Hello, I am 25 years old, I have had a friend older than me for a year and something. In the beginning everything was great, there was thrill and interest in both. But later, my man was not so sure of his intentions towards me. We parted several times on his initiative. Now we are seemingly like any young sweet couple, we do things together, we go out, we spend the weekends alone. But that's just the way it looks. Our sex is lame, we hardly do it. I try to pamper him, look sexy, etc., but still nothing. I became quite impatient and resorted to extreme methods. It turned out that he was dating other women. And they also meet and have sex. He calls them. I don't know if he has parallel relationships or just sex. He claimed in front of them that he was alone, and he met me with his friends and relatives. I haven't told him yet that I know these things. I do not know where to start. I invested a lot in this connection and I don't want it to go away so easily. I wish we could fix things, but I already know too much. The question is what to do now
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M37 I resorted to revenge, but I did not feel better. Run! We both know this is the solution.
You drop it, simply and clearly. It will not change. If you are vindictive, do something simple, or raise a huge scandal. But there is no point in being with someone who sleeps with others. He mocks you.
Leave him alone and don't mess with him anymore. Cut it and block it from everywhere. I would have nothing more to do with any of his acquaintances, relatives, etc. Complete ignore, as if it does not exist. I continue my life with my friends and interests, I go somewhere - it's still summer, I'm having fun and I don't think about it. There is no better revenge than indifference and forgetfulness. If he calls you, tell him you're done with him, because you know everything, and hang up without further explanation. Deny him any appointments and don't explain yourself.
Just leave it. It is completely unnecessary to think of various schemes of revenge. At least no adulterer admits just that, most prefer to bluff. If you're so angry, raise a spectacular scandal. Maybe shouting will help you. And that's all. Quarrels will not solve your problems, they will not change the past. Nothing will happen, at best it will be easier on your soul that you poured out the emotion and said everything you wanted to say. And to continue your relationship with this person is almost impossible. Neither you will forgive, nor will he change his walking habits.
You don't explain anything, you don't prove anything, you don't ask anything! You get up and leave, and if he lives with you, you change the locks! This is the solution. Tell him if he asks that you have decided to accept Buddhism, to go to a convent, to become a prostitute, to go to the moon ... whatever, but just don't explain yourself. A lady never explains, she just announces her decisions. Wasting your energy on a scandal is pointless. And next time get together with a man who really wants you - physically and spiritually!
I support number 3 - there is no more effective revenge than indifference. And go to check that he hasn't stuck something to you, as soon as he goes to do it with various others.
Hi, I also don't think you have to deal with garbage like him. I have been in such a situation, but on the other side. I was with someone like him and later it turned out that he had a girlfriend. I was about to take revenge on him and tell the girl he was cheating on her, but I didn't. You better give it up, no matter how hard it is for you, and find the person you deserve. No matter how hard you try to change things, he will not appreciate it. He just doesn't love you and uses you. You will continue to see others no matter what you do. Once you have separated, and on his initiative, things are clear. Don't be fooled. It is clear that sex does not work because it is found in other women. He spins you on his little finger and makes you crazy (you must be a lot smaller than him). Stop tying up to him and forgiving him for everything. Don't be humiliated, I'm sure
From * bi the light. This is the easiest. I don't know what revenge you want and what will seem enough to you, but revenge ... let's just say I wanted it at the time, rightly so. Last time I took revenge: a thin phrase expressing my attitude before I blocked - "I'm sick of you." I know the consequences I have caused. Although deservedly, now my conscience irritates me. Revenge obscures. If you wish, revenge. Just know that there will be consequences for you too.
If you don't have the composure not to tell him right away, then you're a machine. Have fun, appear at such a meeting and you will burst out laughing. You remember what a woman has to be in order to have sex with strangers on the Internet. She / they 100% can't step on your little finger. And he will get upset when he sees you there.