Hello .. I don't know if this is the place but I just found this site and decided to share my problem here. My husband and I are a young family that wants to have children. However, our problem hides many problems related to the potency of my partner, which I will not describe in detail but will simply say in two words. My husband had a bad accident after which he could not fertilize me. I don't like the idea of in vitro and I don't want to be artificially fertilized like him. If you understand me correctly, at least I insist on a woman's natural fertilization. I am 24 years old and I am a young woman, I am neither ugly nor anything to complicate me. Our problem is that we do not know who to turn to and exactly where. In dating sites it is simply not possible to find a donor for our desired child. As I told you, I do not want to get pregnant artificially, but normally. Maybe there is a solution to the problem somewhere but we don't know where and how to do it. If you understand me naturally what I mean. I do not want the comments of various young people who will offer me sex, etc. Don't think I'm looking for a tramp or a man for pleasure. I just want to get pregnant normally, that is, from sexual intercourse between a potent man and a woman. My husband also agrees and this is something that will harm our marriage. Just give me advice that is more competent and will help us solve the problem .. Thank you in advance, but only to those who will advise me and not to kill me or comment on me as neighborhood grandmothers. I just want to get pregnant normally, that is, from sexual intercourse between a potent man and a woman. My husband also agrees and this is something that will harm our marriage. Just give me advice that is more competent and will help us solve the problem .. Thank you in advance, but only to those who will advise me and not to kill me or comment on me as neighborhood grandmothers. I just want to get pregnant normally, that is, from sexual intercourse between a potent man and a woman. My husband also agrees and this is something that will harm our marriage. Just give me advice that is more competent and will help us solve the problem .. Thank you in advance, but only to those who will advise me and not to kill me or comment on me as neighborhood grandmothers.
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You are a terribly selfish person! You don't think about anyone, especially your husband, yourself and the "donor". Whatever accident your husband has had, there are probably live sperm in his testicles that can be removed by doctors and your egg fertilized. Otherwise, I hope the story is made up! You do not love your husband, you do not want to give him a chance for your children and in fact you do not care about the child - you just want unprotected sex with another man regardless of the consequences.
In the pregnancy you want, first your partner has the same rights over the child as yourself. A second such child can be made for years and usually does not happen at once. Thirdly, the risks of infection when you run into a stranger are quite high, and so on.
One piece of advice from me - if you don't want to be insulted (for God's sake, you're 24, learn to write correctly!), Don't start with the insults first ("neighborhood grandmothers") !! What do you want me to tell you - give ads, do interviews, choose a breeder and you're done! But insure yourself with a contract that the breeder will not have claims for parental rights. Don't you expect that there is a state organization that offers a solution to problems like yours! ???
Number 3 - there is no such contract. It is insignificant because it is immoral. For example, buying bread is a kind of oral contract between the saleswoman and you, but there can be no such in terms of bed services, because prostitution is prohibited in our country. It is the same with the Author - she CANNOT make the father of a child give it up in writing. Such things are decided by the court, published in the State Gazette
Number 4, I'm number 3. Maybe you're right, I'm not sure. But why then will the (pre) marriage contracts be completely LEGAL, in which the (future) spouses agree on WHAT they want - for example, all the property to remain in one after the divorce, which is CONTRARY to the law - in this case without agreement the property is common !? Such an agreement, when you think about it, also sounds immoral (from where to where only one will stay! ??), but if they have agreed so formally and by mutual consent ... I'm just asking. But a lawyer knows this - to ask him / her! I wanted to remind the author that there are legal consequences to her desire!
Number 4, it's me again, number 3. I thought about something else - if a woman sleeps once with a man (I just give an example) and gets pregnant and DOES NOT TELL HIM and this man NEVER understands, he can not have parental rights !? ? Do you think that ALL fathers in the world know that they HAVE BECOME LIKE THAT! ???? It depends ONLY on the woman whether they will understand! She can always agree to get pregnant by someone, to LIE to him that she failed after, say, 2-3 months, to say that she is not happy with his services and to lose him. Come on now, tell me, how can such a man: 1. Understand that she is pregnant (especially if she changes city / state)? 2. Accordingly, he has parental rights, since he does NOT even KNOW that he has become a parent ???
Number 4, and how are things with surrogate mothers - and isn't that true, because it's immoral! ??? It is found in many parts of the world and is legal. She remembered the Michael Jackson children and their surrogate mother, who had no GRAM rights over them ...
