Hi Girl I'm 16 and I like a boy in my class. The problem is, I don't think he likes me either. I always try to start a conversation, but only I try to keep the conversation going. He never writes to me, and when I write to him, the dialogue doesn't last very long. There is another boy who likes me, but the problem is that I don't like him as much as the other one. I like it again, but if I had to choose between the two, I would choose the one in my class. What to do? Should I try to please this boy (how?) Or go with the other one?
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If you don't like him, you better not be with him. The other boy, if he doesn't like you, maybe you're not his type. There is time, you will like another boy who will respond to your feelings. When I was your age, I also liked girls who, however, did not respond to my feelings. Sometimes love is complicated.
I want to advise you not to try to please a boy or a man just to be with him. This mistake is made by many people because they are only interested in attracting the person, instead of thinking about whether I should be with that person, whether the relationship can last, etc. When you put on a "mask", not only physical but also mental , you start playing a "game" in which you try to keep it as much as possible for fear of being repelled when it comes down. My advice is to invite one of the boys on a date, I know it's a man's usual duty, but there's nothing shameful about a girl doing it. If you want to have a full and long-term relationship, you must be as sincere as possible with the person you are meeting. This way you will be able to find out if he is also sincere and honest. The most important thing is to fight with your carnal desires and NOT to choose people by appearance. This applies to both sexes by the way.
And then the boy who will hurt you not to say that everyone is the same
Aren't you tired of making an effort for someone who doesn't appreciate them? As long as you put flies in your head and give the other boy a chance. I suspect that you will not succeed again, of course, because you are obviously more of a dreamer and you are easily attached to fantasies, instead of seeing reality as it is. In my opinion, finally admit your feelings to the boy you like and he will share his. Then you will know whether he likes you or not and if you do not have a chance with him you will feel freer to move on.
And why do you have to go with someone? Isn't this a deadly disease? Are you saying that if you don't go with at least one, you will die? I'm very sorry and I hope you get better! :)
Don't do anything by force! Don't try to please the boy in your class, he obviously doesn't share your feelings of sympathy. Don't even try to like the boy who is in love with you. You could get to know him, and eventually feelings of attraction could develop, but if it turns out that you just want to be friends, it will be painful for him, because he obviously has a thrill for you. That's why I advised you not to try to do anything. When the time comes, you will not need to make any effort. The boy who will fall in love with you will show it to you openly and you will not doubt his feelings. Wait for the right one, don't rush the connections. My first serious relationship happened when I was 22. F, 24 years old.
You talk as if it is obligatory to go with one of the two and the question is with whom, not so. Don't go with people you don't like and don't push those who don't like you. It's simple. Try with the boy in your class, tell him how you feel and if he doesn't answer you, the right way for him, stay alone and wait for someone with whom everything will be shared.
Hello, I am the author. Thanks for the advice. I just want to clarify some things. It is not said that I have to go with someone. I just shared how I feel 2nd with this boy we are in the same class for about 3 weeks - a month somewhere. I think there's a chance he just doesn't know me that well yet. When we talk, I just don't know what to tell him sometimes. 3rd some of you said to wait and I will meet the right one, but the problem is that I do not know where to meet new people Thanks in advance :)
One of the places where you can meet new people is in different clubs. For example, you like to cook - you go to a cooking club. You love to paint - a painting club, etc. I will advise you not to go to discos, nightclubs or bars to look for love, not that it is not possible just the chance there is much smaller.
Instead of thinking about my boy, push your rags to study!
I don't go to discos and I know that about clubs and I've tried the ones that interest me, but I haven't found anyone. So other ideas and also ideas of what I can talk about with the boy in my class. The only thing I know I like is going to the gym (please no ideas to go to the gym together)
Just to clarify that I study number 11
First, don't choose beauty, if the one in your class is a crumb or a muffin, whatever you call him, I wouldn't choose him, and if you want to like a boy, be yourself, don't pretend to be something you are not. If you like it, if there are no others -A
Fight for what you want.