CHNG 2012, and hopefully these "mays" did not turn out to be right, and there will be 7312. First: I would understand the administrators and moderators if they do not approve of what I am writing at the moment. I know, the topic is very common. But if you're reading this, great. They showed mercy. And for any "normal" boy and man, he would be interested in what you think about it, girls, women. Now. I fully understand that the topic is so general, etc. Each person is special and individual in his own way. From my humble experience, I observe that all boys/women like and like the bad ones more. And not to offend anyone, not everyone, maybe 9.99%. Some people think it's because of the thrill. The thrill of doing something almost wrong, immoral and I don't know what else "NO". Others think they can change them, go the wrong way. As the readers do not know that if they change them, they won't like them anymore, or am I lying?
Or maybe you don't know, dear girls and dear Women, with a main F, humanity is suffering because of you and is about to ... so maybe you don't know that this is the essence of bad monks. To seduce you, to play with you, to hurt you and leave you. No, they are no exception. Now don't think that I have them as robots, programmed or something. It's just their essence. And they are not subject to change or adjustment. I have a friend. I say it from personal experience. We talked a lot with him on this topic.
Ok, it doesn't matter, at least not to you men. This will always excite us. At least until you come to your senses and stop with "these" (not to offend anyone), and this is expected to happen exactly "never". Now. Personally, I would be interested to have more comments from the fairer sex. (That's how they define women in the GEO textbook in Das. How stupid, isn't it?). So even if there are comments on our gender, guys, let them be scarce and LITTLE. I say again. Everyone has their own character. Your thinking. Don't get me killed by someone in the comments. And last. Let's proceed like this. At the beginning or end of the comment, for example, if you are a 31-year-old woman, write G31. If you are macho and you are 27, write M27. I hope you understand me. And if anyone is wondering how old I am, 16.
And moderator, be cool, you're a man too, I hope you're not a woman, that ... Okay. Let's face it. If you have this story, then you are a man and you are interested in how women think and what they will say. If the story doesn't exist, then ... sour work. I look forward. That one. Moderator - I'm a woman and the story is there because I don't see anything wrong with her. If he had, he wouldn't be here. It is.
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I have asked the same question many times, but I have not received an answer. Let's read the opinion of the ladies. M22
Maybe the bad guys have a special charisma. I want to say that my impression is that women like bad boys in what I call their childhood years, school years. In them the good boys are not modern, the bad ones are wanted. So they list a few failures, they list a few years. Then, say around 23-24, some metamorphosis occurs. They start looking for good guys, they start looking for stable relationships, even marriage. There comes the problem that good boys have been busy for a long time and many women are starting to say that there was only rubbish in the world. My personal experience - at school I was not very popular, I was one of the good boys, cultured, educated, leaning over textbooks and sports. No success with women, especially those who were more inclined, did not look at me at all. Then when I graduated, I got a good job, thanks to the years of sports and good-looking, the same set-up chicks started to stick to me, and I've been busy for a long time. I've always thought that girls looking for bad boys and vice versa - boys looking for ever-adjusted girls are absolutely doomed to love disappointments. These are the superficial people in the world and they can't get along. Men who have been superficial always remain the same, and women see them, but only the bones and the infinity of bad matchmakers are waiting for them on the table, who are eternally free and ready to comfort them. For a short time. The good boys in most cases remain the same as men and quickly find their master, because smarter women rarely miss the profitable games.
The good girls are the most dangerous, they are far worse than the bad girls, so to speak. Not at first, but then, as the latter see and seek stability and value, the more the good ones stray from the path and set out to catch up, they are the new object of the abandoned bad boys. These are my observations and if people can be combined in this way, it must be: A good man - a former bad, ideal combination, he is satisfied, she appreciates the qualities of the man next to her because of her experience and it does not occur to her to look bad guys and instability. A bad man - a good ex - will cheat on each other, but for him it is normal, and for her - catching up.
