Hi, what I've been thinking about lately is why men reappear after they've stopped communicating with a girl! When you meet someone on a social network and continue to write for a while and they like you in some way, he invites you on a date. In my case, when we go out and things don't work out, we stop writing to each other or he disappears without saying what he didn't like, even if I asked, the answer was always "I don't know". Okay, I accept the fact that things won't work out, and just when I stop caring about this person, he comes back (after at least 3-4 months) on a white horse as if nothing happened, as if we never went out and starts all over again - getting to know me, compliments, inviting meetings again. What I can't understand is why men do this (why they reappear in a woman, which they obviously did not like). I am of the opinion that somewhere where it did not work out the first time, the second time will not be any different. Let me tell you personally, these guys that I've only dated once always reappear after a while (months, years). I stop caring, but they reappear with the words that this time they were serious, that this time it will be different. I'm not going out a second time, I explained above why. The last such incident was when I was dating a boy we had been dating for about a month.
He seemed to be losing interest in me during our chat because of my character, but he still wanted us out. I decided I had nothing to lose and I went out with him, he complimented me on how beautiful I was, we didn't stop talking, he said what had made a bad impression on him (I didn't know if he had changed his mind or not, but also from chat is it so easy to determine a person's character). At the end of the meeting he kissed me, we hugged and held hands. He sent me and said that we would see each other again (watching all the time how I reacted to this sentence), he wrote to me when he came home and the next day again the nasty behavior (writing one or two words at long intervals). I didn't know what to think, I asked him if I would see him again, but he refused. He explained to me about the kiss that he wanted her at that moment and that if he hadn't kissed me he would have been dumb ... (in my opinion, when you don't like someone you just don't kiss them). We tried to keep friends, but it didn't work out and we stopped writing to each other, he just commented on photos of how beautiful I was and how much. You can guess that we only went out once. Several months have passed - we study in the same place and when we see each other we greet each other, there have been cases in which we stared, but we did not have any conversations. And just when I stopped caring about him, he wrote to me again. I kept my distance and hardly answered him, and he did not stop looking for me. We wrote to each other, nothing more personal, and he invited me out again, told me that we could try to get things done this time because nothing was known.
He said about our first date that he didn't have time and decided not to bother me, so things didn't work out, but now he wasn't so busy and wanted a girlfriend (and the first time before we went out he wanted a girlfriend). My question is what men look at on a first date in women and what exactly would repel them. When they explain that they are looking for loyalty, honesty, and love, are there any other things that men do not say? but they want and look after them. I don't think that on a first date you can get to know a person of character so well, but in this case, the problem is not in appearance. Honestly, I was a little cold, could he have thought I had no interest in him and that made him stop caring about me, or did I just look anxious. And if the problem was that he didn't like me for some reason and has a negative opinion of me, why is he inviting me again now (he changed his mind or ...).
I guess there was another one that didn't work out, but he denied it (he's unlikely to tell the truth about it). In general, why do men go back to where they decided they had no more work. Honestly, I was a little cold, could he have thought I had no interest in him and that made him stop caring about me, or did I just look anxious. And if the problem was that he didn't like me for some reason and has a negative opinion of me, why is he inviting me again now (he changed his mind or ...). I guess there was another one that didn't work out, but he denied it (he's unlikely, to tell the truth about it). In general, why do men go back to where they decided they had no more work. Honestly, I was a little cold, could he have thought I had no interest in him and that made him stop caring about me, or did I just look anxious. And if the problem was that he didn't like me for some reason and has a negative opinion of me, why is he inviting me again now (he changed his mind or ...). I guess there was another one that didn't work out, but he denied it (he's unlikely, to tell the truth about it). In general, why do men go back to where they decided they had no more work. I guess there was another one that didn't work out, but he denied it (he's unlikely, to tell the truth about it). In general, why do men go back to where they decided they had no more work. I guess there was another one that didn't work out, but he denied it (he's unlikely, to tell the truth about it). In general, why do men go back to where they decided they had no more work.
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Because at the moment there is no other. Because they try and which binds. Because they shout to each other: "Abe, she wasn't so bad, we were fine, but I slapped things, maybe she still wants me and doesn't cut me if I look for her." One kind of act of luck. And I find it strange how a person who decides he doesn't want me then searches me again. I will be interested to read reviews.
