It may sound unbelievable, but for me my mother is a narcissist, my husband is a narcissist mixed with a sadist, my friend I was madly in love with is also a narcissist to the highest degree. The people I loved with true love are real narcissists and have inflicted countless wounds on me, and I still love them very much. I try to learn self-esteem and not succumb to their manipulations, but I fail. I put myself in the center, ostensibly, and again I attach myself to their nasty nonsense and cruel mental intrigues. I'm already thinking of going to a psychologist or psychotherapist, I don't know how to save myself anymore. The other two anyway, but my mother, she's my biggest pain. I love her very much, with strong love, I feel like a child lost in the woods, who is calling and looking for her mother, but she is still gone. I only receive humiliations and accusations from her. How she's upstairs, and I am very, very low with everything. And this is not real - I am an ordinary woman, with an ordinary profession - educated with a good appearance, respected in society, I am a very ordinary person. But her words and behavior towards me are terribly humiliating. I see in an abnormal way she is jealous that she is 60 and I am 38, she insults and hates me even because I am in good health and she is still in pain somewhere. I love her so much with great love, the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in myself and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. with an ordinary profession - educated with a good appearance, respected in society, I am a very ordinary person. But her words and behavior towards me are terribly humiliating. I see in an abnormal way she is jealous that she is 60 and I am 38, she insults and hates me even because I am in good health and she is still in pain somewhere.
I love her so much with great love, the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in myself and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. with an ordinary profession - educated with a good appearance, respected in society, I am a very ordinary person. But her words and behavior towards me are terribly humiliating. I see in an abnormal way she is jealous that she is 60 and I am 38, she insults and hates me even because I am in good health and she is still in pain somewhere. I love her so much with great love, the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation.
How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in me and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive, and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. But her words and behavior towards me are terribly humiliating. I see in an abnormal way she is jealous that she is 60 and I am 38, she insults and hates me even because I am in good health and she is still in pain somewhere. I love her so much with great love, the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in myself and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive and smiling.
I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. But her words and behavior towards me are terribly humiliating. I see in an abnormal way she is jealous that she is 60 and I am 38, she insults and hates me even because I am in good health and she is still in pain somewhere. I love her so much with great love, the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in me and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in myself and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me. the feedback I get is hatred, insults, humiliation. How to deal with these narcissists, what to change in me and I do not know. I am a polite and sensitive person, good-natured, attentive, and smiling. I don't know what I am like to be left alone by these heartless creatures and to start treating me normally and culturally and to stop harassing me.
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What is a "narcissist"? In Germany in the 1940s, people were fleeing the Nazis. Now you from the Nazis. It's good that you didn't miss the letter "P" because otherwise it would have turned out very comically. Do you mean people with narcissistic disorder?
As far as I understand, your problem is not that you attract them, but you get used to them, and you have correctly oriented yourself to a psychologist ...
First, in order to recover emotionally, get a divorce. If you don't, she will blame you for her problems. Second, before looking for a new man, find out what live bombing is and avoid people who practice it. Bormal people don't, and you might think you don't have chemistry with them for that reason. Watch the videos of this woman from the link. Restrict communication with your mother, she will not change. If she treats you badly, just don't go to her and only call her on holidays. https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=share&v=BzacZ0AVNW4#menu
You are an independent adult 38 people. With mom a distant and respectful relationship without deepening. Your husband, decide for yourself whether to go with him. The problem is in you, how you perceive the world and what you choose. Talk to a specialist.
Because you are an empath. Empaths attract daffodils.
You can't change people. And you can change yourself by starting to see others who are not beautiful, are not vain and hold on to human and moral values. Obviously, the things they attract in men are not valuable things. And you can forgive your mother, you can't do anything else
You have to learn to have a certain personal boundary, a personal space, which once you close to close for further communication, to end the communication. You have to respect yourself in order for others to respect you. This is a difficult lesson, but this is the way.
You consider yourself educated, and here's how you write - "The people I loved" !? Is this education? Obviously this is the way of thinking, look for the guilt in yourself!
The word "narcissist" does not exist, the correct one is "narcissist".
You are an illiterate soul, I don't understand at all what good education you are talking about ...
Well, don't let them behave that way. You are a good person, at least as it is written, be good to yourself. Can't you separate from your mother and / or keep her away? I understand, you love her, but your relationship is not healthy for you, even more so - she allows herself to offend you. For your husband you are more robbed, you seem to me somehow reconciled with these relationships, and you should not because they are even more important. This is the person who should support you and make you feel happy, not "lost". I think that the people in your life take advantage of being "good-natured, polite, considerate ..." to make them feel good and fulfill their selfish desires. You love them, but first of all love yourself, I tell you from personal experience.
Author: Thank you very much for the nice comments!
Someone above wrote the diagnosis - you are attracted to them, not you. In general, not bad, for many people it is a pleasure to be subjected to more dominant and bright personalities. However, you have experienced some discomfort. There is no way to change relationships built over decades. Either you stop communicating with your daffodils or you squeeze your rags and endure.
As they have already written it to you, not you, but you are attracted to such people. I was and maybe still am to some extent, but I try to work it out. You need to start loving yourself first and standing up for your rights. Otherwise, people take advantage of you. You have to forgive and accept your mother, but you don't have to live with your husband. This is how you enter the role of a victim from which there is no way out.
From the author: It's true, I'm attracted to them, they don't want me very much, obviously they can't get enough from me. It is true that I mostly look at the appearance, but with those that do not attract me physically I have tried and coffee with them is not interesting. With the nice ones in bed it's great. I know it sounds dull and superficial, but that's the situation. I don't enjoy people who don't like me physically, it's about partners. I'm so confused, I'm ashamed. I'd rather suffer for my nasty friend I was madly in love with than get into an unattractive good man. I know it's not right, I have to give importance to human qualities, not physical ones. Thanks for the meaningful comments, I understood where I was wrong. I hope things work out for me too, that my life is a sad movie.
the exact word is not narcissists, but psychopaths, and you are a victim of psychopaths with Stockholm syndrome, obviously ...
Number 16, you're right, obviously, I'll visit a psychologist, I have a very soft character, I'm very empathetic. Too good a person hurts himself, in case I hurt myself. My mother doesn't like something in particular, when I'm fine she humiliates me and makes me sad, when I'm sick she doesn't sympathize with me and puts me alone and humiliates me again. I think my mother made me a victim of egocentrics.