I'm so confused that I don't know where to start - from the beginning or from the unknown end. At 19, I grew up without any love. I only felt the love from my ex-boyfriend, with whom we have been separated for more than 3 years. The reason for our separation is in me, I did something very mean and I know that there is no going back. I cheated on him out of stupidity and later I get what I deserve. Now I am with a man I don't love and he doesn't deserve me in any way, but he connects us with something for life - OUR CHILD !!! He is now 2 years old, but he understands that his father does not love him and does everything just like that. Everything was fine until I gave birth, then his parents intervened. I haven't had a moment of peace since then, I'm the black sheep. They are always dissatisfied with everything, they always try to correct me in every case, especially when it comes to the child. My husband, of course, is still a mother's child and he can't understand that he already has another family, he is constantly waiting for everything to be ready. In most cases, I feel sorry for him because I am without parental support, but I am fighting for the life I have had. Before, it hurt me when he called me a blockbuster and a bunch of other insults in public, when he attacked me, and now he does it, but it doesn't hurt me, I'm indifferent !!! My child only gives me strength, which is everything for me, but I am not the ideal mother, because of the daily mental harassment I do not have the strength sometimes. All I know is that I have to get out of this house where I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ?? constantly waiting for everything to be ready. In most cases, I feel sorry for him because I am without parental support, but I am fighting for the life I have had. Before, it hurt me when he called me a blockbuster and a bunch of other insults in public, when he attacked me, and now he does it, but it doesn't hurt me, I'm indifferent !!! My child only gives me strength, which is everything for me, but I am not the ideal mother, because of the daily mental harassment I do not have the strength sometimes. All I know is that I have to get out of this house where I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ??? constantly waiting for everything to be ready. In most cases, I feel sorry for him because I am without parental support, but I am fighting for the life I have had. Before, it hurt me when he called me a blockbuster and a bunch of other insults in public, when he attacked me, and now he does it, but it doesn't hurt me, I'm indifferent !!! My child only gives me strength, which is everything for me, but I am not the ideal mother, because of the daily mental harassment I do not have the strength sometimes. All I know is that I have to get out of this house where I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ??? when he called me blockchain and a bunch of other insults in public, when he attacked me, and now he does it, but it doesn't hurt me, I'm indifferent !!! My child only gives me strength, which is everything for me, but I am not the ideal mother, because of the daily mental abuse I do not have the strength sometimes. All I know is that I have to get out of this house where I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ??? when he called me blockchain and a bunch of other insults in public, when he attacked me, and now he does it, but it doesn't hurt me, I'm indifferent !!! My child only gives me strength, which is everything for me, but I am not the ideal mother, because of the daily mental harassment I do not have the strength sometimes. All I know is that I have to get out of this house where I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ??? which I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ??? which I have been unwanted from the beginning. But when ... I can't live with such a person, but I still don't have the courage to say no !!! I hope I find the courage soon .... I hope, but then where ???
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What you need to do is change the status quo and leave this person despite all the difficulties and responsibilities you will take on by being alone for a while. You are young and even though you have a child, life is in front of you, do not let him just descend into a state of constant discomfort and hope for something better - you must act boldly and uncompromisingly! There are so many men who would do anything for you, but for this you have to break away from the nightmare in which you live and find your happiness! Personally, I am a 39-year-old man and I hate men who humiliate and insult their halves - that's why I think you should overcome your fear and say goodbye to him!
Everyone would advise you to divorce, but this is an escape you can ALWAYS do. But why not play on the "psycho" impact. Experiment, find a way to get under his skin / but do not put emotion to have an effect / You know these people well, think about what attitude you want and how to win it. Never share your personal things too much / like previous relationships / Keep in mind that now you live for your child, and when he turns 14 he will turn his back on you / sucks / and then you will die, what? Think about what you expect to see in this life and pursue it. You are there and thousands are like you and fighting. Invent your strategy !!!
Thank you very much for the advice you gave me and for your support.
You gave me a lot of good advice!
Get out of this place! I experienced the same thing. I got out of there. It's hard but I'm better!
If you want advice, it is to leave him, because there will come a time when your child will grow up and leave you, and you will stay with this man and live a life of harassment. This is my advice.
I endured such an attitude and after 25 years of marriage I decided, but very late. I am now 50, in very poor health, lonely, homeless, unemployed, useless to anyone.
I HAVE BEEN LIVING IN THIS AD FOR 10 YEARS. RUN WHILE IT'S TIME, THEN IT'S TOO LATE, YOUR CHILD WILL BE MOST ATTACHED TO HIS FATHER. I TESTED IT ON MY OWN BACK AND NOW I AM TERRIBLY SORRY THAT I DIDN'T MAKE THIS DECISION MUCH EARLIER. I THINK IT'S LATE NOW MY LIFE HAS ALREADY FAILED. GOOD LUCK!!!!
Get out while you are young and have the strength to fight! I am 30 years old with 3 children. I can hardly stand my husband (the "drunk stories" known to most Bulgarian women). My two children are still young and I am not working at the moment, we live with my mother. All I want from my life is to have my own home and live only with my children there. I have the strength and I feel like leaving with the children, but I have nowhere to go. I understand that children should have two parents, but I don't know what kind of upbringing a parent will give them, who prefers cups to playing with their children every night. If your spouse has not grown up and realized so far, then he will not change. And the fact that he calls you rubbish and encroaches on you can tell you what kind of person he is. Run because everyone must be loved!
Take your child and run, and even better if you can throw him out of the house. It will ruin your life and the health and psyche of the child. True, it is very difficult to be divorced and raise a child alone, but many women have died from bullying, but none have died because they are divorced! I raised them alone 2. And I met a wonderful person. Run while it's time, while you're young and you have more chances. I threw him out of our house mercilessly after 13 years of marriage and I have never been so free and I have never been so goth!
There are institutions that can help you - you and your child, give you temporary shelter, help you find a job, a job and get back on your feet. Even if it doesn't bother you when there is mental harassment, you can seek such help. Don't give up girl, fight, fight for happiness for you and the child. I can't give you the exact address of such an organization at the moment, but just search the internet and don't give up! There are many like you.
The police station will tell you what protection rights you have. I don't know if there is a place to go and live, but get out of there as soon as possible. I am a man of 38. There are many such bastards. Do not give up.
Run while it's time. My mother has been married to my father for 20 years and there have been insults (and in front of me), and swearing (on his part towards her) and hair pulling and infidelity (on his part)! I tell her to divorce him- I am 20 years old, I will not take it hard on the contrary, it will even make it easier for me. I want my mother to be happy! And when I look at his aggression, I unconsciously copy him and that prevents me from sewing! I wish you success!
What does it mean "I don't have the courage to leave him !!!" And don't you feel sorry for the child ?! It should not live in such an environment !? At least think about it, if you don't have a drop of dignity and you don't feel sorry for yourself. Yes, there are hotlines for women victims of violence. They will support you there. Please women, do not tolerate violence! For the sake of your children, do not tolerate it!
I wonder how people don't learn at all from the nonsense of others ... the above story happens all the time and the whole drama is the same every time I grew up in such a family - where my mother "sacrificed" to tolerate such a man, and he does not understand that this brings up children in stress and depression ... All this sacrifice for the child is a great excuse for stupidity and the lack of a clear priority in life. This is the truth. And at this age 20 - it's no problem to start life from scratch! People do it at 30 and 40