I ask this question and I hope that after reading the topic you will try to understand what I mean. I think that no one will deny that there is no person who does not suffer in one way or another - some less, others too much, and some are even in constant suffering. I want to explain that I am not talking about physical suffering, because there are people who live their lives without any physical trauma or illness. Such people are, I would say, happy from this point of view. But I am talking about mental and psychic suffering and what are the causes of such suffering. I can give you many examples, for example, if someone loses a fairly large amount of money that he has earned with honest work. Or someone's car is stolen for good. Or someone's dog died. Even worse, if a woman in love is abandoned by her lover, she suffers so much even years in her life. There are countless other reasons, for example, if they fire you from a very good job most unexpectedly, or if your house burns down from an unquenchable fire, as there have been lately in Northern California. I will give another reason for mental suffering and I am sure that everyone will agree that this is really great mental suffering. For example, a loved one, loved by you, a friend, or your family, dies suddenly. Mental trauma is unbearable for many people. I will not list other reasons for mental suffering, but from those I have mentioned you can think for yourself how much more there is. But there are people, though very few, who easily cope with such conditions or rather do not allow them to overwhelm them. These are only very wise people. They have understood the vicissitudes of life and no matter what happens, they accept things calmly, without any torment. These wise people have come to some irrefutable truths in life - well, that's why they are wise.
One of these sages is Buddha. In his teaching, he says the causes of suffering and explains the essence of Buddhism in its FOUR NOBLE TRUTHS. Here is the truth: 1. SUFFERING 2. ATTACHMENT or BIBILITY From attachment and addiction to everything in life comes all our suffering. I repeat that it is an obsessive attachment and addiction. For example, someone necessarily wants to become a millionaire, another wants to have his own plane. Any such desires lead to greed, and greed is a great vice, and it leads to undesirable results, as a result of which there is mental suffering. This does not mean that we should not have good relations with all people or that we should not love our children and relatives. Or that we don't have to take care of our family members. Or that we don't have to save to buy a home for our family. No, our attitude to everything in life must be with the awareness that everything in life is temporary, that everything that is now, tomorrow or in years to come, will not have it. This applies to everything physical, to any relationship with people near or far. Now we have a beloved wife and children, but tomorrow they may be gone. We who think more deeply should expect the most incredible thing that can happen. Well, when you are mentally prepared for any vicissitudes in your life, you will not be torn by grief how this could have happened, you will accept the troubles as a sage. The complete elimination of unattainable desires leads to peace of mind and ... 3. BLESSING But in order to achieve this bliss we must follow ... 4. THE WAY And the path is: a. Proper understanding b. Correct thinking c. Correct speaking d. Correct action (deeds) in life e. Correct experience (way of experience) f. Correct effort g. Proper awareness h. Proper Meditation This is basically the essence of Buddhism. I know that there will be many disagreements and "wise" contradictions, but the spiritually enlightened Buddha in truth by attaining nirvikalpa samadi (spiritual merging of his Soul with the Spirit of God) has understood the absolute truth.
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Leave this Buddha to you. Let his child die in agony before his eyes, and see if he will not suffer. There is no way to get rid of suffering, we are human. But we can change our attitude towards him. And then we may suffer a little less, or at least for the smaller things, but there are things that are so heavy that no wisdom and philosophy will help, even if you are a Buddha yourself. I suffered a lot and for a long time. However, at one point I realized that my suffering was not really robbing me, it was even the best thing that could happen to me. Somehow I felt that this suffering had some power that sent it to me for a specific purpose. Seen from a human point of view. It's ugly to suffer, but on a larger scale it seems to me that in the other world you will be happy that you suffered in your lifetime. Many times I have wondered why this is happening to me, why this is happening to me, why couldn't this happen to me instead of chasing Mihalya for years. And I did not widow. However, the time came and I realized that this is exactly what I needed and now I am grateful that I suffered for a while. However, you have to have eyes to see the benefits. And these eyes, until you get them, are generally fucked by your mother, because you suffer a lot, while you pay attention to whose dick you are suffering from and what is being asked in the task.
