Hello! I am a 17-year-old girl. So far I haven't had a serious relationship, I've dealt with a few boys, but nothing serious. Until a few months ago, a boy was in love with me, but I wasn't sure I wanted to be with him. He was waiting for me for a long time, but I didn't want to be more than friends with him. I considered him very close, because he loved me very much, he always listened to me and supported me in everything, he understood me, I understood him too. He was willing to put up with us being just friends, even though he was in love with me. He used to kiss me, and I didn't pull just to keep him from feeling bad. After a while we started arguing a lot because he started to be jealous of my friend for no reason, and even if there was one ... there was nothing between us, we were just friends, he has no right to criticize me about another boy !!! Now, after so many months, we write and hear from this other boy every day, but I have a problem ... I'm afraid of what people will say and think, what my ex-best friend will think. In fact, no, he is the person whose opinion I am least interested in, but I am convinced that he will comment on us left and right. The thing is, we have other common acquaintances whose opinions I'm worried about. I know that this is a huge mistake, I missed several chances for happiness precisely because of that ... what will this one say, what will that one think ... Here is the place of my question ... Why am I like that Nowadays we are surrounded by so many hypocrites and villains, is anyone interested in my opinion at all, is it influenced by it? Why should I be influenced by others? I realize these things, but I can't go through them .... I'm like that, I want to change that,
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Perhaps what is true here is that there is no real friendship between a boy and a girl, because one of them falls in love. He will certainly be sick if he sees you with another boy, especially if this is his best friend. Yes, we can't choose who we have feelings for, but think carefully about whether you are really feeling something. There is also an option for the two to quarrel. Is it worth breaking a friendship, for example? Of course, this does not have to happen. On the other hand, you showed him that you didn't feel anything for him, so it shouldn't be a problem. Personally, I would think about it, because more or less you were friends and the best, and so suddenly teasing his friend, he will rather be sick, because he will be with his relative. After all, you decide. Success!
I don't care what others think of me. I have friends who like me, why should I be influenced by stupid villains. Don't worry at all about other people's opinions. Your life is yours. The important thing is that you are happy if others want to spit on you, besides what confuses them? And what would you do wrong? He liked you, you didn't like him. A great miracle that he was your best friend. Just because you kissed doesn't mean anything. Don't let others run your life. If you want, you can shit naked in the middle of the White House on the president's feet, if you like, push him. Gossipers and villains do not want to criticize you because they are worse than you. 100%. They therefore discuss other people's lives so as not to deal with their problems. In short: have fun without caring about vicious hypocrites without a future.
Thank you for the advice !! I will be glad to see more comments on the topic.