Hello. I'm seeing a girl of 4 months. We went through and experienced a lot of interesting and fun things, we more or less got to know each other physically. However, since I haven't had a serious relationship, only a long one because of sex, I don't know if the time has come for me to offer her to live together. The thing is, if we don't talk about work (we do the same thing), it doesn't say anything. We go to various events, but I feel her more like a friend ...
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If you feel more like a friend and since you have no topics to talk about except for work, why do you even consider offering her to live together? I do not see anything that makes it worthwhile to offer such a thing. Serious cohabitation is a big and serious step, but it requires dedication for both partners to want it. You don't think you're for it. I don't even see why you're "together"
When the girl agreed.
How old are you and don't you think 4 months is very little time?
Ie you and your friends are silent, or how?
Are you okay? They have been together for 4 months. How long can you get to know each other for so long? Where are you in a hurry to live together. At least wait 1 year.
I think it's a little early for you. And living with someone is quite different than you imagine. You have to be ready for things like paying bills, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of the other person when he's sick ... so a bunch of mundane things that sometimes make life miserable. I don't know if you live alone or with yours, but just as you lived / live with yours and you argue about who will wash the dishes or throw away the garbage, so it will be if you live with your girlfriend. You must be fully convinced that you love this woman and the fact that you will see her in any situation, sick, healthy, sour, angry, etc., and that together you will take care of the household will not spoil your relationship. That's why it's probably better to get to know each other better first so that there are no unnecessary arguments about nonsense. It's not that even when you get to know each other, you won't argue about anything ...
It's too early yet. 4 months are nothing. You need to know each other for at least a year and a half to take such a step. Live your life, once you live together you will not have the same freedom. Do not hurry.
It takes a lot more time than about 4 months, at least a year. And want it both, not because it's time for you, or just try. You're not going to live with everyone after all, are you? This is emotional exhaustion. If you propose to her now, you will scare her, because it may not cross her mind to be with you all the time, or to want a family with you. Nowadays, people are in a hurry, and then they regret it. My ex-boyfriend changed 2 women in a year - me and the one he is with now. Just because I wanted to wait with the kids and living,. He left me and is now with another, new potential wife. Just because he had intended things to be his way. So do not rush with these steps, it takes time. To start wandering too.
In my opinion, time does not matter. For example, I lived with my friend in the 1st month and we get along perfectly. My previous one and I did it gradually, after 1 year and when I moved to them I couldn't last a month. So, judge for yourself if you can live with this person, and I didn't observe any time limits.
If you think you are in love with someone, live a little together and you will pass. It's best to go together to see if you get up.
From the author. Okay, let's assume that 4-5 months is not enough. In that case, we need to diversify the activities a lot more to see ourselves in more light. Right? We went on excursions, cinema, restaurant, cafe, museums. It comes to us sometimes, but it doesn't have the closeness I want. We have sex from time to time. However, I miss the spontaneous touch in different situations, there is no tenderness ... We haven't talked about the topic, but we are still 25 and I don't see any sense in trying to change it.
Author, excursions, movies and the like are fun. There you show your best qualities and it's easy to be cool. Try to immerse yourself in everyday life for a while and then the most true and unforced essence of man will appear. If he manages to keep the good tone in a problematic moment, then you can be sure that the person is good at it. Hey, that's the good thing about problems - that you really get to know the person. The other is ala-bala.
There are no rules with deadlines, if you want to go to the next level - I suggest.
4 months is not small. My current husband and I lived together on the 3rd, after 2 and 6 months we got engaged and on the 3rd and 6 months we got married. You have to really feel that you want it and that it's the right thing for both of you, not to do it because it's done that way. If from now on there is no trust and attraction, living together will not get better. You can live with someone even at 1 month, but it is really important to feel it as right and to want it both.