number 9 and I do not take it as a summary - I will not advocate for him, but apparently some have admitted in his assessment of "
If you are over 30 ... where are you looking for? Every man who goes out with you will want sex .... Do you think they want to talk about sales? There is no exact time ... These are fabrications and are more inherent in immature virgins ....
30, look, I hadn't thought of that, but maybe that's what this whole throw-in was about. Apparently some admitted in my comment and decided to convince me that it was because of something else.
9 Didn't he mean that society simply considers most women in large numbers to be light, and not that he has specifically stigmatized someone here? Or so I understood. Black Sabbath
Up to 32 Brother, you're warming up very slowly. Of course, this reaction is not because of the mistake. No one overreacts unless they feel affected. Hey, you told yourself that you felt offended and that's why you reacted. Remember why the women reacted. What does it mean to summarize? If you summarize the blacks, who will offend the black and whites? Blacks because they will feel personally affected. It is unlikely that a white man will jump to stand up for blacks, since he did not recognize himself in your comment. The lady said "those words" to herself. Remember what words are in question and why she confessed?
I think about a month is a normal time for two experienced people who are not in puberty. By no means would I sleep with a man on first dates if I want to have a serious relationship. I would not wait more than 3 months.
BS, that's exactly what I meant, but some admitted and accepted it personally.
After the wedding
Comments on the topic are published with furious speed, for which I thank the moderators - it turns out something like a dialogue, not days of waiting for your own opinion to be published, and then someone to answer that you have already forgotten what you said. In short, I thank the one who takes the trouble to read us and allow our stories to be published. I'm number 30, but I'm not number 34 - not that I differ from his opinion, just another person has seen that carpets are very strong in writing, their attacks are an integral part of everyday life (especially if they feel "stepped" ) I put steps in quotes because I have no intention of stepping on them, theirs is their life, theirs are their things, but let them have the courage to look me in the eye when they stand against me, not to drink Schweps and pretend to inaccessible, if they are very proud of their numbers, let them write it on their foreheads and go to the streets with the tape "fucking excellent", and not to shout at me on an anonymous site that fucking after 2 hours of dating is not Kovren. I'm not going to quote her, I'm not going to bother to find her number, every normal person will remember who I'm talking about, but to fuck someone, and when you get up to ask him for his name, I want a little more - I won't I judge her, she decided so, but let her lower herself a little and not explain to me that being a fagot is a normal state of gender. The one who, after two meetings and quick sex, chose his wife not to baptize me either, what a commodity it is that he and POXIPOLA don't stick so fast, not to mention the quality of the gluing, not to mention why the pot is best for the weak fire. Dear hurryers, bite your uncooked beans and don't convince me, that it is tastier than the one in the barracks - it's a matter of taste, but in order to have an opinion you have to try it, and obviously you are not. Last but not least, I appeal to be objective, to refer to personal experience, and not to a woman who said - be positive, do not attack, but also do not hide, if you do not like my morals, just ignore it, not to you instill in me your morals - I don't want you to like me, but I also don't want you to pretend to be 2 and 1/2, I think it's simple and correct!
- When you go out with a man you really like and want to get between you, usually how long do you wait before going to bed with this person? So, at least 1.2 months must pass then sex! To make sure that this person is not with me, just for pleasure. I have to get to know him as a person so that I can sleep with him then. wife of 21.
