I read a woman's topic, "Why doesn't she want a marriage?", It's about the man she's been living with for a long time, but he hasn't proposed to her yet, and she's very angry, even ready to leave if he doesn't. In order not to spam the topic, I decided to post this one and ask a question: Why does he want marriage? Why should a man propose marriage? Why should a woman want a man to propose to her? Given that you have lived with him for years and trust him, are you ready to break all this because of a signature in the municipality? If the man is not serious, why do you think that if he signs he will suddenly become serious? I don't see any reason to get married at all, I never wanted to get married and I won't do it, I just don't see the point, I don't see what I earn, I don't see what my girlfriend will win, nor do I like the whole circus called "
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Author, do you want me to explain the difference between a husband and a girlfriend? It doesn't matter what everyone thinks. If God forbid something happens to you, your girlfriend can't make any decision - to operate on you, etc., because she is not your relative. If you die, she does not inherit you. If your children are young and someone has to make an important decision about your life, they will look for your parents. Your girlfriend has no rights. There are only obligations / unwritten /. He has rights only with regard to children. One day if you die, God forbid, I'm just hypothetically speaking, the wife, in addition to inheriting you, will receive and receive half of your pension. Your girlfriend gets nothing. You've used it all your life to wash your "dirty" pants (figuratively speaking, don't touch yourself), and you end up leaving her miserable. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that marriage is a bargain, but when you love a man, it's normal to think about how he would live if you weren't there one day. Securing your wife is still the mother of your children. The law has thought about that. Otherwise, yes, marriage is not important in itself. Success!
I'm basically of the same opinion as you. I am a woman, I will not hear about marriage, but I do not lie to anyone. The problem with the lady in question is that he lies to her, hangs her, and wastes her time. She's been lied to, and he's a coward. That is what we are talking about. It's just that things have to be said on time. If she wanted a marriage, it was right for him to tell her in time that he did not want one and not to waste her time in manipulations. Why should she agree with him and his lies? I broke up with a man who insisted on marriage, AFTER being in the beginning I was adamant that this would not happen. And the woman is right to want according to her dreams and ideas, she just came across a coward and a manipulator. Truths must be told in time!
And I am a woman and I am on the principle Why should I get married so that I can divorce later? People give as much money for the wedding, then probably as much for the divorce. I have a tattoo on the arm of a man with my name that will take more for security than a wedding. So if we break up, he'll be fucked with my name and have to have an expensive laser operation.
I also deny marriage, but there are just some people (mainly women) who want to legalize the union, they even want the holiday itself as a fairy tale - the bride, the groom, all the relatives together, music and fun. Although I've seen mostly vulgar / drunken weddings, I'm just noting. This is a kind of dream. Otherwise, I share your opinion, my partner too. Julian
Don't expect a logical answer!
This is your position. I respect her. Mine is the opposite. I would never have children without marriage. I want my wife to be with my last name and my children not to be recognized. This is my understanding of cohabitation. It also includes a fabulous wedding where our relatives will greet us and our parents will bless us. I like traditions. There is a lot of wisdom and beauty in them. 26m
To break everything for the signature, what do you have to break, if he wants to live, he must also want marriage, if he doesn't want then why is he with the woman?
Different people, different ideals. :)
I agree with you. I want to have children, but marriage - no. And I don't find any sense.
It may not matter to you, but in terms of a woman's social status, our society is still very rigid. Whatever we say, the attitude towards a married woman and an unmarried woman is very different, especially after a certain age. They are also perceived differently in the workplace. If a woman over a certain age is not married, she is often viewed with distrust or as unreliable - it is not the same with men. Many people judge, therefore, how serious or not a relationship is by whether the partners are married or not. If not, it is interpreted that they are obviously not yet completely sure that they want to be with each other and that is why they leave a door. I've noticed that if I wear the ring, the relationship is the same, there is some respect and distance, if I don't wear it, even if I'm with my husband, if the company around doesn't know we're married, they can afford dumps and jokes. In my opinion, they interpret it as "if he doesn't wear a ring, then he is free and things are still subject to change, what makes me worse than him doesn't stop me from trying. It's just that thinking is another very important point. is related to plans for joint children - if he is not ready for marriage, for me it means a problem with taking responsibility.I personally would not get pregnant by a man who is not ready to take responsibility.I do not want to be a single mother - a woman She is very vulnerable both during pregnancy and after birth, and in the first years as the child grows, and she needs to know that the person next to her is ready to share the responsibilities of raising her with her and support her in a difficult time. pack up and move on to the first crisis or difficulty and dump it with the child. marriage is not a guarantee and many married men also abandon their wives, but even if there is no marriage, it is even more risky and frivolous for me. It is much easier to pick up your hammer and move out when there are no legal obstacles and no one is looking for moral or social responsibility. I find the wedding as a ceremony meaningless - a person can get married without much fuss, just with a signature and witnesses. It has never been my dream to see myself in a white dress or anything like that, it's up to the person. For example, we chose to give ourselves a good rest and have a really good time, instead of gathering guests and relatives - but it's a matter of tradition and preference I also understand the people for whom it is important. When you ask what you gain from getting married, it depends on what you ultimately look for in the person you meet. What do you expect from the woman next to you, what does she expect from you? If your desires and expectations, your views on marriage and your plans for the future coincide, I don't see what the problem is with living like that. Once you have found a serious partner with whom you are happy and who the situation as it suits you, then congratulations - and I see no reason to marry. The point is to be honest with each other, not to mislead the other.
I don't want to depend on my husband! That is why I myself would never get married ... The man, if he is serious - is serious WITH or WITHOUT marriage!
Number 6, I worship your view. Congratulations. Number 9 - read number one carefully. At least in this sense. But much more.
Why should it be a circus wedding? We signed and had dinner with our parents and siblings
I have been with my man for 11 years, we have a small child and we are not married. He just didn't offer it to me. If it was, I would gladly accept. It would be better for me to say - "my husband", instead of - "my friend" ... and all of us, if we had one family name, it would be a different feeling. But ... nothing, it's not too late :)
Marriage, as they said here, is a tradition. And traditions are not empty, they make sense. And it is that marriage presupposes security. That is, you announce to the world that you trust each other and that you will build something lasting, that you will give birth to children who will bear your family name. Marriage is a duty - the word itself emphasizes it: co-springs, which means that they pull the load of the household together, they are co-harnessed in the same car, in the family yoke, figuratively speaking. Now, in my opinion, our country is lame, because people have largely forgotten what debt is and most of the wind blows them on a white mare, waving as they please. Well, it's probably easier, but it's irresponsible. I am for traditions.
Even a married man can pick up his hammer and run away. Usually that's what they do. You keep looking at public opinion, I'm sorry. For me, marriage is just as offensive as a prenuptial agreement - they turn love into a deal. If the man next to me dies (God forbid), will I first think what inheritance I will take? This is the most mercantile thought I have ever heard. As for the abandonment of the children - what guarantees that the woman will not one day pack up and abandon the child and the father? And I have seen such cases not 1-2. There is no such thing as security in life, accept it!
Author, I don't see a connection between "marriage" and "wedding" and I don't understand why you compare them. F29