Hello! I am a 13 year old girl. I don't know where and how to start. I am so confused. At the moment my eyes are full of tears, my soul is full of sadness ... Last night I heard a very strange conversation between my mother and her best friend. I didn't dry it, it happened by accident. I'm shocked by what I heard. It turns out that my dad isn't really who I think he is. Mom was saying something about some of her ex-boyfriends (her first love). I don't understand these things very well. I am young. However, I have always received great love from my dad. I really don't know what to do. She used to say that they used to love each other, that I was the only thing he had. And her friend told her mother that no one should ever know. Please tell me what to do. Who to talk to. I'm alone, I don't have a brother, a sister ... Today I lied that I'm sick and I'm not at school. But I don't stop crying. I haven't eaten, I haven't slept. I know most of you are great here so please advice. What should I do Should I tell Daddy. Or to ask mom what I heard, is it true? Please, please, please ...
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Darling, I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TALK TO YOUR MOTHER ABOUT WHAT YOU HEARD, BECAUSE THINGS MAY NOT BE EXACTLY AS YOU THINK. DO NOT SAY ANYTHING TO YOUR FATHER BEFORE YOU TALK TO YOUR MOTHER, BECAUSE THESE ARE SERIOUS THINGS.
Really don't rush to draw your own conclusions. Talk to your mother about it. But whatever happens, you know who your father is, he has been with you for so long. You know that things may be different, but he remains your father!
TALK TO YOUR MOTHER, darling, IF THIS IS TRUE, IT WILL BE MUCH BAD, BUT DON'T BE ASHAMED OF IT, YOU HAVE NO GUILT, AND YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOUR FATHERS, EVEN THAT YOU LIKE YOU. IT'S GOOD TO TELL HIM, I'M SURE THAT HE WILL LOVE YOU AGAIN AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HIS LITTLE GIRL. AND TO KNOW THAT THE TRUTH ALWAYS BUT ALWAYS COMES TO REVELATION, SOON A BOY UNDERSTANDS AN UGLY TRUTH ABOUT HIM, AFTER HIS DISASTER AND YOU HAVE TO HAVE Shake mother wept before mE IMI Share "I yelled MOTHERFUCKER Am" Well tell me HUH tell him I .MN my Funny how these people live with this lie, I do not know darlings first talk with MAYKASI, asked her calmly and not rush TO JUDGE IT, DON'T KNOW HOW EVERYTHING WAS, AND IF IT'S TRUE, I CAN ONLY TELL YOU, THAT YOU SHOULD LOVE YOUR FATHER, AND I DON'T KNOW ABOUT MY MOTHER, TIME WILL SHOW, BUT DON'T HURRY TO JUDGE HER, TALK TO HER FIRST, BUT SERIOUSLY, BOTH CHILDREN. ONLY NOT HAPPEN AS MY PRIATEL WHO BASHTAMU got sick afterwards and died CAN NOT LIE PPREZHIVEE BY MAYKAMU, SO YOU decide vsi4ki will one day come to light IN THIS be sure, but until then everything is in your hands. Weep not talk to your mother POPITAYA Calm and her all tell you because you LEAST HAVE THE RIGHT TO ZNAISH, but do not rush to despair first talk with the mother and the SAY MADE IN EYES WHAT IS MY FATHER BECAUSE will start to boggle SAY DIRECTLY THAT YOU KNOW EVERYTHING FROM DOCTORS, INVENT SOMETHING BUT BE SAFE AND UNBEATABLE, BECAUSE YOUR MOTHERS LOVE ME AND WILL WANT YOU TO SAVE YOU. So HAPPENED TO THIS MY PRIATEL understood by the doctor when rituals TO HIS blood transfusions, doctors told BASHTAMU truth and he was sick and in time died of a lie, his father was sensitive and a good man, and MAYKAMU TO POLSEDNO HIS mention that his father is the true even when I asked her, but when I said I know everything, and it does not last and cried and revealed to him all but bluff come up with something, because I think'll lie, LEST YOU Glory PAIN FROM THE UGLY TRUTH. THIS IS WHAT I THINK, DEAR, I'M STILL YOUNG AT 24, BUT I ENCOUNTERED A SIMILAR STORY WITH THIS FRIEND OF ME, I DON'T KNOW, DON'T CRY, DON'T BE ASHAMED OR ANY OTHER. AND TELL THEN WHAT HAPPENED, HOW THE TRUTH HAS BEEN CONDUCTED, BUT DON'T DO RISKY THINGS WITHOUT KNOWING WITH SECURITY AND WITHOUT TALKING. SUCCESS AND DON'T CRY.
