I am writing this because I have had several such extremely unpleasant and annoying cases - and I was indignant, even irritated. I'm not talking about annoying friends, because friends, come on, are forgiven. Partners, family - too. Even to those who always want services. I'm talking about obsessive, obsessive people in love, who can't stand rejection and are filmed. In other words - people that you either bring into the friendly zone (it's unpleasant, but I'm always honest), or you just reject it because you don't like it mentally. But they continue to be impudent. As well as those that stick to the beginning and behave as if you owe them something. The young lady wrote to me today, I was 5 minutes late and she immediately took care of me, as if I had been her husband for years. I'm tired of such! Girls must find it even harder to get rid of annoyances, but there is no getting rid of the reptiles. As a character, I'm not rude, I'm even too friendly and kind, so they obviously overdo it. At the same time, I am closed, secretive, shy and more withdrawn. My interests are quite different from those of most young people. I have never been rude to a girl, especially one who has written to me or spoken to me. I have low self-esteem, but I support myself a lot and most people find me quite attractive and often girls try to make contact with me, at the risk of sounding immodest. I just include details to find out what it's all about. And in general, I can't directly cut a person or insult him, I've always been so sick. But some just overdo it and don't feel it. I'm not saying that there are 1000 girls, but that let's say there are 4-5, which, however, have stuck in my mind because of their impudence and arrogance. Otherwise, I have feelings for only one friend and she is not one of the above. I just like meeting different people, including girls, but I don't look at them as anything more than girlfriends. But what happens ... For example, I met a girl in an application and everything was normal - we had meaningful conversations on various topics. At the end of the same day, she explained her love to me and wanted to see me. I told her that we needed to get to know each other for a while, and as for the relationship, that I already had someone and I wasn't looking for another. I received a rather rude answer and a blocking. OK. From a similar one I received an answer like - "I have enough friends, I'm looking for a boyfriend". But put that aside. Another girl had gone crazy after we just went out for a drink and sent me presents, called me every day, threatened me, that she would commit suicide if I stopped communicating with her and such. Eventually I got rid of my teeth and nails. Now I don't feel so worried about cutting the annoyances! Because the border crosses. I really hate when someone behaves as if I have to like him or communicate with him. It happened that I told a person that I no longer wanted him to be present in my life and for him to continue to persist (again, this is a girl, she is the same obsession). I'm tired of leagues in my case and of complex matchmakers in the case of many girls who can't stand failure! People, learn that you have to respect people's free will. My cases are nothing compared to those of some others. Here I had read to a girl the story that she was teased in the discos (where I don't go, chalga and BG rap are too disgusting to me) the annoyances and commentators justified them. It was good tell me - what kind of pathetic people without a gram of self-esteem ask for attention, love and communication at all from a person who does not want them in one way or another? I just got fed up! What do you think about the issue in general - about the annoyance in the networks and live? Have you experienced it and how did you react? M23
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Ha and do you have social contacts outside the networks? Or whatever network you pull out. There is a real obsession, but not the girls and you are obsessed with virtual reality. Can you now distinguish the real from the virtual self? And which of them is more obsessed with you than the impudent ones. And this, the memory that you are about is a real or virtual person? n a person if he wants to g A person suffering from a deprived opportunity in his desire to live, to do his job, why so persistently strives to transfer living life behind the monitor, so that only the culprit can be outside. Life is not here and it is not. Ziamta, come on, come on. But to take your family on vacation and stick to the monitor on arrival ... I'm starting to think that I'm not the one who got lost and lost. I don't want to comment on teaching. I'm sad even when it's not worth the minchishuta until now. There is something to learn from every person in the world. In two months, what I learned, it is not easy for people to get to stubbornly and consciously. The important thing is that I pulled out my own skin.
There is also a sweet boredom sometimes. Here I found my first place to hide from loneliness. When you are bored why you came to eat. and it gave you reason to follow me. But I was glad you still had something to give you reason to follow me. However, the bad thing is that I can't stay anymore. Behind the monitor is no better. I feel sick and aggression accumulates somehow.
Security. Is there one here? And what prevents security when I'm in front of you. Is there anything safer than me so far.
