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Why All On Me

By punkrockcarly27 September 17, 2020 10 answers Last updated September 17, 2020

Hello ... The situation I'm in is terrible, I'm asking for advice, because I don't know what to do. I had a relationship that lasted 6 years, the boy I was with was my first in everything and the only one until a month ago when I was with him I never cheated on him completely and only his but he constantly cheated on me he went out with others we didn't go out often, then he left he called very rarely and I gave up on him, we broke up ... And for the first time I went out with another boy, the boy I started dating, he went out with my girlfriend because of him I stopped talking to her. At first everything went well with him and I got used to him a lot but now he started behaving very strangely, I can't understand him at all, he constantly tells me that he wants me and wants a future with me, but he also goes out with his ex and when I asked him he answer me that he goes out with her only for sex because I don't have sex with him. He also told me that he wanted to spend more time with his friends, when I asked him if he wanted to separate, he replied that he wanted to be with me and he loved me ... But I don't understand him, I can't really understand what he wants .. I have already experienced this once and I do not want to again I find it very difficult to accept the sections and I wonder why I still like such guys

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kittyclittycpl answered · September 17, 2020

   Because you attract daffodils and people with problems. How? You ignore the red lights, which are many. He told you he was having sex with his ex, and you weren't kidding him yet, it's unacceptable. I'm sure there were other indications from the beginning. Probably your father was naughty and treated your mother badly, and she put up with him. You have learned from this model that the more love you give, despite the bad attitude, people will see it at some point and appreciate you. No. It doesn't happen that the more you give to people who treat you badly, the more they brag because they know they will get away with it. It's called codependence, read search on youtube, there are channels of specialists. He also looked for "ways to find out that someone is a narcissist, a sociopath, a borderline," "red flags in meetings," etc. But look in English, there is not much information in the Bulgarian space, at least not so good. From now on, when someone so brutally mocks you, you beat his jester. The problems with the tabs will be seen by white people as they start cursing and beating you. Or do you expect something different from such a person? 100 times you will be better alone, such can not love, only they use. Once you see this, you will no longer be able to ignore it in anyone and you will find someone worthy. And remember, you don't have to be with someone to be well. If there is no suitable one, stay alone, don't get caught up with another lunatic who will try to ruin your life for fun. Such people have fun harassing others. Don't you think he doesn't realize what he's doing to you? He realizes and it caresses his ego that he is behaving badly with you, but he is so "amazing", that you are still with him for that. Listen to me before it gets worse. We are many people like you, but we don't need to live like this all our lives, do we? Just look for information.

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equipedefrance answered · September 17, 2020

   The man does what he wants. And you say what you want to hear. He loves thorns ... he just talks to you hot and cold because you're a comfortable catch. He fucks his ex, goes out with friends and he just doesn't mind trying to lie more insistently, because he's fine. And if you continue, you will always let him go and he will "hit" you and then he will decide what to do. Let me tell you - you don't like boys like that - that's how you teach them. The man is like a dog and as he sees that he can behave and what he can get away with ... that's how he will behave. A woman on the spot will NEVER, but NEVER allow her to be treated badly, let alone cheat on her, let alone MANY TIMES. I'm sorry, but you are uncharacteristic and insecure. This is what the men in you smell and they use it because you provoke it with your behavior. Change yourself and you will change whatever

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swimswamnews answered · September 17, 2020

   Girl, I've been in your situation. You're too good with them and that's why they get on your head. Remember one thing - in relationships, one is always bad and one always loves more. Bad may not be literal, but it goes without saying. Have more self-confidence, as well as self-esteem - do not always agree with the man next to you, do not run to his bagpipe, men like it only for a while. Don't be like a straw drowning man. Put on make-up, nice clothes, change your hairstyle, if you wish, do things for yourself - pamper yourself with food, travel, go out with friends, go to some beauty treatment, travel even alone. I love the latter very much and it really helps me to connect with myself. Years ago I always had this problem - they kept coming to my head or they didn't pay attention to me, at one point I wondered why. I had a classmate who wasn't the typical model - yes, she had a nice face and hair, but she was fatter. But men never made fun of her, she always turned them around and I wondered how. I started learning more from her. The first thing I saw was that she was masterfully confident. When we were in the company of boys, she was cheerful, talked to everyone, joked, and knew how to be sexy through clothes and behavior. She knew what she wanted and how to get it. Never indulge in relationships that are not beneficial to you - for example, to hide so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you do not want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. she had a nice face and hair, but she was plumper. But men never made fun of her, she always turned them around and I wondered how. I started learning more from her. The first thing I saw was that she was masterfully confident. When we were in the company of boys, she was cheerful, talked to everyone, joked, and knew how to be sexy through clothes and behavior. She knew what she wanted and how to get it. Never indulge in relationships that are not beneficial to you - for example, to hide so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you do not want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. she had a nice face and hair, but she was plumper. But men never made fun of her, she always turned them around and I wondered how. I started learning more from her. The first thing I saw was that she was masterfully confident. When we were in the company of boys, she was cheerful, talked to everyone, joked, and knew how to be sexy through clothes and behavior. She knew what she wanted and how to get it. Never indulge in relationships that are not beneficial to you - for example, to hide so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you do not want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. The first thing I saw was that she was masterfully confident. When we were in the company of boys, she was cheerful, talked to everyone, joked, and knew how to be sexy through clothes and behavior. She knew what she wanted and how to get it. Never indulge in relationships that are not beneficial to you - for example, to hide so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you do not want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. The first thing I saw was that she was masterfully confident. When we were in the company of boys, she was cheerful, talked to everyone, joked, and knew how to be sexy through clothes and behavior. She knew what she wanted and how to get it. Never indulge in relationships that are not beneficial to you - for example, to hide so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you do not want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you don't want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out. so that he can have other girls or relationships just for sex, if you don't want one yourself. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with this relationship, but if you want something else, you have to stand up for it !! Good luck and I hope things work out.