35, can I do a little dissection of your answer "I think about a month is a normal time for two experienced people who are not in puberty. In no case would I sleep with a man on first dates if I want to have a serious relationship I wouldn't wait more than 3 months. " What do you think an experienced person is and how do you determine which man is in puberty that he does not leave (some of us) all his life? On a first date you would not sleep with a man with whom you want to have a serious relationship, does this mean that you sleep with others after 2 hours of dating? What do you include in those 3 months for which you are ready to be patient, writing, talking, live meeting - I also would not wait 3 months after the live meeting, it is obvious that something did not work out, but writing, talking , kandermi I would wait 6 months, as long as I consider that the person is worth it. We're in a hurry,
So, there is such a moment. If you are a woman, you go out with a man, for example, with the idea that you are not with him, just to fuck, as the author mentions in the topic. There are 2 options - either the man will go out with you with the idea that eventually it will grow into him more seriously over time, or just fuck you twice and fuck you. If the first option is good, but most men do not start with the idea of something serious, at least not in the beginning. And then what happens? You let him go on the second day, he has achieved his goal, he possibly fucks you 1-2 more times and who is from where. Well, however, the next man is very likely to go again with the same idea, because most of them are like that. If you hit the right one well on the second or third, but the probability of happening to several of them is high. From one moment on, this began to be felt by the next men, that you already have a number and a vicious circle is formed. I know of many such women who are not otherwise bad, but keep looking for the man of their lives and letting him in on the first date and eventually turning into a scumbag. If a woman waits for about a month, most men who go with the idea of easy sex will give up during that time. And the one who is with you for your own sake, and not just to fuck, will wait 5 months if necessary, because he will appreciate you for himself. For 5 months without sex no one died. Yes, it is unpleasant, but at least he will know that he has a serious woman against him. Of course, there are women who deliberately pretend to be serious enough to lie to a man and then unleash themselves, but I'm not talking about that part. In general, this also applies to men, but the difference is that most women, unlike men, do not just start with the idea of sex. And in this sense, men are somehow more insured. But for a man, this can be an indication of some things. Now I do not want to summarize and do not say that this is some authoritative criterion, but still at least in most cases it carries important information, as long as you know how to interpret it. If the idea of both is just a fuck or something serious for both, then there is nothing wrong, because no one is lying to anyone. If everyone is really honest, it's not bad to fuck in the second hour, especially if they know each other from before and have some trust. But if one wants something serious and the other is not sure or you need time to find out, such insurance is not superfluous, so that there are no injured and imperceptibly accumulated unwanted units. That's more or less what I wanted to say with my comment number 9, but apparently some people who are upset about their behavior have admitted,
Agree with 35. About a month is normal, at least for me. But each such situation is unique in itself and I usually tend to wait another month at most. Then the maxim applies that the more you stare into the abyss, the more it engulfs you. In the end, you just wasted your time and became another "doormat" option ...
38, and yet don't you think you're a little extreme in your speech? I'm not judging you, I generally agree with you, I'm just asking. I also didn't like the opinion of the woman, who reacted sharply, but may not be light. In fact, she may have reacted this way either because she recognized herself in the words of 9, or because she had nothing to do with them. I have almost no experience in meetings, let alone any, but maybe sometimes two people go to bed in the first few meetings. It is not necessary for either of them to be fickle, but whether you are a light woman is determined not only by the number, but also by the behavior, often the appearance. Most of the blood I've met is tied up with bound boys, they even ruin their relationships just for fun. I had one in the former class. And as for the number - some are corrupt after the fifth, others after the twenty-fifth, and some even after their first partner. That is, they have always suppressed the blood in themselves. But that's just my opinion. Black Sabbath
40, all good, but you miss a very important moment. Time passes and this is the only thing that does not return. That is, you have a potential couple, they are both 25. What 6 months, what writing, what getting to know as much as you need ... all these things are inherent, if both are about 16. It is assumed that at 25 a person will be more aware and will not waste time, this applies to women and men. Which, in fact, prevents the "discussion" from developing, because things are some at 16, others at 26 and completely different at 35.
41, once again I will agree with you, especially in the part "If a woman waits for about a month, most men who go with the idea of easy sex, will give up during this time. And the one who is with you for your own sake, not just fuck, I'll wait 5 months if I have to, because she'll appreciate you. In 5 months without sex, no one has died. Yes, it's unpleasant, but at least she'll know she has a serious wife against her. " However, stop explaining yourself, the carpets that attacked you in the beginning have already given up, not that they understood you, they will never understand you, even if they join again (at some point), they will still not pull with yours and my scales - if you have heard an alcoholic admit that he is an alcoholic, you will not hear from the carpet to say that she is a light woman, but they will beat you anonymously, they will level you to the ground, they will try to convince you, that you are wrong with the ball. I've never had a woman face me and say I've been with 100 men, what if you don't accept me as I'm leaving - on the contrary, all of them have a second or, in the last resort, a third, obviously the pride of " conquests "is only a book, but in reality they are a small noise - I don't care, but to make a fool of me is not like putting a lid on the pot.