They will understand, I know many such couples. M 30 These are my observations and if people can be combined in this way, it must be: A good man - a former bad, ideal combination, he is satisfied, she appreciates the qualities of the man next to her because of her experience and it does not occur to her to look bad guys and instability. A bad man - a good ex - will cheat on each other, but for him it is normal, and for her - catching up.
They will understand, I know many such couples. M 30 These are my observations and if people can be combined in this way, it must be: A good man - a former bad, ideal combination, he is satisfied, she appreciates the qualities of the man next to her because of her experience and it does not occur to her to look bad guys and instability. A bad man - a good ex - will cheat on each other, but for him it is normal, and for her - catching up. They will understand, I know many such couples. M 30
No wonder they didn't answer as they didn't know what to say. Let's not forget that this is in their nature. From 1
G14 I especially like bad boys not because of another and maybe just sometimes they look better especially in our school is so most boys with low grades have great bodies and are not fat, and the boys dentists with sixes on each test or control are thick and clogged!
Number 2 - you just had to say that those who have gone through a lot of disappointments have learned their lesson and realized the things of life, and those young people still do not understand and think, really, that they have missed something like a whole life. have been with this and that only for one or two evenings. That's it. Number 2 is right.
People are dumb and deluded, and they don't know what they want ... you will never get a better answer than that. -Death_Blade ^
Maybe because they believe they can change them
I personally have never fallen in love with any of the so-called "bad guys", but I admit that I had several hobbies. Anyway, I think every girl has fallen for a not-so-decent man at least once. It's normal. They're just exciting, they have charisma, they have a special radiance ... But everything is momentary. In the end, both the bad boys and the bad girls at some point settle down, mature :) And then they realize what is really important in the other person.
I think it's the thrill I tell you from personal experience 1 year I went with a drug addict and the thrill was very cool ...
Hi, I'm 14 years old, boy. To number 4: does the fact that the bison, as you call them, are not outwardly beautiful, mean that they have to be alone all their lives? These people suffer much more than anyone who complains that your bad boys have used them. It is very difficult to swallow all this, believe me I know it from personal experience. And what if they are congested. That, to me, doesn't matter. Yes, I am like that too and I am not ashamed to say to myself: I am clogged from EVERYTHING. Think about whether the body is most important
I'm a girl and come to think of it, all the boys were that type. I do not know why. Maybe they really have some charisma
I personally don't like bad boys, now the question is why? !! I'm a girl and I've had several failed relationships, I remember I had a friend we were with, he was this type of "bad boy", I don't want to use cynicism, but honestly they want to prove themselves, they only look at themselves it's very rare to look at the person next to you and most importantly they lie terribly. But that's not why I don't like them, I think that the real guys who don't pretend, etc. are exceptional, kind and most importantly don't just look at themselves, but the person next to them. As the author says, some girls want to change them and go the right way, this is unlikely to happen. At one time they listen a little to the person next to them and as there is a saying "The wolf changes his skin but not his temper" (Something like that was) F17
This question is so old. As I once read "Girls run away from home with rockers but marry bankers" As children they have no idea what it's like to be a woman and what they do - they imitate the facade at least the one that is most popular and accepted. At the same time, they have absolutely no idea what a real man means and strive for boys who do not know what it is to be a man and, accordingly, imitate the facade and behavior of such a person according to the generally accepted idea. And then when they grow up (at least most of them) it becomes clear who they are. BV
We think (and I am a girl) that it is possible for a worried and attentive person to hide under a bad boy, and that we are the ones who can change him, but this is NEVER (except in movies where all love is some lofty and special, in the real world every boy (almost) is like that ...) personally I'm used to seeing such guys and I'm not impressed ... it sucks when this bad boy really falls in love with a girl, and finally she dumps him ...
I am absolutely of this opinion. Girls don't like to know that you give everything for her, you do everything for her, that you're just at her feet - you're not that interesting to her. I say that because I am the same - when I feel that someone pulls away from me and does not pay attention to me, I go crazy over him ..
They definitely have some charisma and attract women, but usually these relationships do not last long or are a hobby. For more serious relationships, women are not looking for them. : D Ж
Confidence ...
