Good evening from me too, darlings. I want to draw a few lines to share with you the grief that ruined me day after day in my unhappy life and turned me into the wreck I am today. I am 24 years old. I have changed quite a few men, but they have always approached me as an unnecessary item or rag. I grew up without a father's caress and that hit me very hard on my self-esteem. I have turned my pain into a bad and contemptuous attitude towards men and because of that no one takes me seriously. I haven't even had a more lasting relationship before. And I so desperately want to finally find the man-protector in which to find the protection and support that I have always lacked from my own father. Sometimes I wonder, "Where are you, father Why did you leave us years ago and decide to have another family? How did your other children deserve to grow up with both their parents? "I'm very sad, people, when I was a teenager I didn't feel it that much, but now I understand how big the trauma really is. More serious men only when they know what family I come from and immediately ignore me, it's like I'm contagious. me how to approach men so that someone can take me seriously ... The years fly by ... so that someone can take me seriously. The years fly by ... so that someone can take me seriously. The years fly by ...
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There are all kinds of people - good and bad, but I can't believe a man who takes care of some children doesn't want to take care of others. Parents love all their children Just ask your mother why you have not had contact with the father, because it often happens - the mother because of the divorce and the new family does everything possible to turn the children against the father or prevent any vision. But anyway - just go, see him and talk. Confront him with your feelings and ask him why it was so. You have the right to do this, but leave your prejudices at home, and listen to him first quite objectively and then draw your own conclusions. For men - I don't think they don't want a relationship with you because of your family - what kind of nonsense is that? Today, half of the world has divorced parents, and 70% of children are illegitimate. Your mother must have been ingrained all the time, that your father should be responsible for everything in your life, but the truth is that you repel men with your own behavior and especially with your unrealistic expectations. Understand that a man wants support, attention, and a life partner from a woman, and women who are just looking for a strong man to carry them through the hardships of life are left alone or run into freaks who deceive them into being men. The cruel truth is that everyone is responsible for their own lives and neither your father nor your men are to blame. Your father is guilty of not fighting enough for you, but that's past things. Now you are an old woman, you want to be a mother yourself - your father has no power over you that a man wants from a woman also support, also attention and a partner in life, and women who are just looking for a strong man to carry them through the difficulties of life are simply left alone or fall into freaks who deceive them that they are these men. The cruel truth is that everyone is responsible for their own lives and neither your father nor your men are to blame. Your father is guilty of not fighting enough for you, but that's past things. Now you are an old woman, you want to be a mother yourself - your father has no power over you that a man wants from a woman also support, also attention and a partner in life, and women who are just looking for a strong man to carry them through the difficulties of life are simply left alone or fall into freaks who deceive them that they are these men. The cruel truth is that everyone is responsible for their own lives and neither your father nor your men are to blame. Your father is guilty of not fighting enough for you, but that's past things. Now you are an old woman, you want to be a mother yourself - your father has no power over you but these are past things. Now you are an old woman, you want to be a mother yourself - your father has no power over you but these are past things. Now you are an old woman, you want to be a mother yourself - your father has no power over you
That's right, this boy who looks like a child to you may be the man to support and protect you or give you what you're looking for. H1 told you very correctly that men want support. If you don't take care of him, God will take it from you. I guess you look at men / boys with confidence next to the skies and their strippers (you should know that you are not the only game for this breed). Good luck and hope you find what you are looking for.
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If your father has a happy and close-knit second family, please do not look for the cause in him or in yourself. Look for her at your mother's! There is nothing more disgusting than a woman who, after "great love" and after giving birth to her first child, begins to treat her husband with contempt and disrespect - like a rag that is guilty and indebted to her for everything. I tell you this as a man who tasted such a disgusting mess. I don't even want to remember my previous "wife". I don't consider her human at all! You will say, "So where did you look when you chose her?" - there is the thing that she was not like that! She changed after giving birth. Nothing was the same anymore, and I, from her beloved husband, became the lowest geek (in her eyes) without changing myself or doing anything specific. Too bad for our son, which, ironically, was born with my mind and its beauty, not the other way around :) I would not dare to seek any contact with him before he reaches adulthood, because the old witch will only go crazy if she finds out .. Abe crazy "woman"! Now I have a new family and two children. Everything is harmony, love and understanding. I can't believe what horror and humiliation I've suffered before, just and only ... in the name of what? In the name of not staying away from my child ... Well, I stayed! And let me tell you - I'm not sorry at all. Mental harassment, my girl, lack of love and tendentious malicious treatment of someone are much more terrible, much more insidious and more destructive to the psyche than physical harassment and all kinds of beatings. Only he who has not experienced it, only he does not know! My current wife just never thought to hit her. Just for nothing! That nothingness eats the big slaps twice, and I would do it again if I saw it in front of my eyes. Some people just look for it with a candle.
