Hello! I don't know why I decided to write here - to pour out everything I have gathered, or to ask you for advice. I don't know, but I will still write what bothers me. Lately I think very negatively, negatively about everything. I always imagine that the worst is happening to me and how nothing happens to me. In general, I was not like that - even the few people with whom I communicate more often would say that I am very funny and cheerful, but this is just a mask that I put on in front of them. I don't feel that way inside. Maybe it all started at the end of 2018, when my grandmother died. I'm not in the mood for anything or anyone. I am forever blown away and distracted. I said to myself that in the beginning of 2019 things will change, but alas ... Here, next Wednesday I will turn 18, and I'm not even in the mood to celebrate my birthday, but this is not something new, because I have never been and celebrated it. I haven't worked so far, and I want to start this year, but ... I'm not even sure I can find a job. I always imagine how they don't take me, how I expose myself, how they will make fun of me, how I will never find a job and I will die of hunger and similar thoughts, so I don't even know what is required for the first time. The truth is that I do not have a gram of self-confidence, I can never communicate with strangers, I am shy, shy and meeting new people is really difficult for me. These thoughts of mine drive me crazy. I don't know where I'm going to get her. I have almost no relatives, my friends (thank God I have some, though few) are my only hope. I am about to graduate next year, I have to decide which university I will study at, but here I am again starting to think that my dreams will not come true, that I will not be able to support myself and I will not study. I also imagine that I will be left alone, sad and ... It is difficult to explain. The more I think, the more I wonder why I live at all. Sometimes I think that if I hadn't been born, it would have been better. If I had the courage, I would get out of this world in some way, from a place where hypocrisy and simplicity are revered. I don't even trust myself sometimes, and what's left for people? It would be very difficult for a person to get to know me and accept him as a "friend" - a word I do not use often. I'm not sociable, I'm not used to being the center of attention, let alone making conversations. I am terrible. I don't see my place in the world, as if I shouldn't have been born. It may sound awful from the side, but it's true. I don't believe in myself and I don't expect that something good could happen to me. Even I find it difficult to live with these traits of my character. Someone here would tell me that it's good to visit a psychologist, but believe me, I went, and nothing ... Tell me - how can I get out of these thoughts of mine and change, if at all possible? !!
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As I tell him, your narcissistic uncle - welcome to hell, I've been here for many years. Get out or we'll meet at a place where my followers will judge you.
Your philosophy is wrong, which only worsens your perception of life. You are right about one thing, you will have failures along the way. I'm sorry, that's the way it is. No one is born a scientist and we all make loads of mistakes every day. It is not scary to fall, it is important to stand up after the fall. You may not be hired for the first job, but you will try a second, third, fourth time. You will always find a job. The first year you may not have the financial opportunity to study or you may not be accepted in the desired specialty. Again no problem, you will try next year. People with goals are very dangerous, they do not stop pushing until they achieve what they want. Be such a person. Decide what you want, make it your goal and watch every next decision be in favor of your goals. If you want to study, you will study. You may fail the first year, you may count pennies for bread, it may be difficult and terrible, but you will succeed because you will pursue your goal tirelessly and without brakes. Do not be afraid of failure and do not give up. You will be surprised at how much you will be capable of when you are at a disadvantage and have no choice. One either learns to swim or drowns. The truth is that drowning people in life are almost non-existent, everyone is trying to consolidate the situation and get better. You will not stay on the street, you will not allow it. You don't know yet, but that's right. If you don't have money for bills, you will start a second job, just to pay your expenses. Rarely does anyone realize that they are able to drain all their energy to stay above the surface of the water. Most just do it if they have no other choice. You will do it. Whatever difficulties you may have, you will cope with them. You want to study, you have the ambition to work, to support yourself and cope. You're just scared, that's the only problem. Believe in yourself. People with ambition do not allow themselves to sink. You have goals, they will support you. Now stay alone and cry. Sometimes you have to clear your eyes of pain to gain strength for other things.
You will find a job calmly. And yes, it may not be the first one you apply for, I was not called from all the places I tried before my last job. This is perfectly normal, interviews are not always objective, sometimes someone is just nicer. I have a friend she is from Sofia and she came to Burgas, at the interview for a very good job and many candidates asked her why she moved and she said that for love. The man laughed and she started working. You are young, beautiful and everything is ahead of you, what kind of life you will lead depends only on you.
You are small, it is normal from a little life experience! Tighten it up, you're only 17-18 years old. Probably life hasn't offered you very good things so far, I don't know. Start having fun in some way, some hobby, something you love to do
So am I, but I have not visited and do not plan to visit a psychologist. Because I know what level our medicine is at all - a broken arm can't be fixed by bastards ... and native psychologists are like that ... Author, I don't think you have anything! Such is our native reality. Everything is upside down and we are told that we are damaged !!!
You are not the only one. :)
Hi, why are you looking at things so negatively? Listen, you're 18 = D, everything is in front of you, of course you will find a job and have a family! Drive it more confidently, at the university you will meet new people 100%, work when you start again, some people are worse, enjoy living with a smile, have your own attitude to self-esteem, don't let people control it, In my city, people are terrible, for example, they are constantly offended, and beautiful girls and boys are offended, most people are complexes, everywhere you will meet bad people and difficulties, but when you are not attached to complexes and you are a good person, there is no one to stop you from living. happily. And for your grandmother you can go to pray in church. Everything will be fine!
Hello, I am a 52-year-old woman, I was sad like you, I didn't know how to cope with life, you are not crazy, don't commit suicide, this is a reaction of your mind and soul due to the fact that you will become a high school student. your first diploma and then you decide for yourself ... I will not guide you with the choice of profession, but parents with advice and actions should support you and should praise you VERY much for small successes, and I think that nothing will come out of me. And here I have 5 diplomas, I know 4 languages written and spoken, I have two children, I am healthy, I have a place to live hobbies / painting / and so, start your life meekly, without alcohol, without drugs, without cigarettes, without men who to use you for sex you fall in love with a man you tell him and then have common hobbies, for example: tourism in Bulgaria the main thing is not afraid of life beware of greedy people,