Only a woman can explain her question with so many unnecessary writings ...
For sex if you let go. For bloating, from boredom. Because there is no other. Don't waste time thinking about people who don't care about you and have no respect.
The same movies with me and I have finally given up dating through social networks. They seem to like it a lot, explanations and are made open during the first meeting (without sex) and then there will be no smoke. I'm tired of it too. It's obviously massive. F 41
You know very well why. He didn't like you enough. He is writing to you because he has not been able to find anything better for this period and has decided to try you. The moment you find a better party, the scenario from the first time will be repeated. So if you are looking for something to do until something better comes, go, otherwise it is not worth wasting time and effort.
If you think it's because of your irresistible charm or your intellect and character, you're wrong. They come back because they are left dry, the one after you didn't let them go and they think you're easier.
The answer to your question is extremely simple, but unfortunately we live in a very sensitive society that does not tolerate politically incorrect speech and thus many truths are kept secret and many people are mistaken. Let me start a little further so that you understand me better. We are talking about elementary gender dynamics, where the most important thing (for both men and women) is the "options" factor, ie how big your choice is at the moment. Everyone strives to be in the role of choosing and evaluating, not the other way around, because that way there is no control over things. For you women, this is naturally much easier, for the simple reason that you are in a more passive and waiting role, you are approached by a variety of men and, accordingly, this automatically puts you in the role of evaluators and voters. Det 'is called - and the knife, and the bread is in your hands! For men, this is far more difficult to achieve and really few reach this level to have a large selection of beautiful and quality women. To achieve this level, a man must have an abundance of qualities: appearance, confidence, self-confidence, to be active and social (ie to go to places where there is a flow of beautiful women) to earn well, to be fun. and with a sense of humor, to be a protector, etc., etc. For you women, all you need in practice is to walk out the front door of your homes. Now, specifically to your questions: This or those who communicate with you, you come to a live meeting and subsequently end the relationship with you, most likely - in parallel with you - have communicated with 2-3 other girls at the same time. Accordingly, it is very likely that in their eyes one of the others was valued better and higher than you, respectively you are already going further back in the "deck", but you are not totally taken out of it to sit as an option. I know it sounds rude, but it's true in practice. It is a normal human endeavor to fight for the best that is around us at the moment. Whereupon one of the others has apparently cut them off and they are coming back to you. And when you definitely cut off another boy, it is quite possible that he will come back and try again with someone else less nice than you, etc. You get the idea, I guess. Another possibility I can think of is that he liked you as an appearance, but that you didn't like him as an intellect / character / behavior / way of thinking and that he decided that he didn't want any deeper relationship with you, but don't mind sleeping together chat-pat. Regarding your other question - in my opinion, most men look at the appearance, if it is okay, we are already going to look at what qualities you have, character, worldview, etc., and what we are starting from is strictly individual.
Because somewhere in his mind, you're in the reserve column. That is, not exactly a dream boyfriend, but "Abe, it's happening". Will it be just for sex, but still reserve if you do not find a better, sexier. And when he doesn't find it, he thinks of you, for example, someone who has almost reached the rank of his girlfriend. He may want to sleep with you, or see if anything in your behavior has changed. Or whether you're going to see a man who lost you at some point. That is, you are on the bench, and he brings you out of the dust for his own reasons. I do not accept such invitations, even if it is for coffee. Once we are done, we are done. You didn't like me, or I liked you. There is no point in further contact when someone is dry or bored. I respect people enough not to bother them again or to be my reservations. Some men do not have such scruples, and they think I have forgotten attitude, talk. Well, I'm not. I wished everyone well and everyone in their path. Respect people enough so that you don't bother them again, no matter who lost whom or what went wrong. Everyone has the right to choose, and he must be respected. I hate such attempts at reserves, regardless of gender. It's disrespectful.
Interesting opinions, it and I left one, a little from the point of view of a woman who ends a relationship. I have been sought by men whom I have "cut off" and many times, over the years, some even continue. There were also those with whom we communicated (they took me down) for a year or two without sex between us. There were those who persecuted me as psychopaths. So there are all kinds of men. I will tell you again - do not waste your time thinking about the behavior of people who are not very interested in you in a real and serious way (relationship or marriage).