I want to tell you a story, I just want to share. I have been in love with a woman for a very long time. I fell in love with her when I was 22 and she was 18. We were at university together, different courses of course. It was clear to me from the beginning what it was, a lot of fleeting relationships, a lot of men, but I was just in love with her. I definitely didn't look bad, I wasn't bad then, but he never paid attention to me. 3 times over the years I took more serious steps, just to go out on dates and canceled them and after a day or two I realized that he already has a friend. Another. I tell you, I loved her so much, I wanted to do everything for her, to make her happy. I even sent her flowers and candies - anonymously, when someone dumped her to make her happy, I sympathized with her pain, I even did it to make her think they hadn't abandoned her ... I must have reconciled her to at least a dozen exes. my nonsense. I still didn't understand why she didn't give me a chance, maybe I looked ridiculous in her eyes or insecure, I don't know. And so. Today I am 31, she is 26. We are both free. In the last year, I have had great pre-turbulences in my life. I left my job (it was well paid) and went abroad. You guessed it, the salary is very high because I'm talking about the Middle East. My profession is interesting on top of everything and I am very happy. I rarely come to Bulgaria. I will rarely come, that's my schedule. There are no Bulgarians around me. But ... this woman started looking for contacts with me in every way and with such funny phrases as "oh, how do you drive her" - as if she had been interested in me all her life or "when you come and go" - I didn't invite her at first, I didn't even hint, nor do I intend to go out with her. He keeps saying things like "I'm single now as if I'm stupid enough not to know that." He fills me with praise at every conversation. Honestly, it's very funny to me. It even looks too ridiculous in my eyes, although I enjoy writing to someone simply because I miss Bulgaria and the language. Obviously, however, I have been misunderstood. By the way, the lady in question was not a money seeker at the time, she was just and most likely still a light woman, and because she is really beautiful, it is easy for her to gather men and their looks. I don't know-how, probably 8-9 years ago I would have been in an ecstasy, but now I feel downright stupid. It amazes me how he thinks I will want something more from a woman who has had many men, incl. and my friends, not to mention the way and behavior towards me before. I wouldn't even go out with her for coffee so that I don't get a name and my friends talk to me.
What do you think? I forgot to say that years ago there was a practice when someone dumped her to write statuses in FB, that all men were "hammer and bye" hahahahaha, to wonder, I had put her on a pedestal in my head, the dream woman, I would probably carry it on my hands to this day :)))))
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Apart from putting a smile at the end of your topic, shouting "Justice triumphs" and congratulating you on the good outcome and the good work, I have no choice: D
Men are weak before women. There is such a topic here and this story completely complements how weak the male sex is in front of a beautiful and indifferent woman.
It is obvious only from what has been written that you still want to be with her. Don't convince us otherwise, we don't know you - convince her.
Here, the posts that do not ask a specific question, but "what will you say?" Radiate uncertainty. What do you mean, actually? Why did you waste your time writing here? Aren't you aware of yourself? No buddy, you still like her. It's just that now you're leading a parade and you feel insecure. As you felt insecure at the time. Instead of sending her candy, you did it anonymously. You were weak to face the competition. Do you want us to give you confidence now and tell you "go ahead"? My goodness, I'll tell you. Gather courage (and money) and run a march in BG. Get together, but don't forget to show her every day who's already leading! I think she has already made a living and will really appreciate you. The bad thing is that you don't seem to be, when I listen to you one day you will cheat on her and you will return it to her in a trampled way ... and even naturally it will come to you ... I just hope you don't throw it away with two children like a rag, that they will suffer. Eeeh, nothing new under the sun MV
Boy, what else do you know about her new life? The years pass more for her ... Did you ask her what interest she wrote to you ... Just by saying, a good paid job abroad and the locals raise their heads. You know from experience that she changed them and didn't give you a chance. Why give her a chance and get her out of the mud, when it is clear that there is more or less no class?