This is a big whim. I seem very old-fashioned as I still think that children in a family should be created out of love between the two spouses. After all, isn't that the point of having a family? It is clear that love between you exists, but I do not understand why, since your husband is willing to make such a sacrifice, you are not willing to compromise and even try the offer from comment 1? The story written in this way is judged by the fact that you just want someone to scratch you and make you squeal and, oh my God, to become a mother.
What is your problem, author, if you are young, healthy and not ugly? just find a lover, have sex while you get pregnant and lose it without telling him about the baby. say you don't want to ruin your family, love your husband, etc.
Find an acquaintance of yours who agrees to do it and will not want the child later :)
So, it doesn't matter to you if you get pregnant, but HOW will you get pregnant? !! What if you find a donor and you don't get pregnant again? Don't you think this always happens? What are you going to do, then? Will you change the donor? Personally, I deeply doubt that anyone will agree to "breed" you just like that, without consequences. In the "best" case, this can be done for a fee. Surely you need a lawyer, too, to "staple" the deal firmly. I sincerely advise you - for you and your future child, good - to focus on "in vitro". If your husband does not have live sperm, you will still be "inseminated" by a donor. You will even be able to choose it. What you are describing is super immoral - both to the child and to the donor, and will certainly have consequences.
We also experienced a fictional story with an extremely sexual connotation in the HEALTH category ... I don't know why you are bound to comment, and the author of this party is now rubbing his dick and imagining his wife with various foreign men.
Ha ha you cried to your husband that you want to get pregnant naturally and he is tied up. The whole truth is that you want to cheat without consequences, even with your husband's consent. And what do you think that the semen, when it is fit, will hit you in the forehead, or that the children are made in 2 minutes at a time? !? What have I not seen on the site, but your husband and he ranks in the charts, and you are just an example of which men will continue to complain that women were such and such!
If you ask me, find a man who can do what you want. Do not listen to the comments here and the choice is yours and only you decide how to be fertilized. Don't go overboard with dumb cans. The woman just wants to be fertilized naturally, that is, one fucking and cumming of the chosen one would do a good job. What are these grandmothers nines. She would not get pregnant on the first try. Well, if she's 40 or 50 years old, a whole ton of semen may not fertilize you. After all, we are talking about a young woman of 24 years. In my opinion, even better sex would fertilize you. Of course, choose a young man with more hormones, a mandatory examination with all doctors and if possible an athlete, that is, not to drink and smoke for your own good is the same as for your future child. You seem to choose for yourself and do not listen to stupid aunts and grandmothers with moral advice and nonsense.
Number 16, I'm 27 years old and I'll just tell you that you're super incompetent ... you're either 15 or you're talking enough to stay awake! Such women as the author are called debauchers, whores and the like ... As I said, the sperm will not hit her on the forehead, it will be no different from her husband! Better to divorce and let the man find a woman who deserves it!
Number 16, "a younger man with more hormones" may throw sperm with terrible force, but that sperm doesn't do any work. I support number 15, this is exactly my opinion !! What about "natural fertilization" - doesn't that include the baby being conceived with love! I wonder how your husband will enjoy your child! She would look at him fondly and remember that you had sex with someone else, and that this was not really his child.
Hello! I am a married man from Sofia, but we cannot have a child. I love my wife, but she drinks secretly from me because she wants me to have a child, and she can't give me one. I'm tall 1, 72, Capricorn, graduate. If you are interested in a non-committal / as a start / creation of a child, write to
It's complicated. Try to find an intelligent man. If you are 24 years old, it will not be difficult to find someone young aged 20-30. It is not appropriate to place ads. It is good to have a conversation with him to see: - character, intelligence - physical data. So far so good, it remains to find a way to meet him. He should not be known or close, this can complicate things. It's kind of good to know your role in this story. Second important requirement - to do medical tests - blood for sexually transmitted diseases - spermatogram to determine if there is a real chance to fertilize you The hard part is how to meet him. As I mentioned, it's not a good idea if it's too close. Like someone, make friends with them. If you like it, offer it or just say that you want a non-committal relationship and that it can end up in you (supposedly on contraceptives). If your husband doesn't mind, act.
What about adopted children, did you think that they were also conceived naturally? In any case, he will not be the biological father, at least you will not be the biological mother, at least it will be fair to him. You will save yourself a lot of headaches by looking for a donor. I still don't see who will agree to have a child so that he doesn't see it all his life. Also, if you change your mind at some point and decide to seek your rights, you will get angry.
And what comes out? You do not agree with artificial insemination, there is a separate issue that it is a matter of costs and it does not always happen the first time, but you are addicted to ... trampling a stranger while you get pregnant? There are interesting people in this world.