Slightly drunk, I start writing this story ... I needed a little more courage to make my debut among the authors of the stories here. And a debut is taking shape ... I am a girl, 21. I have had a serious relationship for a year now. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship and I think we get along great. I to him and he to me is the first partner with whom I have formed a serious relationship. And I would say that I love him ... I like to talk, I like to spend time with him, to sleep together. I understand him, just as he understands me. I would say that we have a deep emotional connection because we have revealed ourselves almost completely to each other. But something seems to be wrong ... I recently had a dream that I was cheating on him with one of his good friends. Don't think that I was secretly physically attracted to him - no, I'm not. Moreover, the friend in question is also engaged. The more serious reason that makes me think something is wrong is that I feel seduced by another of his friends. We have a lot of common interests with him - starting from education, through the way we dress, hobbies, music we listen to, talents ... Physically, this boy is inferior to my friend at times, but I can't explain why I wanted him. . I value this primary desire as a huge mistake of mine and I try to block it the moment it appears. My friend in question at a party wanted to kiss me, even though he knew I was the boyfriend of one of his closest friends ... Hasn't this desire of his still clung to my mind, making me feel wanted? ? What prevents me from stopping the vicious thoughts of infidelity and betrayal of the man closest to me? I realize how awful what I think is ... I would ask you to leave your comments. Be honest and direct. If the fault is only in me .. How can I fix it? I don't want to hurt anyone ...
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Familiar. Your relationship has ended. It's only a matter of time before you break up.
The fact that you dreamed means nothing, but the fact that you are constantly thinking means that the fly has entered your head. Give up while it's time. You will lose forever your current boyfriend, who according to your mind is a valuable person. It is possible that your possible affair with his "boyfriend" will grow into a relationship, but think about what kind of person he is when he reaches out to a friend's boyfriend. So, men may be weak angels, we may want to fuck everything feminine, but we have a principle of never looking and not touching a boyfriend of a friend, at least we are real men. He is a hypocrite, do not deal with him, because you will cry!
Don't listen to number 1, he doesn't know what he's talking about. It's just a dream and everyone has had such dreams while they were in a relationship and it's normal, as long as you don't really do it. And if someone denies or lies or it is only a matter of time before it happens.
You ask us to be direct and honest, so I will be like that, otherwise I try to be nice, but here we are quite anonymous. Girl, you are now one step closer to the release of a topic entitled "In love with his best friend", where you will be on a bottle of wine and you will be less oriented and aware than a German who happened to be in Pernik. You are not to blame for dreams, they are supposed to be part of a person's subconscious, but I can guarantee you that sometimes we all have completely illogical dreams. So, I never thought that a giant ladybug would chase me, I don't see how my subconscious has decided to shape it into a nightmare. I've been in a relationship for 3 years and I've had dreams with friends who have never really attracted me in the slightest. One cannot control such things, everything can happen in your dreams, they fall into fiction, what is important is what is reality. As for these thoughts and so on - a fly has entered your head, find the reason. Something you don't like about the relationship, do you have fears, worries? No man is perfect when we communicate, we find something pleasant in the one against us. My boyfriend and I don't have exactly the same taste for music, so I'm talking about music with my father or my best friend, with whom we agree and don't argue. This is normal, ideals are complete nonsense that hinders many relationships. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be absolutely everything to you and have no other people to match. The point is that if you love him, you accept him completely and you don't care much that you don't agree on everything. My boyfriend and I don't have the same style, we work in different fields, we read different genres, we relax in different ways, and that's never been a problem. It's even nice, because we give a chance to new things and get out of the comfort zone. It is normal to get along with other people and everything is fine until you want to be with another and feel sexually and emotionally attracted. I've had relationships with men we've been the same with ... a boring and sad story. Sit down, think a little about your feelings and try to understand what you want.
I think that both men and women have these thoughts in their heads. I don't believe no one was attracted to another person while they were in a serious relationship. It's normal, it happens. But first you have to think - is it worth it? Imagine being separated from your friend. If your first thought is - "Oh, I can't live without him" ... or something, don't cheat on him. Because for a brief pleasure, you can lose forever, a person who holds on to you and loves you. Even if he finds out about the infidelity and forgives you, staying together again will not be the same! Everything will have changed, forever. The pain in him will remain and for him you will no longer be - only his, faithful girl. I tell you this from personal experience.
N. 2 I quote you: ".... men may be with weak angels, we may want to fuck everything feminine, but we have a principle never to (look) touch a friend's boyfriend, at least we are real men." in these words of yours I agree except "let's not look." What if you are in a company for a while, won't you look at it again !? I suppose you mean not to look at her with sexual intent. If you have this in mind then I understand you. Yes, we are real men.
Hello! Your story is painfully familiar to me ... I'll just tell you to be very careful what you do, because if you go on the ice once, there are no fixes. Consider whether it's worth hurting this boy you're with, because of his friend. which is that you can not forbid your thoughts about who to think about, but know if you enter into a relationship with his friend end..nothing will be the same anymore, and his friend in question is not known how much he is a friend and how things can turn around..what if you fall in love? Don't bother, stay away, don't cause yourself this pain ...