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heavenlytreataya answered · September 17, 2020

   Well, what happens to you is terribly nasty, they keep cheating on you. So if you're a virgin and you don't sleep with them, that's one reason. If you are not a virgin and you sleep with them, then either you are not good at sex and something is lame, or they are insatiable and want to do with others. I haven't been cheated on so far, I've had 3 serious relationships and I can tell you that it all depends on how you behave. You're obviously too good and they're getting on your head. I behave a little badly, I fight, I shout, I threaten them, I told them in my eyes that if they cheat on me I will take care of them in a black jeep to take them to a forest and beat them like dogs and then let them fight. torment, I really know people who will do this if I pay them. My boyfriends used to take him as a joke and laughed, but I took out a knife from his ex once and I wanted to kill him and he understood, that I'm not kidding. Then I became nice and good, but in the beginning I let him understand, to know. I dumped him, not him me. He wasn't afraid of me, because sometimes he scolded me and shouted at me, but in the end they didn't cheat on me. Don't be so kind.

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pixieass answered · September 17, 2020

   You should not tolerate infidelity. You have nothing in common, no children, no family - what exactly do you tolerate infidelity for? On the other hand - if you do not have sex - you will be cheated. No one has to waste their years with you while you're at it. If you are not ready for sex - then you are not ready for a serious relationship - just accept it. Moreover, you are clearly not a virgin. In that case, I don't see exactly what you're suffering from.

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whiteboy99x0pl6 answered · September 18, 2020

   4, you are for psychiatry everywhere. "Pulling out a knife" is a felony and is considered attempted murder. If she'd brought that knife to me, you'd be in jail or insane asylum now. You just haven't happened to the right person who knows their rights.

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wemasepetu answered · September 18, 2020

   That's how you teach them. As someone said above, albeit rudely, a man is like a dog, and as you teach him, so he does. When you find out that he is sleeping with his ex, you drop him instantly. Don't let him blame you for doing it for you. He does it, not because you don't give, but because he likes it that way and because you accept it. Yours knows that you are a soft Mara, captivated by him, and she waves her horse as she pleases. Stand up and set clear boundaries, express an opinion. I can't understand such girls who endure everything, so as not to offend their master and the prince from the fairy tales. That's why there are such impudent men, because someone bowed and endured them like that. He does not love you, but sits with you, because another would not tolerate and knows it. Men are not stupid, they sit where they see that their nasty behavior is accepted. Between a quiet and meek woman who humbly endures everything, and between such, who will express an opinion and does not tolerate jokes, will choose the meek because it is easy to manipulate. Stop looking at men like princes you shouldn't offend, but stand up for your positions. Number 1 is damn right, your family environment is also part of your problem.

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michael_merk answered · September 19, 2020

   As far as I can see, the problem is the lack of sex. The first cheats probably because he probably doesn't get enough sex. The second has sex with his ex because, as he said, he probably doesn't get enough sex. Did I see any opinions that advise the author to pretend to be interesting, to treat her boyfriends like dogs? !? , to be manipulative, flirt with other people and the like. Who will be deceived by this behavior and who and what will she manipulate if her boyfriends do not get enough sex? Won't it happen that if she knows a lot and at the same time they don't have intimacy with her, they will just break up? It seems very likely to me. I see the root of the problem in the lack of sex, the attempts to bypass it do not see how they will fix the situation, on the contrary I see how the same scenario will be repeated in the future - romance,

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garamcpll answered · September 19, 2020

   So what do you have to understand. He is not looking for a serious relationship and he told himself so. I have sex with the other. Then when you start with him, there will be two for variety. I love you saying it so on duty to everyone. You don't believe he really loves you, do you? There is nothing to suffer so much for. Just don't get attached to men. They are not looking for anything engaging.

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donaherminia answered · September 19, 2020

   10 of 9 Again, you transfer all the blame to the author. This sex man can look for it from her, and not elsewhere. Sex is two, not one, so that only she is to blame for his absence. Not getting enough sex is a stupid excuse for a womanizer. It is almost as if she pushed him to do so, and he, the poor man, has no other choice or strength to resist. He goes after other women in utter despair and disgust. Come on! The man is a womanizer and a manipulator. This with the dog is not literal, of course. Just in all relationships with people, you determine how they will treat you. It's the same in relationships, you determine what behavior is acceptable to you and what is not. You accept whether you are OK with infidelity, drinking and others. Whatever attitude you tolerate, you will receive. I and other commenters have tried to say that the girl herself should be washed, as they say. That in a relationship she has the right to say what she doesn't like. That she doesn't have to put up with everything. And I used to be like her when I was younger. but now something I don't like as a behavior, I say. Even if we quarrel, I will know that I have not kept silent and I have defended my rights. And there have been changes. Like me, I've changed something. These are the connections, people to communicate. Author, be confident in yourself as a man, as a woman, everything. Change something in yourself like behavior, thinking. Many of the problems of people commenting on this site are low self-esteem. These are the connections, people to communicate. Author, be confident in yourself as a man, as a woman, everything. Change something in yourself like behavior, thinking. Many of the problems of people commenting on this site are low self-esteem. These are the connections, people to communicate. Author, be confident in yourself as a man, as a woman, everything. Change something in yourself like behavior, thinking. Many of the problems of people commenting on this site are low self-esteem.