Hello people! I see that you are all very kind here and help each other, so I hope you will help me too. My story is probably not that serious, but for me, it is an unsolvable mystery. I am 17 years old and life is probably ahead of me.
My problem is that I don't know which way to go. I don't know what to do with my life. I am something like the most responsible in my company and I help everyone with reasonable answers to their questions about love, life, or something else. (I'm not bragging, but they just always tell me that I help them a lot on these issues and I accept that they are sincere). The bad thing is that I say what I think, but not what I feel. Sometimes I feel like I'm 70 years old, not 17. I feel like I've lived my life and now I have a long break, but it's not a weave. Now is the time, in which I have to decide what my place should be in this life and what I should strive for, but I have no idea about it. I am now in the 11th grade and I am graduating next year, and I don't know if I will continue to study or not, I don't know what. If I decide to do one thing today, I will do something completely different tomorrow, and I always wander between such extremes that have nothing to do with each other and I have nothing to hold on to. I don't even want to have a boyfriend, which is very strange at my age. I've never had a long-term relationship and I don't see the point in that. I've never loved anyone, and I think it's still too early for that. I think I have so much time to do everything I want, but I don't even know what it is.
All my friends have at least one idea about their lives, but when they ask me what my idea is, I have no idea. I have the feeling that in the end I will have to solve many problems at once and I will choose the stupidest solutions. I don't want this to happen, but I think that whatever I choose in the next moment I will always find something better and I will want to choose it, but it will be too late. I also don't know why it always happens that I can answer all the questions except the ones I ask myself. I also don't know why I'm so fickle. Will this change at all or will I go in so many different directions all my life? I really respect everyone's ability to change and look for a better way, but when that change is combined with impermanence, it's not good.
I can't be so fickle all my life and I don't want to, but I don't know how to change it, because whenever I want to change ... I change ..., but it's too often. Please do not tell me what I want, but how to find out what it is. I really hope you help me. :)
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Your problem is that you think about it all the time. Stop doing it and live your life because it is really in front of you. Everything will be fine, do not be afraid.
How much you look like my daughter. You are smart, focus on psychology. This can definitely be your profession as you get smarter and find yourself. Take more responsibilities to be happy with yourself, not to get bored. Don't be afraid if you don't choose your life, he will choose you.
Hi, I'm 22 years old and when I was your age I thought the same way as you. Even for boyfriends. They are not the most important thing in this life! Teenage love is beautiful, but very vulnerable! Don't worry! Everything with time! Success!
Number 1 is completely right, but if you still fail, just find something to hold on to and be interested in. Think about the saying that love works wonders.
You really think too much. At this age, it is normal to be fickle and not yet know what you want out of life. I am graduating at the age of 18 and I still don't know what I will do from now on. But the more I think, the more I get to a dead end. So don't think but act.
Look at yourself, dear child, because somewhere inside you lies the answer to your question. Trust your inner voice and follow it confidently and without fear - it will surely lead you on the right path! Be happy and have faith! I also have a slight feeling that you already know what to do, but the most important thing is to believe in yourself, good luck!