G14 Personally, I'm not a fan of the bad guys, but of the inaccessible boys. But I think most women and girls like bad boys because of the thrill of seeing who breaks whose heart. Usually the bad boys pretend to be inaccessible, and this attracts us, because the more unattainable a goal is, the more desirable it is. Until recently, I fell in love with a boy from the class that I could not have. I invited him for coffee, looking for ways to talk to him. However, he did not pay attention to me. At one point I started pretending I didn't care about him and he started contacting me. Then I discovered that I didn't like him, but the thrill of having him. The more inaccessible he was, the more sunken I was. The more we became friends, the more I got tired of chasing him. One goal is interesting while it is unattainable, then it becomes boring. :)
I don't know why, but I like bad boys. I don't know ... they look sexier. I'm against judging by looks, but now a bad boy is turning my head and I can talk nonsense ... anyway. So my thought is that bad boys are more confident, they have some cold "radiance" and that it just drives me crazy. But let's not forget that not all bad boys dump girls / women right away. Some only suggest to others that they are bad, but in fact they are good and kind. Have you ever heard of "Devil with an angelic heart"? Well, that's a great example.
Maybe for a start we need to try to portray the "bad boy". And so: The bad boy is distinguished by his rebellious spirit. He will never like the things around him on a herd basis. He will look for his own paths and most often they will not be the ones trodden before him. Therefore, he has his own style and this style is inimitable. The bad boy does not have slimy behavior. It will never bother you, no matter what happened to it. He will grit his teeth and move forward with a stony face. He will show firmness even when you whine. With it, forget about nights when you will water handkerchiefs with your tears together. He will not do this, and he will not allow you to do it. The bad boy is an individual, sometimes to the point of misanthropy. He has many acquaintances, but very few close friends. It is not exactly the soul of the company, although when it is in the "have fun" phase it can gather everyone around it. However, when the bad boy is not in the mood, this can never go unnoticed. The bad boy is a tough man. He solves the problems by going through them with the power of a heavy truck. He is rarely a diplomat, but his behavior is disarmingly macho. He just can't do it any other way. And here somewhere we come to part of the explanation of the fact why girls are fatally and forever attracted to bad boys. Because they are men to the marrow of their bones. Everything in them is testosterone. And not only that - in them testosterone boils and boils. He attracts after himself and does not tolerate compromises. And we women love to be fatally attracted, even doomed. We all lose our minds about the forbidden, strong and intolerant objection of radiation and behavior.
I think the bad guys in question just know how to enchant the girl. They have self-confidence. They can look at her, smile at her, go to her and without bothering to meet her .. well at least that's how I noticed .. I had cast an eye on one, there was a bad boy and he always smiled at me when he looked at me, he finally came, met me, took me down, and finally dumped me. I was relieved that I got rid of it, but then there was a lot of pain. So my opinion is that just the bad boys know how to act towards the girls .. G16
I was a bad boy but when I met X I just changed before I got up with the idea to go to Eurofootball then to fight with some but just when I met her we hadn't even left and I stopped with all this because I knew that sometimes I would make a problem with her so sweet girls just a smile and one look can make a bad boy nai exemplary Boy 17
To comment number 20. The characteristic he gave for the "bad boys" has nothing to do with them and with the same force applies to the "good boys" or rather - for men. You described a type of rebellion, masculine qualities. The only closer quality that comes close to the so-called "bad boy" type seen in your post is that of uncontrollable testosterone. That he can't control his emotions. Don't think with your head, by the way, with your gray matter. He can't make the right decisions. In fact, it is understood here that the notions of bad and good are different for everyone and there is no exact description. But anyway. Girls fall for bad boys because they are more liberated. Easier contact with the opposite sex. They have no restraints. The primary pushes them. They are experienced and know how to skillfully take down a girl - with or without caresses. But it is no coincidence that we are talking about girls and boys. Because there comes a time when mom and dad's money stops satisfying whims. You have to win them yourself. And then the big "matchmakers", the once big thugs, start to blow up. Otherwise yes. Everyone is looking for and attracted by the unattainable, the unknown, the modern and so on. Until he learns.