Some men in your place would fuck and dump her, but it seems to me that you are not, which is ok. Dude, the chick smelled the mangoes, she remembers you wanted her a lot, she knows you're right, it's very likely she's already suffered from the "bad" boys. Many women in their youth fall in love with arrogant, unscrupulous, arrogant, lewd women and selfish heavyweights. The reasons are that such men create a sense of protection in the young and insecure woman, radiate testosterone, are highly sexual and want the woman irresistibly. Women find it difficult to resist masculine men who radiate sex. There is nothing wrong with that, women, especially the younger and more beautiful ones, stumble upon bad boys. Psychologically, this is explained by the fact that such men unlock a woman's maternal instincts, especially if she has not given birth. The bad boy makes the woman try to re-educate him. If you have noticed, often such women want to change him, he is a womanizer, but she tells herself that he will not cheat on her. He drinks, but she hopes to change, he commits crimes, but she still longs for his re-education and change. If a relationship that mimics a mother-son relationship somehow survives and leads to marriage and a child, it usually begins to fall apart after the child is born. The reason is that the woman redirects her maternal care to her child and expects the man to behave like a mature person. She doesn't have the old concern for him. He gets bored and things get worse. Bad boys, moreover, attract women with their vitality, with such men, women experience strong emotions, and as we know, women most of all want to experience emotions. Many women, like the one you're talking about after a lot of slaps in the face and bitter experience with the above categories of men, they get tired and think of the nice dude she didn't reflect on, who she didn't care about. Strong emotions have ruined her, she wants something more secure and calm. But the thing is that if the woman has not changed and has not really rethought all her relationships with the matchmakers, in time it is possible that she will stumble on some self-sufficient arrogant boar again. I think in your case, the babe is excited about your money. There's nothing wrong with that, women get excited about a man with money, but if you don't touch the woman on an emotional string, in time she's very likely to cheat on you. A woman who is financially satisfied but not sexually and emotionally satisfied cheats but does not dare to divorce. A woman who is sexually satisfied but not financially and emotionally, both cheats and divorces. "The greatest power over a man has a woman who, without giving herself to him, is able to make him believe that he is loved." "Maria von Ebner-Eschenbach."
Applause for No8! An interesting point of view that I had not thought about and I completely agree!
An instructive story for anyone who has fallen into a hole because of such falling in love. Everything changes one day and it is up to you whether you will doze off in despair that things are not happening with your lover or you will continue your life. Well done for the right choice and just be careful not to get used to the new attention, so as not to go back again. I am sure that life will offer you many pleasant surprises - just look ahead. Success!
A banal, too common story. The dream of most Bulgarian women is to be marketed as holders. Years have passed and she has already started to get scared and lower the criteria. After a while, it will be wound up by an engineer from Botevgrad. That's why a person is looking for a partner, not someone to raise. Glad it didn't work out long ago.
Why don't you just focus on women who are around your circle of people, someone who develops like you, in any field. A woman who has similar priorities in your life is not just about career development. And one more question, why should she be Bulgarian at all if you don't live in Bulgaria? !? To some extent, I answer the questions I asked myself. Because you have low self-esteem. You think you don't deserve a quality woman, but you have to start thinking differently about yourself. First, you do not live in the past. It doesn't matter who you used to be (according to other people). The meaning of this life is to grow with each passing day, and you have obviously done it successfully. The target is who you are today. In my opinion, you are still internally perceived as 'desperate' or 'congested' and on the basis of his relationship (unsuccessful) with a single woman. That is, it is a self-delusion. I understand why this happened. You were young then, and that has left a mark on you, but you have to overcome it and, above all, raise your criteria about what kind of woman you want next to you. The very fact that you work in the Middle East, the interesting work in general and everything you describe about your life path, is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are in our environment, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. this is a self-delusion. I understand why this happened. You were young then, and that has left a mark on you, but you have to overcome it and, above all, raise your criteria about what kind of woman you want next to you. The very fact that you work in the Middle East, the interesting work in general and everything you describe about your life path, is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are in our environment, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. this is a self-delusion. I understand why this happened.
You were young then, and that has left a mark on you, but you have to overcome it and, above all, raise your criteria about what kind of woman you want next to you. The very fact that you work in the Middle East, the interesting work in general and everything you describe about your life path, is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are in our environment, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. and this has left a mark on you, but you have to overcome it and, above all, raise your criteria about what kind of woman you want next to you. The very fact that you work in the Middle East, the interesting work in general and everything you describe about your life path, is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are around us, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. and this has left a mark on you, but you have to overcome it and, above all, raise your criteria about what kind of woman you want next to you.
The very fact that you work in the Middle East, the interesting work in general and everything you describe about your life path, is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are around us, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. in general, the interesting job and everything you describe about your life path is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are in our environment, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more. at all the interesting work and everything you describe about your life path is not related to the low self-esteem that you radiate from your post. In your place, I would not deal with chats at all, real relationships start with a face-to-face meeting. People who are around us, or whom we meet by chance, are those whom we do not meet by chance at all. I am skeptical about the value of all online communication in the form of chats (not at work, emails, etc.), they carry only one illusion, nothing more.