43, we have argued with you another time, you have not accepted me another time - no problem, I accept you as my daughter, she wants to experience everything herself, to be scalded by everything, to find the hot water herself. Despite everything, there is potential in you, you try to think with your own head, to look with your own eyes, to refract through your own prism, but for now you lack experience, A LOT of experience. I can afford to be rude, I can afford to be brutal, but I try to refrain, I don't always succeed, but at least I try, because I'm becoming more and more convinced that "a good word, an iron door opens." I'm already so old that I don't have any trouble proving myself to anyone (at least to you), but I'm still not old enough to let myself be pulled by the tail with impunity.
45, I did not write the last comment to justify or argue with them. I just wanted to better explain my thesis about the author and other readers. Not for carpets. I already understand what burned them and I do not intend to argue anymore. I just thought at first that it was the mistake I made, and that's why I took it so personally. But now I realized it was because of my opinion. So no problem. If they judge me, let them judge me for my opinion, I am right for myself and I do not need to convince anyone.
44, time flies at the same speed for all of us, but some have learned to appreciate it, and others very skillfully waste it. For me, the trial and error principle is a waste of time - there is no way to know me, and from there to understand me, but generally speaking I am from the model "measure three times - cut once". I'm not saying that this folk saying has always worked, but many times it has protected me from wrong moves, ie. I have not wasted my time on lost causes - a matter of sight and a matter of haste. I remember on this occasion another saying "hurry slowly" - we men are always in a hurry, but I never suspected that women are faster than us.
47, do you want me to scald you a little - no one is right about anyone here, unless I share his opinion - here you say your opinion and do not explain, and you enter some kind of explanatory mode, get to the topic of pluses and minuses, which I don't even know how they put themselves, and I don't write to get likes or not. Understand me as you wish, but do not fall at the level of those who no longer dare to call (and call what?) - it is a pity that a friend claims that a woman needs evil (with him bad, without him worse), it is even more unfortunate that I agree with his opinion.
As soon as possible, because if sex is not worth it, do not waste your time.
46, I told her that I agree with you, but that maybe not every time a woman goes to bed with a man in the first few dates, it means she is light. Still, there are people and situations of all kinds, but as I wrote, I have no experience in meetings and I only guess. And I don't know if the carpets don't recognize their numbers in front of the men, but they brag a lot to each other, they even gather to share them (I've heard confirmation of this from a 120% reliable source). Once I was sitting with acquaintances in a cafe and from the next table I heard a girl discussing one with the words "Taya is terribly congested. She is 19 years old and is a virgin!". And she was about that age with the damn young lady in question. So some more or less advertise their number or just do not care. Black Sabbath
Differently in different situations 1 I am attracted to him and I just want an adventure and a good time. So on the 3rd meeting if everything is nice. At the first meeting, he dropped out - I don't care what someone will think of me, but about spiciness. 2. I like him a lot, I want to get to know him and make a good impression and possibly a relationship. So the work goes at least for a month. If ofeika - then he either just wanted to count me, or he is too proud and intolerant of women, which is also not OK, and I'm glad I didn't invest too much
49, you are right that no one is right about anyone. In fact, you are right about everything. Just to clarify that I am already in explanatory mode. I was in one before and I really got hooked because I thought it was because of the mistake, but then I realized what it was for.
I see a lot of people say they prefer to wait a month ... but doesn't it matter how often you see this person during that time? That it could be in two weeks, if you're both very busy or there were other setbacks, and hop - on the third date one has already passed, you can see each other once a week and again on the fourth or fifth - expired the necessary time.