I support 23 - everyone here has a different idea of a "bad boy". According to some, he is a rebel, according to others he is a babayit at a table, according to others he is a superficial lizard, according to others he is a drug addict (and there was such a comment) ...
First I want to note that the author talks about men and relationships but he is my age and certainly does not know the difference between a bad boy and a man. I'm a lady for the record. I also wanted to add that when the author said that all girls fall for bad boys, Emmy, that's not exactly how you get into some American super dumb clichés, which has nothing to do with the truth. We just want someone to love us, but if you are shy, without self-confidence and do not come to meet at least do not expect the first step to make it come with health and luck in relationships.
Why do women date bad boys? There's a great thrill in the bad guys. You know you can't have them, and at the same time you just goosebumps at the thought of them. _Black ^ Jack_
Because masochism is embedded in the psyche of women and that is why we often run after men who only hurt us and treat us like garbage. And there is a difference, one is a bad boy who is just a rebel. It's different when you're attracted to a really unworthy person who's not good for you in any way.
I think it's because of everyone's ego. Our nature is like this - not to be grateful and to be always dissatisfied. And in some men such a phenomenon is observed. From personal experience I share that for 3 years I prayed to one man, as much as he repulsed me, insulted me and did not want me, the more I died for him, for me there was no other. I wondered why other men liked me and wanted to be with me and he didn't. All sorts of plots were spinning in my head to impress him and what else to make interesting, to prove to him that I am the big deal. I was tormented and tormented a lot until one day I realized and stopped exposing myself. Now that I feel that someone smells like a bad boy and look at me how interesting and strange I am. I learned my lesson and I want a normal man who will respect me and be tactful with me and be with me as I am.
As you say, you make the "bad" boys almost criminals and liars looking for attention, but it's not always like that (at least I think so) ... There are different "types" of them. For example: careless loners, they are not always bad and do not notice what is happening around them or the passing girl can be shy, kind and much better to the girl. Or, for example, the rebels - you say that no one can change them, it is not always so, just a smile or a hug from the right person can change them. Or those who fight at school, or drug addicts, or alcoholics - think about it if they behave like that because of personal problems?!? And again, I come back to the fact that the right person can change them ... And about why girls / women fall for bad boys in most cases. Why?!? Because they know how to fit, they have radiance and great self-confidence. But in some cases, under this muscular and seemingly indestructible statue stands a kind, kind and smart gentleman ... So that there is not always a cold heart under them. For protocol G13
First to tell the men, or whatever it feels like, that doesn't give you a reason to change! Now I bet a lot of you have been motivated to become "bad" guys because this topic has given more negative opinions that they are cooler or sexier. No one can give an individual correct definition of a bad and a good boy, some look bad and are good, and vice versa. I'm a 17-year-old boy, although I don't look like that, I'm much more developed than my sets, I speak in physique and face. Muscles have nothing to do with who is bad and good, to be honest from my school I and another boy have the best physiques and I speak quite good, not those swagger-read who like 60 kilos of paper. I'm likened to a "bad boy," because I look like that and in general I don't pay attention to many girls, and their eyes are constantly on me and NO, my ego is not big, I just give chances to those girls who fight the most sparingly for me. Everyone individually should be themselves, because you do not know what the girl in front of you likes, if you are lucky it will shine on you.
G16 Well, I've always only liked "good guys" for the simple reason that they wouldn't break your heart the way the "bad guys" would, they don't just want to ... be with you and they respect you. With them one can have intelligent conversations and have a good time. And what if some of them wear glasses or have ugly hairstyles? Echo! More important is what is under the hairstyle and glasses! ;) to number 4 - there are "good guys" who are no less sweet than the bad ones. "And what do you like about them? Don't they respect you? Do they treat you rudely? Can't you? Have a meaningful conversation with them? Never know if they love you or your body? I give you all the "bad guys", I won't!