Very interesting topic! I keep asking myself: why do people suffer? Why is this suffering necessary? .... Maybe because everyone is obliged to carry his cross? Or because suffering exalts us? .... Even the Savior has suffered for all of us. Personally, every foreign suffering kills me. You are talking about mental suffering, about Buddha ... I have been suffering from mental suffering for many years, which I am used to .... And I am also a Hindu. In Hinduism, things are viewed in a similar way - one should not be attached to anything! But unlike Buddhism, Hinduism is a very complex concept that does not rely on the philosophy of emptiness, on the contrary. Man is born, Krishnas say, to enjoy life. Suffering is the result of dharma, which we call karma - overcoming the mistakes of a past life. If you lived according to the prescriptions, you will be reborn into a higher life, and if not - then you appear in the body of a lower kind. Dostoevsky had said that a person is unhappy because he does not know that he is happy. Maybe someone should tell us that we are happy, and everything will be fine. Maybe we should love ourselves more, get rid of our neuroses. The world will become a better place when we start doing what we want and stop with "what we need".
Buddhism is a philosophy directed against the World of Phenomena, or to put it bluntly, against life. The Buddha baptized his son Rahula, which in the language he spoke (Pali or some form of Sanskrit) means "shackles". That is, the Buddha symbolically notes how his son shackles him in the World of the material, dualism. However, the Buddha educated his son according to his philosophy, and finally, when Rahula died before his father, the Buddha said that his son had not been reborn, which is supposedly the great achievement of Buddhism. The main idea of Buddhism is: The world is sewn, let's do what is necessary so that we are not reborn again! Otherwise, in every philosophy and religion there is something true and useful and good. Even in Christianity and Islam there are. Even in them it is said that one should not become too attached to the material, because it is transient.
You don't even know why on earth you are on this earth, and you're going to philosophize about why people suffer with these brainwashed brains? Just a sad sight.
How can you so ugly mock Buddhism above in the comments, as a Buddhist I feel disgusted. There is nothing sacred for Bulgarians. Instead of humbling yourself and realizing that your anger, affection and greed is the cause of unhappiness and becoming better !!!
The irony of Buddhism is that we should not be attached to anything, and non-attachment is again a kind of attachment - to non-attachment. Or that we should not want anything. But the desire not to want is again a desire. And in general, every philosophy is again an attachment to some idea. And life is not attachment or non-attachment. There is no universal formula or idea in life. It's all just an experience. Both attachment and non-attachment is an experience we need. In this respect, Taoism is closer to the truth, but it still remains a philosophy. The Tao Da Jin says: A name that can be called is not an eternal name. Supposedly, the moment you name the truth, you have already changed it. In this sense, it is not permanent, it is elusive. Like life. The moment you decide to name him, to put him in some philosophy, he always refutes you and runs away from you, it slips away from you. Hey, this is real life - elusive. Not amenable to definitions, formulas, ideas, frameworks, philosophies. Life is a secret that will never be solved.
People suffer because they are imperfect people. They make mistakes, they have expectations. I say this from the position of a person who has suffered a lot. Not exactly from other people's actions or material losses, but from sudden losses of loved ones. The point for me is to stand up, not to get angry, and to find the path to happiness again. Eventually everything will become clear.
It is normal to suffer. Here we are fulfilling with desires, many of which we cannot make come true or come true, it will be at a high price; here we are dependent on many things - food, water, loved ones; here we are limited in our capabilities; here we have forgotten many truths and are ignorant; here we have instincts that sometimes make us suffer; here we are vulnerable to diseases, etc. etc. Here just the conditions of the game are such - difficult. Maybe that's why we were sent here - to harden. But these harsh conditions create growth. Otherwise, in the other world, what kind of growth are we talking about, after everything is arranged for you - you don't need food or water, you are not limited by time, space and matter, everything is achieved only with thought. It's more of a stage of balance and learning theory - what I did, what I could improve, what else do I have to work on. But the real school is here. Some do not endure and surrender, others go through trials, no matter how hard it is for them and grow up.