Cute, talk to your mother - she is the person who gave birth to you and raised you, as well as your father, but if you tell him and he does not know, realize what can happen then how many problems your mother will have and respectively you, so talk to her to clarify to you everything that happened.
I think you should leave ours as they are, you say you love your father and he doesn't spoil things for you because sometimes the truth is catastrophic.
I want to thank you all for the good advice. I talked to my mom. Definitely comment number 3 helped me the most. I asked her directly what I heard if it was true. She was startled, she didn't know how to react. People, I don't know if it's right. I love my father very much, but I understand my mother. It turned out that my real dad was my dad's best friend. I wrote a little confused, but how to explain. Mom loved him and still loves him. But circumstances did not allow them to be together. He has another family. And now it turns out that one of my best friends is my sister. Not entirely ... I promised my mom we would keep it a secret for now. But I'm upset and confused. I love my father, the one who has been with me all my life. If anyone can tell me what to do. But I must listen to Mom, don't I? Thank you all again!
From number 3: I'm glad that I was useful to you and that everything went well, since you decided so, but I wish you never something like my friend happens, because it was a tragedy, keep it a secret Well, I wish you a lot of happiness, hopefully, and soon you are not alone, because it is different to have a brother and sister in a difficult time, bye for now and good luck again!
TALK TO YOUR MOTHER! Tell her you want to know the truth. You are already big. But knowing your mother isn't easy either. I'm telling you because I'm in her position. Don't tell your father to talk to her. And don't despair there are many beautiful things in front of you. I wish you all the best.
And I think that you have to talk to your mother, you really are quite old, maybe it's a little difficult for you, but you will overcome it.
Look darling if you really love dad keep it a secret if he understands the whole truth you will break his heart and you don't want that PARENT IS NOT THE ONE WHO CREATES YOU BUT THE ONE WHO RAISES YOU is easy true love hot. He doesn't hate his real father or his wife, and even less your half-sister can reveal the truth in time, you don't know how nice it is to have a sister.
DON'T WORRY SO MUCH, IT MAY BE SOME FABRICATION OF YOUR MOTHER TO MAKE YOURSELF INTERESTING IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIEND AND WHICH IS PRETENDING TO BE A LOT. WHAT IF HIS FRIEND WANTS SOMETHING FROM THIS MAN, YOUR MOTHER TOLD HER SO THAT SHE WOULDN'T START WITH HIM. AND TO KNOW THAT IT IS SO, TALK OPEN WITH HER AND YOU WILL BE CONVINCED THAT IT IS SO. ONCE UPON A TIME, A MY FRIEND TURNED AROUND A SIMILAR STORY, BUT THEN THE FATHER UNDERSTANDED AND GOT THE DNA AND IT TURNED OUT THAT THE MOTHER WAS JUST DONE.
Sometimes to hear the truth hurts a lot .. especially if it is ... I am also in a similar condition .. better talk to your mother .. even if it hurts you have the right to know who your father is ..
Darling may not be your real father, but he has always been by your side and loves you !!! I know how sick you are because I soon learned that I was adopted and this is even worse :( but I love my parents and I will always be grateful to them for giving me a better life that I would have in some orphanage !!! - THE BAD THING IS THAT I LEARNED THIS FROM THE NEIGHBORS WE WERE ARGUING WITH, 1 I think it's a lie so they can hurt me but it wasn't like that it was the whole truth !!! one piece of advice from me 1 tell your mother she will best explain things to you !!! Good luck sun: *
talk to your mother and I'm 13 no matter how hard I can no longer see my mother :) but I'm used to