"And I want so badly to finally find the man-protector in which to find the protection and support that I have always lacked from my own father" - there is no such young man, so you are looking for something impossible. Serious men don't ignore you because of your background, but because of something else - find out what it is and remove it (most likely it's some kind of self-pity, which is evident in your story). To be constructive, look for the fault in yourself, not in those around you. No one wants a grumbling stick on themselves. Success!
Ето това ще бъде все по голям проблем във връзките ти. Никой мъж няма да се зарадва на това : -" Сменяла съм немалко мъже, но винаги са подхождали към мен като непотребна вещ ". А как искаш да се отнасят към многократно употребена жена? Не описваш в какво населено място живееш, но ако си в малко градче, по добре го смени и отиди в по голям град, където не те познават и там се покажи като сериозна жена. В малкото градче, вече си си направила лоша слава, едва ли сериозен мъж ще се върже. Защо не мислите и си задавате въпросите, които сега ви вълнуват, а като млади момичета подражавате на пропаднали кифли, а после се чудите, защо ви смятат втора употреба и не ви ценят. Всяка стока си има цена и тя се поставя от търсенето(т. е., от купувача), а не от този който се предлага. На младини сами си подбивате цената, за която после само мечтаете. Жалко е, но е факт. Не сте само вие в това положение. Човек започне ли да се продава евтино, после няма как да бъде високо ценен. Такъв е животът, което сами си дробим, това и ще получим.
There is no such thing as "more serious men, when they find out what family I come from, immediately ignore me." They ignore you because you are complex because of it, not because it is. You know? They ignore you because you are obviously in the role of a victim looking for your knight-protector. Well, most serious men don't want to be a knight-protector, they want normal relationships with equality. And do you know how many women who come from normal families also can't find a serious man? This is a whole art for a woman.
I am a man of 24 and I come from a family of divorced parents. Although I have an education and a profession, I am always taken lightly once this fact is known. Such was our destiny.
Don't talk about your family and don't look for stable men in bars and discos
I don't believe men ignore you when they find out your father left you. Rather, they ignore you for your own sake, and you think it's for your sake. My father did not leave us, but instead he beat us, but it is not a little worse. I didn't have a boyfriend with whom I had a problem because of my father. I even think I'm happy in love. In men I sought the opposite of my father. I have a girlfriend who, like you, is left without a father. Her father has another family. Her mother raised her. Hey, this girlfriend I think has big problems with men. Out of hatred for her father, she kills her to humiliate men, and naturally they leave her and she suffers. She is already over 30, she is looking for a man, but if she finds one, she starts taking revenge on him as if he were her father, problems and quarrels start. They separate and she suffers. But she doesn't realize it. I see him as a bystander. And by the way, her mother is a big beast. Her father may be an idiot, but I don't know him. And men abandon their children for women. As they are not happy with them and bye. So are most unfortunately.
Well, let me tell you, my father did not leave, but stayed, but what good, as my whole life together with my parents was spent listening to their constant scandals and more. I don't think that the children of divorced parents are looked at with any prejudices. Maybe you really need to change your attitude towards boys. Good luck :)
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I don't like to give advice because it's a very difficult job, and the "sharing" that starts to grow is rather private. I don't even think that the Internet in general can replace real life, because a person who is somewhere there, how can you be with him in reality, even just as a stranger with whom you share something - you can meet a person of several lines about to give any advice, but only after you feel it and really get to know it. For me, this cannot be real life, but I am writing here because I obviously do not have such a life. I also haven't blossomed and tied ... I don't know if we should look for everything in "childhood", but I don't know if it's my way to "touch" it. Because in this introspection, can I recreate my childhood, to really find something there ... I think Freud started to do it ... I'm not sure but this, according to many others in this field, is not our job. There are some secrets that we shouldn't touch, maybe like a wound - as they told me "don't touch it". I was crying for my mother, I was in pain ... but these are words ... I don't even know if there is a memory left, just words. I wanted to go to my grandmother, not to kindergarten, but there I felt sorry for my mother ... It can't and doesn't make sense to tell in words like that. That is why it is the reality that is so confused in my eyes now - if you meet someone, will you be able to love him too ... In fact, it seems that such love does not gather some people ... Well, why does a man choose a "bride", for example "or" groom "... that's our nature - you want the best ... Maybe not ... And now I've written something - a theory, and where is life here? What if we end up with only internet "relationships"? What will we write about? Just for memories and politics? What if you get a comforting answer or advice ...? Of course, when the Internet is something like a post office or a telephone ... or a carrier pigeon ... Just a means of fast, convenient mail, not life. Because to really love someone means to love them when you know them all, if this is possible and if it is really revealed also if it is possible ... For me, in fact, my whole life from morning to night I don't know if there is any such revelation. boldly in front of someone ... There is a fear in this, unfortunately, and many other things for sure - and why should it be so complicated? Some say that family life is not the most important thing ...