"otherwise I have feelings for a friend and she is not one of the above" this is what I needed and what you deny
Author: What are you blabbering on about, man? Are you drunk? I have a social life, I mentioned that we are talking about people in the network and outside it. The girl in question, who was stalking me, had taken my number without permission and made all sorts of movies. She was not from the internet. Come on, I agree that there are a lot of freaks about virtual communication, although there are decent people. But I say in principle that there are people who pursue, "stalkers", obsessive. Do these people not have a measure, do they not tolerate rejection? I can show you at least 5 stories from the site, what annoying psychosis it is! I wonder how they don't stop? They annoy me. You cannot force someone to like you, love you, be your friend or even talk / write to you.
I don't want to be rude, but I didn't understand anything from the commentator with the first 4 comments. Everything is so incoherent that I read it several times and I still don't know what he was trying to say. Add to that the fact that he ate half the letters, completely. At one time I even thought that some of these girls who cut off the author recognized him and wrote these comments. Strange thing, I'm still puzzled.
Hahah, it's kind of nice to read that a man can have the same "annoying problems. I guess now you better understand the cold female eyes" disappearance or absolute ignorance to the cruel nasty cutting that men complain about. Well, yes, it says that we really have to protect our space like animals, otherwise the categorical NO.
Hello, author! When I read your story, I said to myself - well, they are chasing you so much and hanging around your neck, you have been filmed a lot ... However, now I apologize to you publicly, because you are a victim of an annoying person AGAIN! Comments 1, 2, 3 and 4 are from the same person! I can't believe I sympathize with you and I just don't know what to advise you!
I'm a girl, I'm 20 years old and from about 8th grade boys started writing to me, picking up my phone or talking to me face to face. Before, I couldn't say in plain text that I had no interest or desire, I whined, hinted and was afraid of hurting someone, but once a boy clung to me, went with me after school, even though I didn't want to, and finally kissed me. , although I pulled away quite visibly, and the moment he bent down, I said a clear and loud "No, don't." I was 14 and he was 18. He was at least twice my weight and half a head above me. I was very scared then, he had neglected pushing, pulling and my preliminary words to achieve what he wanted. I told him plainly that I didn't like him behaving like that, much less since I didn't give him a reason, then I blocked it from all the nets and we were greeted in the corridors. I learned how to deal with it, because several times I have come across many insistent people who do not understand a word and their actions become even rude and extreme. I do not receive strangers in the networks, I do not pick up the phone at unrecorded numbers and I do not go out with people who hold my account or persecute me. I do not add to my friends anyone whom I have not seen at least a few times live and I have not considered to be normal and modest. For me, things are different, I am a woman and I have to take care of myself, it would be very foolish to look for him and then complain about what happened to me. However, I think that these things that I mentioned above are quite normal methods for screening out acquaintances. When someone talks to me, I don't pretend to be crazy, I answer and sometimes a very interesting conversation ensues,
I have exactly the same situation, except that you don't have self-confidence, and I do, and you don't listen to a lot of BG music, I'm a jerk. But this by the way. I have exactly the same situation and I have tried normal speaking, light cutting, presenting the circumstances and there is no brother. You just won't get rid of it. If she hurts herself, which most likely won't happen, don't feel guilty, she lost her own life. And they threatened me like that, as if I care, it's for them.