Therefore, you have to get out of this situation or change it. I had a friend who was very busy when I saw her, after the 10th minute I was overwhelmed by boredom and sadness, but I ignored this and continued to see her, because of the long friendship. I realized one day that being bored and sad just shows that her company is not working well for me, the things she tells me are uninteresting to me. That is, these emotions have shown me that I need to get rid of this man, as I did.So these emotions were for good.The same is for example in a situation where a person feels desperate, helpless, burdened, crushed. This situation harms him in some way and prevents him from living well. Therefore, realizing this, he must do something to get out of it.
From the author. I want to give you a few cases from the lives of people who have experienced many unpleasant things in life and how they have reacted. Of course, few people will react calmly to unexpected many negative events in their lives, but we must think and reflect on things that may happen to us, or rather to assume that anything is possible in this life and if we something bad or unpleasant happened to react not heartbreakingly, but soberly without much torment. I will give you an example with myself. I was about 35 years old, I had a good job, but I had an accident and during my incapacity for work I was fired from the company. It was illegal, but the company did not return me to work for its own reasons. At first I was very angry, but one day while waiting to enter the doctor's office I suddenly said to myself, abe man why do you think that everything is guaranteed in this life, do not get angry with her and suddenly I was relieved. Less than 6 months passed and I found an even better and better paid job. I will give you an example from Bulgaria. I was very young and walking down the street I met an elderly neighbor who had a very sad expression on his face. I greeted him, and he almost cried aloud and told me that his son had died soon and that he himself was no longer alive. I wondered what to say to him, but it was clear to me that anything I told him would hardly calm down. Another case when I lived as a young man in Varna. There was a diner on the main one, which was then called Dobrogea. I took a yoghurt and two muffins and sat down at a table alone. Next to me at the next table stood two old men talking to each other. I understood from their conversation, that one old man is a retired Bulgarian from Canada and has returned to live out his old age in Bulgaria. The other old man was 85, but he was always laughing. He was an Italian shoe merchant and got very rich because he had a three- or four-story house opposite the casino in the sea garden. He told the other old man that when the communists came to nationalize his house, leaving him only one floor, and he laughed all over, and one of the men asked him, "Why are you laughing," and the old man replied, "To live." Even at a very young age, I understood the philosophy of the 85-year-old. He doesn't care that they take 2 or 3 floors above his. Another case from Bulgaria. I had a friend we worked with, but his father also worked for us. After a while, this friend went to work in tourism and from there he was sent to East Germany to learn German cuisine. But a few months later he suffered a bad accident and was returned a half-dead corpse. He died soon after. We went to see him before he was buried. His mother was shaking with grief, and his father did not show much mental suffering. He just said, "Abe, we know we're all going to die one day, but it was too early for him." Giving these examples, I want to say that we need to look at life with more open eyes and anticipate some things ahead in life and be ready to face them more calmly. We also need to be a little far-sighted. and his father did not show much mental suffering. He just said, "Abe, we know we're all going to die one day, but it was too early for him." Giving these examples, I want to say that we need to look at life with more open eyes and anticipate some things ahead in life and be ready to face them more calmly. We also need to be a little far-sighted. and his father did not show much mental suffering. He just said, "Abe, we know we're all going to die one day, but it was too early for him." Giving these examples, I want to say that we need to look at life with more open eyes and anticipate some things ahead in life and be ready to face them more calmly. We also need to be a little far-sighted.
10, yes, or in other words the pain is the difference between expectations and reality. If you expect that you will never get sick in your life, then even with the slightest cold, you will feel robbed and suffer. However, if you understand in advance that people sometimes get sick and there is nothing abnormal about it, then it will be a little easier for us to bear when we get the flu. In short, we need to know that we are human, that we are mortal and more humble, and that we know that such things happen. But also to know that every failure has its good side (which we do not always see in the beginning)
It is up to us to perceive a situation as suffering. Yes, it certainly hurt when ... and in many other situations it hurt, there was a lot, plus there was no one next to me, anyway. The point is that the pain of suffering itself is more painful than any painful situation. Situations pass, memories fade, but if you let go of the feeling - suffering, then it will hurt you, even if it is over. And life goes on while you are immersed in your own suffering.
And how will you know that you are well, if you are always well? Everything is relative. Relative to each other and to the general background.