That's right, I'm interested, let people write who realize that they are behaving badly, disrespecting the person next to them, no matter what they are. I miss their points of view, because when I ask someone "Why are you behaving (somehow) with me? ”, I don’t get an answer or I get insincere, for one reason or another. Some do not even realize that they are behaving horribly, insensitively, rudely, even aggressively. I'm an emotional person (not to be confused with an immature, unbalanced, dramatizing, etc.) and badness kills me slowly ... And one more thing - why people are attracted to people like me who give them a good attitude (this it is clear to me to some extent) and can not respond with the same good attitude? Of course, I want to mention the very nice people I know (not many, but very nice). However, they don't seem to need to look for me, our communication is somehow mutual (rarely, because, obviously, they, like me, do not need someone to be with and talk about themselves), I do not feel emotional exhaustion from them. It's weird that I pay so much attention to people who hurt me. I am angry with them for being like that and with myself for dealing with them. Why do you behave badly with a person who treats you well? How do you do it? Is it on purpose? Does it give you pleasure? Do you feel better? (I was told the latter). It is strange and sad. who treats you well? How do you do it? Is it on purpose? Does it give you pleasure? Do you feel better? (I was told the latter). It is strange and sad. who treats you well? How do you do it? Is it on purpose? Does it give you pleasure? Do you feel better? (I was told the latter). It is strange and sad.
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Read on the net about people with stronger narcissistic, sociopathic and psychopathic traits. It's the same. They don't feel it, or sometimes they enjoy it.
I read about them.
Most people only really appreciate the things they are not sure about. Overly caring people are usually so inclined to give that others completely stop realizing that they also have needs. Of course, as # 1 rightly pointed out, there are narcissists and psychopaths who, by abusing such people, validate themselves while being unable to understand what they are causing. The conclusion is that a person who values himself and requires others to value him is much more liked, respected and lives better. Eliminate parasites from your life and think carefully about my words.
Read articles about this: Why empaths attract narcissists; Relationship with empath and narcissus; People with narcissistic personality disorder (the disease of the 21st century); You will understand why tolerant people should stay away from capable types and how to distinguish them. Empata attracts them by the fact that she likes to take care of others around her. Lisa
If she was so mature, you would know the answer.
Overall I've been good and don't fuck, it doesn't hurt. Now I treat everyone badly and see how they respect you. It doesn't give pleasure, it's just personal for me to have fun with someone, especially if it's a girl, she becomes even more attached;)
We all hurt, but you can make your choice about who is worth hurting.
Now a counter-question: Why do you go to people who hurt you and treat you badly? And before it starts with "but I don't know what they are before they start behaving badly" ... nonsense. Everyone encounters inappropriate partners in their life. The people who complain about such a relationship are the people who allow it and who stand in such a relationship even though it doesn't stop. When people who don't want to treat them badly stop allowing it, then they will stop. Why? Because they can. Because they do not see something that requires them to oblige. EVERYONE will do what he wants, he knows he can. Fact. Brother.
Brother, this "because they can" is not an argument! People can do many things, including kill, if you don't kill your loved one and say in court "I did it because I can", what will you think of him, except that you will be angry at his crime, you will be even more angry from his impudence, the unconsciousness that caused him pain. If someone gives me a meaningful explanation - why he behaves (generally "bad"), I will sit down and think, I will feel an idea better, because I will see the reasons for human behavior, and when they are silent or shaken "because I can "I can only guess at the reasons. Why do I communicate with such people? They find me, and I often continue to communicate with them out of pity, because they always have some sad stories. But, yes, from the beginning I feel that something is wrong with them, but I still keep in touch with them until they overdo it. To 6 Don't give stupid advice to men. No smart woman will tolerate psychological and / or physical aggression. I have not been in a relationship with such a person. The people I'm talking about in my topic are people we've only interacted with as acquaintances and are of both sexes, so I call them "people." Enough with these books on psychology, I've read them, in theory I know a lot, but in practice, people are not black and white and if I look at the 1: 1 explanations in pathopsychology, we all have deviations.
"EVERYONE will do what he wants, does he know he can. Fact. "Don't tell me that if there are no so-called laws, courts, prisons ... EVERYONE will do whatever they want. Not so! I believe that there are people who can think, feel and sympathize. It is true that there are more others, but not all, so do not summarize.
Author, it is one thing to read, it is another to learn something from what you have read, it is a third to put it into practice. I don't know if you're mature or despised, but you ask simple questions. My brother told you exactly - whether you communicate with someone or not, you choose. When you feel bad and hurt with someone, you throw them out of the circle of your acquaintances and that's it. And if you enjoy being altruistic and empathetic and you want to shine like the sun everyone, ok, but do not seek gratitude, suffer at will and bear the consequences of your choice ..
7 haha it's worth being hurt for someone, it happens like you're overdoing the series ...
9., You say it yourself "From the very beginning I feel that something is wrong with them ..." Here, everyone knows what they are getting into and they find you, because that's your energy. I'm not saying this badly, it's just that if you don't behave as a person so much that cutting such people in their infancy, they can't help but exist. Here is an example situation, I'm shit, I'm starting to behave badly with a woman who DOES NOT ALLOW this type of relationship. He gets up and leaves - I stay with my finger in my mouth. Either I go to project my lineage to another or I start to feel bad about not being accepted. In both cases, the woman who left is better. So it's all in the hands of the woman who allows it. 10. That's exactly what I'm saying. Wild West, Middle Ages, First People ... the further back you go, the more you will see that a person does what he wants - because he can. He is stopped only by generally accepted norms, laws and everything that is set for him by a modern society. Brother.