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Why Do I Annoy People?

By sammy_evans2 July 20, 2020 3 answers Last updated July 20, 2020

Hello, I am a boy of 20 and a few years, I will not say exactly how much and something has been daring me for some time. Why do some people around me get angry and try to provoke me, to irritate me, and when they see that nothing works for them, they start imitating me or something like that?

I had a colleague at university who tried very hard to imitate me, and when I asked him something in 90 percent of cases he answered me with a lie or something made up, he was my friend, we were both wandering around, but I never understood his behavior. It's the same thing with some friends now - they are constantly trying to irritate me, they ask me stupid, the same questions, they make fun of me, for example, for not wearing branded clothes and T-shirts for 100 euros and various ones, and at the same time I need something serious to finish for them naturally become super nice and big guys, as we do the job again in the old way. Here I know that some will say that they use me and this is true, but why the hell should they try to provoke me in some way. I've tried with a bad example, well, disappear, do not bother me and others, but then things start to go to war. I do not have a high opinion of myself, I do not fly in the clouds, I try to be strict and correct in every way, both in the family and with friends and at work, but everywhere the same. I'm a little more serious and curious, but I'm not a tree, I can't laugh when it comes to serious things.

 

The other thing is that I'm super calm, I think about everything and I'm in no hurry. Even at work, there are colleagues (my age) who, for example, have missed something that I have seen after them and there is still tension from it. I purposely mean that everyone is my age.

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monis_hotx answered · July 20, 2020
I think they are spoiled! They have problems and they are trying to make it happen to you ... You will succeed more ... MUCH MORE! Don't worry, you will see that everything will be fine! As for the title, they annoy you, not you!
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aileen_williams answered · July 20, 2020
The girl before me is right that they are annoying you, not you. 'I don't have a high opinion of myself' - you don't have self-confidence, they feel it and they get it on you because they feel it's 'safe'. In fact, they themselves do not have much self-confidence, but compared to you they have more (they have a higher opinion of themselves than you do of you) and they use it to lift it 'on your back' in addition to using you to do it to them. some stuff. Where you say that you tried badly, but it got to 'fight' - then they are used to you to behave meekly, kindly and obediently, and when you react so suddenly 'badly' they in turn react to you as some parents (from that mega elementary choir) to whom their child has refused to behave 'obediently', have opposed 'authority'. (Let's read 'authority' here with hellish mega-thick quotes, because real authority has nothing to do with fighting and various such emotional excesses with elements of physical and verbal aggression) If you are 20 or so and not a student, then you have the opportunity to end contact with them. Stop helping them with this and that, start saying you're busy. Start doing some things like hobbies and / or sports, but without them, so that you feel really busy and start to really value your personal time! When you say I'm busy, you really sound like a busy person! Find a new job. Don't be so self-sacrificing at your new job, I'm not telling anyone not to help at all, but always look at yourself and your things first! Take that head up and don't explain yourself too much to this and that. pp: I am a woman (g30) and I am 'surprised' that none of the knowledgeable men wrote you any advice, or at least a few lines of solidarity from the famous male solidarity.
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maturecurvy answered · July 20, 2020
From the author. Thank you for the answers. You are absolutely right. In fact, I have answered the question myself - low self-esteem, low self-esteem in certain situations, as you want to call it. In fact, the law of the jungle is completely valid in this case - the stronger eats the weaker. I need a change in myself. I have never liked to stand out and brag. Small things that others praise to the heavens, I take for nothing work and do not attach any importance to them. And as at school, the strong students begin to bully the weak. Obviously I will need a gradual change in myself. I say gradual so that people can get used to me and my new role. Regarding those who asked me only for a service, when I started to refuse them and stopped looking for me - interested, what can I tell you. And it is very true that you don't have to explain everything very much, you have to talk more superficially. I will not demand who knows what from people and I will not give them who knows what. Unfortunately, we live in such a time - if you do not pretend to be dirty with a wet rag, you are a kind of mansion, if you are uninteresting and boring, until you have to intervene for something that others can not, because they have become in a flock, then you become good.
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