In general, I somewhat agree with quite a few of the things you wrote. That we are not obliged to like everyone and communicate with everyone. I have also had two similar cases, as with both boys, who I thought were friends, at one point, quite unexpectedly and out of nowhere, they began to insist that we give ourselves a chance for something more. For me personally, both situations were like thunder from a clear sky, and by no means do I think there have been occasions for such things. The dumbest thing is that one of them, after I refused him and repeatedly explained that I was not on this wave at the moment, started behaving super aggressively and nasty and generally forced me to start avoiding him. The other boy and I are still texting and seeing each other while going out with mutual friends, but things are not the same as before. In general, I think you're very right about that, that no one has the right to expect something like that from you, just because it occurred to him / her that something had to happen. Even more so, as you wrote, if you met very recently or from a first date, etc. I personally know one of these people from a child and it is even worse when it comes to such situations. On the other hand, it struck me that you're talking about some dating app or something, and it's possible that the people you're writing to there have come in with different expectations, rather than looking for friends, so maybe not it is bad to specify these details at the beginning so that there are no angry ones later. Although it seems that people can always surprise you badly. if you met very recently or from a first date, etc. I personally know one of these people from a child and it is even worse when it comes to such situations. On the other hand, it struck me that you're talking about some dating app or something, and it's possible that the people you're writing to there have come in with different expectations, rather than looking for friends, so maybe not it is bad to specify these details at the beginning so that there are no angry ones later. Although it seems that people can always surprise you badly. if you met very recently or from a first date, etc. I personally know one of these people from a child and it is even worse when it comes to such situations. On the other hand, it struck me that you're talking about some dating app or something, and it's possible that the people you're writing to there have come in with different expectations, rather than looking for friends, so maybe not it is bad to specify these details at the beginning so that there are no angry ones later. Although it seems that people can always surprise you badly. to have come in with different expectations, not to look for friends, so maybe it's not bad to specify these details at the beginning, so that no one gets angry later. Although it seems that people can always surprise you badly. to have come in with different expectations, not to look for friends, so maybe it's not bad to specify these details at the beginning, so that no one gets angry later. Although it seems that people can always surprise you badly.
I fully support the author!
Well, they are just like that, accept it. Nowadays, these are the values of the girls (or at least the majority) - "I'm a super cool chick and I'll have it here, whatever happens." They trust each other so much that they think everyone likes them and dies to be with them. Which is not quite so. But there's no point in getting so annoyed - they'll struggle, they'll struggle, and they'll switch to "hey, who's he, I won't pray to him." And you are free. Just be patient. Nasty people disappear on their own when you are consistent enough in your actions. :)
Well, I'm one of the annoying ones you mentioned, and I recognized myself a little bit in this story. : D I annoyed a man, despite the fact that he rejected me because I loved him very much and I could not accept that this is the end between us. And in this case, my answer is - I was annoying because I loved madly. For the other kind of annoyance ... I can't answer.
number 1,2,3,4, why don't you fix your grammar first and clear your mind a little, then sit down and write comments. Do you have completed 7th grade?
Hi, I'm a woman. People have said that on someone else's back and a hundred sticks are few, but I still think that women are in a worse position. Of course, it is unpleasant for both sexes, but we also have fear. My worst story is when a colleague gets mad at me. I didn't even understand. We were at a gathering with colleagues and we were in the same direction with him and we left together / on foot /. Along the way he explained to me in love - I was shocked. But he began to explain things like how I was the woman to him and the like. I hinted that the feeling was not shared / I tried to be as kind as possible /, and he started pulling me to some dark streets "to talk calmly". I froze in horror. I threatened him while we were on the main street that I would shout if he didn't leave me at the moment. He was startled and I made him go in the opposite direction. Then I ran home. After this incident, he watched me constantly. He was constantly creating new profiles to harass me on social media. I'm blocking it, after 5 minutes I'm spamming from a new account. The same words - he would commit suicide. I ignored him. I was horrified. I asked my roommates to come and pick me up from work. He was following us. They threatened to leave me alone. Nothing helped. I finally left. This harassment was terrible ... I thought about it thousands of times and I didn't find my mistake. By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. I have always been strictly collegial with everyone. Apparently there are just such people. And those who attack here just haven't experienced it. How suddenly, without pushing him, someone becomes your pursuer. My thought was that if you're bored, we (women) sometimes have real reason to worry about our health and lives. I have a few stories similar to yours. One day a girl (again, I remind you that I am a woman) found my phone and kept calling me. I ignored her, and she kept calling for weeks. So much so that my phone kept me busy. I had a Nokia / from the first smartphones /. It turned out that this phone does not have the option to block a number. My options were to change my number, phone number or file a complaint with the police / I was not sure that this girl was 18 years old, so I decided to drop the complaint as an option /. And I changed my phone and all I was looking at was having a number booking option. That's how I reacted in one of the situations. I have another shocking story. 10 years ago I met a boy / he is already a man /. Even then he liked me and I saw him, but I didn't pay attention / I was 17 years old, beautiful and I regularly ignored my suitors /. Yes, but he fell in love. He started saying all sorts of things about me. How could I just be 18 and we were going to get married and all sorts of weird things / I specify that we didn't even hug this person, our closest contact is a handshake /. And then I didn't pay attention, but over the years, I don't know exactly how, this man became more and more obsessed with me. I avoided him, I saw that it was better not to have any contact, and he came with flowers in us. I didn't even let him in. He was standing in front of my block to see when I was leaving, waiting for me to go home. It's blocked everywhere, but my friends and acquaintances keep telling me, "Do you know who's asking about you?" This has been going on for 10 years now. I don't know how I challenged him. And I don't know how to react for him to leave me and watch his life. He is totally obsessed ... I don't know why there are such people, but I know how unpleasant it is. F27
Author, you are somehow attracting annoyances and psychopaths. Here, even here, from the very beginning he attracted the psychopath 1,2,3,4. Strange, but a fact.
