I'm 23, I'm a scholar, I study (programming) most of the time, I'm not the type of man who goes to discos and bars, yells, screams and pushes. I've tried to behave like that, but it doesn't come from inside and it looks ridiculous and funny. I accepted the idea that I was not like that and I live like that. I live alone, I clean myself, I prepare my own food, in a sense I don't look at the woman as a maid nor do I wait for my mother to cook and clean for me, I say that because I read the site and I think there are a lot of such men. I don't have a car because honestly it's not the most important thing to me at the moment. I don't travel much, and I prefer to walk around the city and move a little than to hang in traffic jams. My parents could have bought me a car, but I don't want everything in my life to be at their expense. I don't have a boyfriend. In fact, I never had. I do not think, that I am ugly because over the years there have been girls who liked me, but because of my extreme shame, I did nothing and everything went and went. So I think my problem is shame, not appearance. Yes, but it can't go on like this forever. I've been trying to meet girls lately, but they still don't like me. Obviously I have to look for one of my type - to be shy and quiet. How and where Because those I meet around town are more open than me and are looking for another type of man. How and where? Because those I meet around town are more open than me and are looking for another type of man. How and where? Because those I meet around town are more open than me and are looking for another type of man.
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I wonder where to find guys like you ... the obvious answer is not to be in clubs and stuff. I would suggest you to walk more in parks, malls, just on the streets. It's nice to talk to girls. The fact that they cut once or twice does not mean anything. After looking for a quiet and meek, of course do not go to a girl whose clothes leave nothing to the imagination (although you must be attracted to such). Ask them, for example, how to get somewhere and if they seem kind to you, you can also try to talk to them about other things and so on ... good luck! Girl of 17
Not shy, but with similar interests and worldview you should look for. Where do you feel good? You prefer walks - look for walking girls in the same places as you. You will probably prefer a picnic instead of restaurants, look there. You are a scholar - I look in libraries, bookstores, you can always start a conversation about a certain book / textbook without seeing it as insolence. Forums for people with similar interests. I have met an awful lot of people in forums (in several languages) but I put a picture of two twisted ankles because a particle happens (quite elegantly and respectfully, without a gram of vulgarity and / or impudence) to sign or offer more acquaintance. And that's simply because we talk about common topics, but almost no one has personal photos. Otherwise, in another forum we met people with whom we go to the mountains, for example. Very important: be YOU the way you are, don't wear masks, don't exaggerate (90% of men do it and then wonder why women dump them when they see that it's not what they pretended to be in the beginning). So, like you tried up my type of man and I know a lot of women too. If you include a little sport (running, climbing, fitness ... whatever, just for health and tone you show respect and discipline to your own body). Success! just for health and tone you show respect and discipline to your own body). Success! just for health and tone you show respect and discipline to your own body). Success!
There are shy girls, but I see a tendency that boys are looking for more cocky and open girls and somehow the more modest ones are invisible, fading among the others. I speak from experience because I, because of my shyness, have almost no experience with boys, but I think that someday someone will have the desire to figure out my nature. All in good time, they will appreciate you one day.
Surely this girl is standing somewhere and just like you is wondering where, how and when she will find a boy like you. It's time to decide if you want to find her, or if she wants to find you, and if you will act, or just live your life until you meet her. Don't worry about interacting with different people. Somewhere, from common acquaintances, quite by chance, the girl in question will appear.
First, visit a psychologist to boost your self-esteem. Second - go to a sport, gym or other. Third - when the time comes you will meet her :) Me
Here, judging by the topics - it's full of such, there is even a topic 'boys, do you like shy girls? 'But, hey, it's anonymous. And in reality it's not more open. Shy, pretending to be sociable, sociable (not to mention - bloody), who pretend to be shy ... It feels like there is no formula, be good at 'reading' people. I am in the woods, in the parks, in the library and at home, but I am older than you, and I have given up looking for a sincere man, and in general ... sincere and worthy people, capable of love. * By 'shy' nowadays, I mean - normal behavior, to be yourself without playing theater. However, know that this is not enough for a relationship, because these characteristics are enough, only, for their owner to be a real person, not a copy imposed by someone ... (not to go into details about the world order) . For a relationship you need - a person capable of reciprocity in every respect - what you give - to receive. Without despairing, reciprocity is like a chimera, unless you are also insensitive, then you will be content with mediocre relationships like most people. What are you, author? - age, profession and vision do not describe you enough. Cars, money, career ... develop materially (for yourself and your future family, for charity), but it's not just that, it's all energy, you included. Pay attention to things beyond matter. author? - age, profession and vision do not describe you enough. Cars, money, career ... develop materially (for yourself and your future family, for charity), but it's not just that, it's all energy, you included. Pay attention to things beyond matter. author? - age, profession and vision do not describe you enough. Cars, money, career ... develop materially (for yourself and your future family, for charity), but it's not just that, it's all energy, you included. Pay attention to things beyond matter.
Sign up for dancing. I'm the same as you (I've been working in the IT field and I've been programming since I was 15). Dancing helped me a lot to socialize. I signed up for swing because Latin dances seemed too "soft" to me, but now I'm considering enrolling in Latin, because dancing in general is fun and I've already reached a level where I don't care what I look like.
And I'm very shy. It's hard for me to get involved in conversations, I'm constantly worried. 5 months ago I caught a boyfriend on the Internet, because it makes it easier for me to relax. I see him every 2 months for a few days. It is still difficult for me to relax completely, because this is my first relationship and everything with me is for the first time: D. But I hope that I will be able to overcome this shame, I wish it to you as well. I am too silent and quiet, so it is difficult for me to be among other people, because the most frequently asked question is: "Why are you silent?" It's hard to be different.
And I'm just like TVB looking for and I can't find ... be more open, guys. Talk to us
Number 11 - It doesn't happen that way, because when you do it and you face an inadequate and insulting attitude because you are proactive and sociable, you don't do it anymore.