Hello, My story is long, but I will try to tell it briefly. I had a friend with whom I lived for 8 years. We loved each other a lot, we lived well, the only problems we had were his jealousy and the European football he played. Our sex life was boring (it's my fault here, I didn't want to try new things, somehow I didn't like it, it was all a matter of habit). One summer day I met a boy I was dating in my school years and things happened. We slept together, then we started writing and hearing and fell in love. Our feelings were mutual. After 4 months of suffering and crying, I broke up with my friend. The other boy and I kept hearing and seeing, he has serious intentions. My ex-boyfriend and I didn't stop talking either. He kept calling and harassing me mentally, he wanted us to get back together, until one day I found out that he was corresponding with another girl and at the same time he wanted us to meet again. He says he has no feelings for her, but calls her with kind words. I'm very confused. I don't know which of the two to choose. I don't know how I feel about my ex-boyfriend - I'm angry that there is another, some kind of friendly love or affection. He comes from a good family, but I don't enjoy having sex with him. We have moved away for 4 months and I don't know if we will be able to get closer as before. I tell him I love him and I don't know if I feel it. My feelings for the other boy are not the same (in the beginning there was a huge thrill, now we want each other again but it's not so strong). I really enjoy talking, we do a lot of things together, I need and want to hear it. I don't know who I feel for. Is the second one a momentary falling in love (we've been seeing each other for eight months now) and the fact that our sex is going well. Do I still love my ex-boyfriend. I am tormented by the thought of having to sleep with him. I'm not mentally ready and I don't know if I can give him what he wants (and what I can easily give to the other boy). I tell him I love him, but I don't know if I feel it and it's easier for me to tell the other person. How do I know which one I love?
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Whoever you choose, in 2-3 months you will find a new one, then another one, etc. You are obviously one of those women who never have enough of a man. Your story confirms one of my principles, which I have built for a long time - if a girl lets me go on a first date, I lose it directly.
Whatever you feel for both of them, abandon your ex completely, because obviously something is wrong with him to harass you and at the same time flirt with others. Stay with this boy if you're okay with him. Whether you are light or not you know what you want is another question, what is another topic, but in this situation I tell you that you must erase this 8 years from your memory and continue with the other boy. Good luck.
Falling in love is like an hourglass filling your heart emptying your head then the result is horrible. Learn to distinguish between love and falling in love, otherwise you will change men all your life.
Oh, I see infantilisms again (number 1). How did you decide that the girl would still be looking for new thrills, given that she had been with one for 8 years ... And why do you let the girls go on the 1st date, m? You seem to be out of your mind, too.
First you have to be aware of yourself, then choose !!! What do you expect? !? The rest here to tell you how you feel or what to do? !? It's funny, tighten up
I will tell you only one main thing that has been proven to you. If you have a relationship and another person appears (so to speak, a second boy) and you are wondering and hesitating who to choose, then choose the second. This is because if you love the first one too much and you are sure that you want him, then you would never think of another, let alone sleep with him or love him. That's why I always choose the second, if I was sure of my feelings for the first, then there would be no second or at least I wouldn't allow it. It's good that the second boy has known you since school, but as far as I understand you were together, obviously as children or teenagers, but did not mention the reason for your separation, if it is serious, then it will happen again, if it was something small, so it can happen now, but once you've split up, it will happen again, but in this case it is not good to choose the first one if you do not like sex and even more so that it deals with another. He tells you that he has no feelings for her, and he explains to her in love, so he tells her that you are just an ex and doesn't want you anymore, and at the same time he tells you that he loves you. . At the moment he is waiting, obviously he cares more about you, but the other girl is his reserve in case you dump him, he has someone next to him. Or he may want to show that he is liked and that you are not the only one who likes him. In my opinion, even if you get together, he will still write to the other one, so you can choose my advice. Otherwise, to number 1 I want to mention that he tells you you let him on the first date and that he should lose you, but dear number 1, the author says that they know each other from students, supposedly this was not their first date, they know who they are.
Quote from a women's forum - "Last night I cried all night. Can anyone tell me why?" Putting the joke aside, in such situations you ask either the heart or the brain. Once your heart gives conflicting signals, take a piece of paper and write about each of them in two columns - what you like and what you don't like.
The problem is as much in you as in the one you spent 8 years with. The problem with you is that you think the grapes are sour, especially when the routine occurs. This one from your school years is not to blame, because for him you are prey, that is, a girl of another boy and he has you as a trophy, but he feels that he has not won you completely, so you think he has serious intentions. The fault of the one you've been with for 8 years is that he pays attention to you at all. In his place, he must leave you alone and never care about you again. Sounds ridiculous that he was jealous, given that you put horns on him, do you understand that? So if I were in his place I would spit in my bosom and I would run away with 200, then you go and cheat on yourself and fill your gaps with whoever and however you want.
Number 1- took the words out of my mouth!
To number 4 I'm sorry, but to go out like this one day, to meet someone and things "happen" to you, sounds at least frivolous. Get tired of the new one in just a few months, too. And if you are very right, the girl who let me on the first date, can easily lose me, I'm not angry at all :)
Number 1 is very right about the first meeting. For the other - you definitely have to part with the first one for a number of reasons. The main reason, of course, is that nothing will ever be the same again. So far, if he is jealous, then from now on the person will probably never sleep peacefully if you get together again (here number 8 is very right - you fuck old acquaintances on the 1st date and complain that someone is jealous of you ??) . Sex didn't work and you both admit that you didn't want to try anything, you didn't like it and that's why you didn't pretend. How come you don't like something you don't even want to try? Apparently in sex you rely only on the initial thrill of the new partner and you will not like anyone when the relationship is more than a year old. This is another reason to let your old friend at least have a chance to have good sex with someone else. You've been together for 8 years and you haven't taken her to anything more serious - this definitely means that something is very lame in your relationship. I am in a similar situation (6 years of relationship) and I realize that if nothing happens in 6 years, it will not happen in 12. It will be good for you to think about this - what you were actually together for. Hence the question of what you will do together if you get together again. Will you loathe sex and tell him you love him without thinking about it? Will you like it that way? And for the new one - it is not known, time will tell. How do we know if you love him or is it a temporary thrill and especially if he loves you? It will be nice for you to think about what you were together for. Hence the question of what you will do together if you get together again. Will you loathe sex and tell him you love him without thinking about it? Will you like it that way? And for the new one - it is not known, time will tell. How do we know if you love him or is it a temporary thrill and especially if he loves you? It will be nice for you to think about what you were together for. Hence the question of what you will do together if you get together again. Will you loathe sex and tell him you love him without thinking about it? Will you like it that way? And for the new one - it is not known, time will tell. How do we know if you love him or is it a temporary thrill and especially if he loves you?
Abe number 10 (1), she has known him for YEARS! Can't you read and understand what is written! ??
And not only did she know him, but she went out with him during her school years! What sudden encounters, what spontaneous occurrences occur at number 10 (1) is not clear ... It is only clear that he cannot read or at least cannot understand a written text !!!
Who sits on two chairs - no big choice ...
If you love two at the same time, choose the second, because if you really loved the first, you would not fall in love with the second :)
Always choose the second (my advice personally), if you really loved the first you would not fall in love with the second! ;)