7, I also put myself in the place of women and understand why they sometimes react that way. But do you know where the problem is? It's not that they cut the nuisances, they deserve it. The problem is that from one moment on, the non-boring people start cutting as well. And they are not to blame for the fact that 20 annoying people passed before them. They just decide to just get acquainted, followed by a violent reaction, and they sink into ignorance of why the reaction is so exaggerated, without really bothering, and then rightly left with the impression that women are evil. And women, at least on the first try, can be kinder and normally explain that they are not interested. If that doesn't help and the person continues to annoy, then I would already understand them to react like that.
№18 - Several thousand people with first experience ... and your life ended in explanations. What do you think, that you are not annoying with your "Let's just meet ...", they and the others start from that - where is the difference and how could I know it?
Besides, when you go to explain to someone how you found out that he is a psychopath, or that you don't like something in him and he already thinks that you are obliged to keep explaining yourself to him and follows question after question, from a dumb more dumb That's why I cut more to "H", so the next time he tries to say "Z-z-zz-z-zdra-wei!" to stutter!
19, even a few thousand explanations. And I'm not talking about the explained type of outbursts, but just to say "I'm not interested." That's enough and will end much faster than a fair. Even if the man does not understand a word and continues, I agree. "What do you think that you are not annoying with your" Let's just get to know ... "I personally do not get to know first, I speak in principle. What will be the first sentence does not matter. In principle, you have no moral right to cut a person brutally on the first sentence, because only one sentence doesn't make you annoying, if your proposal is obscene and direct, yes, if he refuses to accept the refusal after the first sentence, yes, but once again cut brutally, I understand. refuse, yes, but not to cut brutally, because it is not the man's fault that five more have passed before him, who deserved it. And by that logic, if even the first sentence is annoying, how can a woman find a man at all. Because, as far as I know, a first sentence is still needed for this purpose. If the woman takes the first step, she turns out to be annoying again. So how exactly will anything happen, ever without a first sentence?
From 14 to 38 - 24 years old, both old and young, have started to want "Let's just meet ...", I no longer want to "cut" them, but to shoot them! I am very sorry for the innocent, but experience shows that they are 1 in 1,000, I cannot afford to investigate them all and sort them fairly. The only thing that gives me peace of mind is to cut from the start. And a person who is not annoying will not be offended, will show understanding and at least will talk to me with something specific that I can answer, and not with banal clichés. If he thinks I have to like him or I have to explain to him why I don't like him - a machine gun for him!
22, of course you don't have to explain why you don't like it. I'm just saying that "I'm not interested" is a more adequate reaction than "fuck your mother", to which he will respond and you will lose much more time and nerves. I can't believe, as you say, that out of 1,000 people you say "I'm not interested", 999 start arguing and asking for explanations. Actually, I don't know, I'm not a woman, but at least I want to believe that such are the smaller part. If really almost everyone starts arguing after such an answer, to some extent I understand you to cut directly those with one sentence, but still they are not guilty of anything and in their place and you will not like it. And they may not have even intended to take you down, but simply want to meet in some other relationship. For example, you may seem familiar to them and have the assumption that you are either together in the nursery or, I know, something like that. And what are they to blame for some annoying?