Where are you from to warm your soul? !! :)
You've definitely never met men before, just male beings. First: boys prefer girls who do not burden them, do not make them think much, even more to advise, etc., this is impossible given the fact that they are excited about the pub and hit someone else, for example, because it is much easier. / I speak en masse / Second: do not go into long explanations, to reveal your life fully, to talk about your grief and trauma, because it repulses boys, they are not men after all and do not have much life experience discos and drooling, but that's another) Third: these things are shared with very close people, such as good friends you trust, you know they will listen to you and will not run away / from the facts .... /. Don't blame people because they don't want to hear you, that they don't want to be burdened with your memories, etc. It's important to know that it's not right / if you do, of course! / to start for example ... "I am Milena, I grew up without a father, I have a trauma, no one understands me ... I hate my life, WHERE ARE YOU FATHER, why did you leave us" - in this way, of course, you will repel them. To tell someone's life and problems is to have full confidence in that person and to know that he or she is interested. Don't rush, don't reveal everything at the wrong time, to the wrong people. There is time for everything, I believe it is difficult to carry this burden within you, but still it is your personal burden, and the others carry their own, let them get to know you well, let things develop ... when everything is deepen, you will have the opportunity to SHARE “but not to complain or make a sacrifice and seek regret, because that's not good. And I'm not blaming you, I'm saying it HYPOTHETICALLY if that's the case at all (in your case), and I'm sharing my PERSONAL point of view. Everyone has a different life and carries different memories, emotions, traumas and experiences, but all these things must remain behind us, in the past - and our goal is to live in the present and focus on the future, we just accept things and blows, the bitter truth of life and we only strive forward, because if we open the door back and if we are too harassed and tormented by the past, we will give him the freedom to be here with us, in the present and to influence our emotions, on our way of life and our thinking. Eunice Everyone has a different life and carries different memories, emotions, traumas and experiences, but all these things must remain behind us, in the past - and our goal is to live in the present and focus on the future, we just accept things and blows, the bitter truth of life and we only strive forward, because if we open the door back and if we are too bothered and tormented by the past, we will give him the freedom to be here with us, in the present and to influence our emotions, on our way of life and our thinking. Eunice Everyone has a different life and carries different memories, emotions, traumas and experiences, but all these things must remain behind us, in the past - and our goal is to live in the present and focus on the future, we just accept things and blows, the bitter truth of life and we only strive forward, because if we open the door back and if we are too harassed and tormented by the past, we will give him the freedom to be here with us, in the present and to influence our emotions, on our way of life and our thinking. Eunice because if we open the door back and if we are too harassed and tormented by the past, we will give him the freedom to be here with us, in the present and to influence our emotions, our way of life and our thinking. Eunice because if we open the door back and if we are too harassed and tormented by the past, we will give him the freedom to be here with us, in the present and to influence our emotions, our way of life and our thinking. Eunice
It's your fault. Especially if you've found the person who will appreciate you as the biggest flower, but lost it because of your ... unconscious state. Many girls at this age do it - they do not know what they want and lose a lot ... A LOT!
Hello, author, never share where you are from :) I will write you something and I am 24 years old and I grew up without a father, but I accepted the fact, besides, I differ from you in that I did not allow of the garbage (only such revolved around me) to deceive and use me, I stood aside and kept myself, I built my values, I am a strong and independent girl, I fight as much as I can, I strongly believe that I will be able to fight for my love, I believe only in her, the only one for life. I know it won't be easy, but that's how it was written ... :) PP. And I noticed something, as if people were sniffing, for example, some miserable people were spinning all my life, and decent boys were running away with all their might. And I've never been a complex or grumbling or anything ...
Here is a person who can really get into my situation. I shared my grief here because I have been having a lot of problems lately. For a year I was very much in love with a boy and convinced that it was mutual. In it I saw the support I had always missed. Tamman was sure he would get it, and he cut me off with the words that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship yet, he was still young, he didn't know what would come of it and the like. I'm not yesterday and I know that's the answer when they don't want a relationship with you. I'm in a hell of a lot of pain, and when I realized that he was now with another, for whom he had put a lot of effort, an arrow pierced my heart. I try not to give up and show disinterest, but it doesn't work at all. I don't know how long I will suffer. This wound will never heal, and if I don't take an hour to heal myself, I'm afraid I will hurt myself. I'm desperate. It hurts me because I don't have really close people to give me advice, but only a few girlfriends who pretend to be very worried in front of me, and I learned that they discuss me and rejoice in my pain behind the scenes. Nowadays, no one can be trusted.
I have been living without my parents since I was 16 ... it just so happened. They did not abandon me, but live abroad. I have never been close to my father and he did not take a direct part in my development as a person. My thought is that you are not the only one in this situation ... there are millions of children and there will continue to be. STOP PITYING YOURSELF and take matters into your own hands. It's your problem, and it's your fault that you let men treat you like that. If you do not start building yourself as a strong person, both your father and mother will not be able to help you! And for men ... obviously you don't know where to look for the right ones :) G. 19