My boyfriend and I have been living outside Bulgaria for 3 months. We have been dealing with 7 years. But since we started living together, we definitely got to know each other much better. There are always a lot of new faces that I haven't seen before and I wonder what to do, I doubt my love for this person anymore. Ever since I came to live with him, he has relaxed a lot - when we fight, he starts hitting me .. Whatever he says should happen, he is capricious .. The other big problem is - HIS MOTHER! She doesn't like me. She constantly interferes in our relationships, blames me for our scandals. And he knows about the scandals from him .. He shares everything, they are often heard .. This just drives me crazy. I tried to talk to him, but she stands by her side. Before we lived together, she was much more respectful of me, but now that's not the case. What can I do, should I turn my back on everything? when I already have what I always wanted, to live one day with this man away from his family ... And to return to our rotten country and wander to find the right one. Or stay and hope this ever stops? And this mother-in-law to show understanding? When I imagine that we are parting, both my heart breaks and I feel relieved .. I am divided, I am confused ... All this came to me in many these 3 months - his mother, the beating, this attitude towards me ... I am expected such a turnaround for those years. I didn't imagine it that way, I'm terribly confused. I'm used to it and it's hard for me to make a decision, because if I put an end to it, it will be forever. Or stay and hope this ever stops? And this mother-in-law to show understanding? When I imagine that we are parting, both my heart breaks and I feel relieved .. I am divided, I am confused ... All this came to me in many these 3 months - his mother, the beating, this attitude towards me ... I am expected such a turnaround for those years. I didn't imagine it that way, I'm terribly confused. I'm used to it and it's hard for me to make a decision, because if I put an end to it, it will be forever. Or stay and hope this ever stops? And this mother-in-law to show understanding? When I imagine that we are parting, both my heart breaks and I feel relieved .. I am divided, I am confused ... All this came to me in many these 3 months - his mother, the beating, this attitude towards me ... I am expected such a turnaround for those years. I didn't imagine it that way, I'm terribly confused. I'm used to it and it's hard for me to make a decision, because if I put an end to it, it will be forever.
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Of course, the best advice is to leave it. I just don't understand how you've been together for 7 years and only now you live together, and you still don't understand what kind of person he is. I think you just closed your eyes until now and you didn't want to see the truth, but now that you are away from your loved ones and friends and you are alone there with him, you realize that he is not the man for you. This is not how things are done. In those 7 years, you should have been married or had a family and children, and you can't talk normally. Take yourself in your hands and leave it, and you continue your life clean. Success!
Tell him what you think and how you feel, and if he doesn't change, leave him
Poor thing, but what is a rapist for you !? Well, if he beats you to death one day and they find you. This is not good with the encroachment. That and his mother to endure. You will tolerate it well, but at least there would be no violence ... You probably think that you will not find another one if you are with him
Drop it and stay abroad. You have to work and find accommodation, from those who are divided by several people. I wouldn't let anyone hit me!
I understand you completely. I'm going through a similar situation right now. I chose to leave my friend. I am suffering at the moment, but I know that this is not my man for sure. The mother will continue to cause you problems and will get bigger with age. He will keep hitting you and getting worse. In the name of what will you tolerate this? Not to be alone? To be abroad and not in Bulgaria? Is it really all you wanted or is it what you thought you wanted? Many times I am convinced that there is a difference between what I think I want and what I really want. I wish you success with your choice! I believe you will make the right decision! Most importantly - do not let fear guide you! PS Escape does not solve the problems, but deepens them.
Don't let anyone hit you! You show weakness. A man who truly loves would never do that. I think you know what to do. Do not hesitate and choose the right choice. You are strong and you will manage. You need a little courage. Find someone who really respects you. Success!
"Should I turn my back on everything when I already have what I always wanted"? Well, no, just don't say that you dreamed of a husband who would beat you every time he didn't get bored !!!
Well, if it beats you = a domestic abuser ...
Well, what can I tell you, it's bad that it hits you. This will never stop. Leave it is not worth it.
Darling, don't be fooled that your mother-in-law will change. This is never going to happen. A person after the age of 25 does not change, let alone after the age of 50 (I guess his mother is over that age). But let's put the mother-in-law aside. There is another big problem here, it affects you. Such a thing is unacceptable. It is one thing for a person to be angry to shout, it is another to rush to beat. Do you want such a father for your children? What good can a father who beats his wife teach them? I think better children without a father than children with a father who beats his wife. Do not imagine that he will change. Probably after he hits you with a fart, he starts to feel sorry for you, asks you for forgiveness, tells you how much he loves you and swears that he will never touch you again. This is usually the case with squirrels who beat their wives. And then we whine when we hear the news that someone killed your wife. Well, that's how domestic violence begins. Petty insults turn into slaps, then into fists and in the most horrible cases, end with the death of the victim. Such a man does not deserve to have a wife. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. I do not understand how you are so able to tolerate such geeks for men, just not to be left alone. Come on, if it was just the mother-in-law, again. And he beats you and you wonder if you should leave him. She was used to ... Well, if you want to be with him, you will have to get used to the paint and the lack of respect for you. So I'm very angry when I see a girl with someone Ganyo harassing her, and she cries and whines that otherwise she will stand alone, that she will not find another and the like. Nonsense, the world is big, how many free and decent men there are. He doesn't have to be Bulgarian, it is important that he respects you, that you respect him and that you love each other. My evil mother-in-law separated us from my ex, she was a disgusting intriguer and a liar, but at least the ex was a decent boy. Mold, but a good man and despite all our scandals (90% created by his mother), he respected me and never touched me. I was very annoyed whether to leave him because I lived in post-foam stress because of his whole family, he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. My evil mother-in-law separated us from my ex, she was a disgusting intriguer and a liar, but at least the ex was a decent boy. Mold, but a good man and despite all our scandals (90% created by his mother), he respected me and never touched me. I was very annoyed whether to leave him because I lived in post-foam stress because of his whole family, he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. My evil mother-in-law separated us from my ex, she was a disgusting intriguer and a liar, but at least the ex was a decent boy. Mold, but a good man and despite all our scandals (90% created by his mother), he respected me and never touched me. I was very annoyed whether to leave him because I lived in post-foam stress because of his whole family, he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. but a good man and despite all our scandals (90% created by his mother), he respected me and never touched me. I was very annoyed whether to leave him because I lived in post-foam stress because of his whole family, he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. but a good man and despite all our scandals (90% created by his mother), he respected me and never touched me. I was very annoyed whether to leave him because I lived in post-foam stress because of his whole family, he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off. he promised me a lot that he would no longer allow anyone to intrude on our lives, but in the end we broke up. And we've been together for 10 years and sometimes I miss him. But at least I don't have to put up with his mother's insults anymore and I live in peace. Drop it, whether you will be in Bulgaria or abroad is not so important. It is important to get rid of this type. And if you are without him wherever you are, you will be better off.
You need to know that this will not change and it could get worse. It's not his mother's fault, it's his fault. These are things that only you two say, he and who knows how he presents things to her. And you have nothing to do to change it. Get out of there. The bad thing is that we women do not put ourselves in this number, but most women still fall for the inappropriate. I don't know how you fall in love with these complete oligophrenics. For me, a man must have qualities, if he shows a bad trait, if he does not improve, my feelings cool down. And you endure the fight. I do not know..