Many things can and many times I have given a chance to explain to me what the interest is. Well, it usually either starts with lies or we go directly to the topic. All lost time and emotions. Those who care do not dare to talk to me at all, they show interest quite unobtrusively, but do not expect anything at any cost. The others - if I don't cut them at the beginning, they will do it after they realize that I will not play their script. And they will do it not just rudely, but brutally, followed by slander, and everything you said will be used against you, even if it was just "Hello". Well, I'm tired of every complex sending me to the other shore, because I didn't reflect it. I feel sorry for the modest boys, but I still think that if they really are and behave naturally, they could not provoke such a reaction. Still,
Author: Yes, it really happens to me to attract psychopaths - including men, but women prevail. If they write to me politely and LITERATELY "Do you want to meet?" or "Nice to meet you, I'm ..." I will answer, I like to make new contacts. It's the same in life. But usually just when a normal conversation with a seemingly decent person is started, it starts with a constant question where I am, why I don't answer, I had forgotten, I would be nervous. Wait, man, have we been communicating for a very short time? It has happened to me to tell them that I have personal problems, I do not have time to continue with the impudence. In that case, I block if this happens on the network. And yes, in most cases, from the beginning I clarify what my intentions are and what I am looking for. But as far as the Internet is concerned, this is a normal phenomenon there. If my friend or really a person who needs me, annoyed, I would understand and show empathy. But in this case, these are either muffins with a big ego that want attention, or some antisocial psychopaths and psychopaths. In private life, however, these have gone too far. Exactly the one who took my number, took it from a "friend". She is his acquaintance. I explicitly warn my relatives not to give my number back and forth, because I personally like to give it if I decide, and not someone else instead of me. Anyway. We went out with her once and I actually thought she was nice and normal, she was beautiful, but quite disturbing (more than me). We agreed that sometimes, when we are BOTH free, we can hear each other, but after the first meeting an urgent ringing started several times a day at awkward hours, quite often late. He sent me gifts and love letters as well. The drama continued with other nonsense on her part, but it will take a long time to tell. And this is not the only case! I can stand a little annoying girl, she's even cute. However, a psychopath with emotional instability - NO! I can't spare other people's feelings forever, especially when they don't think about mine. In another case, a girl was pulling on all my friends from my hometown and only I paid attention to her, they obviously knew what she was like. She clung to me and started behaving like my wife. She saw me going somewhere with my cousin and caused a scandal in the middle of the street! I was joking with her feelings. I didn't give this girl any hope, we weren't even close friends. I told her to get out of my life right away, and then she started with profiles and spam on social media, chasing the center to ask me about the reasons, which I had said quite clearly. I have no words. Because of her, I avoid going home and sitting in Sofia. I am not extreme as number 19, but I understand her as a woman, because women also experience fear, a psychiatrist can hurt them. Although I wouldn't cut a girl off just for "hello." But it is right to observe some limits. My family and friends don't go through them, let alone allow some strangers. I don't bother either. I feel when someone is not happy, and in general I always set boundaries for myself. The desperate man is a rather disgusting sight. The same goes for women, but to a lesser extent. Yet an obsessed woman can also cross boundaries, ruin relationships and a man's life in general, at least his peace of mind. That's why I may be outraged, not because I'm a filmmaker. Read the stories "I want her, who are maniacs to me. See how pathetic, desperate and humiliating it is. And think again! Why are there such annoyances? who are maniacs to me. See how pathetic, desperate and humiliating it is. And think again! Why are there such annoyances?
And that's what I'm wondering, H.
In your place, I would do a mental revision, am I not mistaken somewhere that specific things happen to me ... Everything always comes from within - outside. At least that's what I managed to find out in my 30s.
Transfer some annoyances here! As I am alone and sour, I will quickly get them on the right track. They will even apologize for the harassment. :)
Well, you put up with them, and then you complain ... "After the rain hood" as people say.
I'm one of the annoyances, too, but I don't mind that, I like it, but I try not to pay physical attention to the reproaches to me, I try to be in touch, no matter how crazy it sounds. such by nature or simply want to attract the attention of others.