I am a man of 26. The story is about my parents, not me, although I have the same observations in my life as in the relationships of many acquaintances and relatives around me. This is one thing that, although I know part of the answer, I am still trying to fully understand. Why do women constantly make remarks about everything to their husbands, replicate, tease and in general every word is commented on or the man is corrected, faces are made, etc. What pleasure do such women feel as if they have no other job I have the feeling that it becomes purely instinctive. They don't even think about what the man said and the reply verbal attack against him is sent directly. People, I'm writing this story because my father was literally ruined by my mother. I'm watching from the sidelines and I can't figure out what kind of attitude this is. To every word, to every thing, what she does or says she detects, makes remarks, makes physiognomies .. And when they are left alone she ruins him mentally with her constant insults and tales like better export, etc. However, scandals are never in front of people or in front of us, the most severe verbal attacks are always alone when he is alone. With me, I can't tell you how my mother behaves. A total chameleon. As the best, sweetest woman in the world, and at the slightest attempt for such a comment or statement, I immediately cut her off or raise a scandal because I can't stand such a thing. If she feels I'm right and I start asking awkward questions or telling truths, she hangs up the phone with the perfect excuse. This man (my father) never managed to oppose her, no matter what I told him, he did not listen to me. That he's under a slipper and weak in character is clear to me, but I really can't understand how a man is capable of enduring such a thing. To get to the point of calling your son (that is, me) and roaring on the phone, because mentally you have no longer withstood the constant insults and harassment. I feel sorry for him. For years, because of my mother's attitude, I thought my father was always bad. She had shaped us so well in her thinking that it was always his fault. But my eyes opened. I began to see aside my mother's true attitude toward him, and not just him. She has helped and is helping me a lot and is part of my family, but I have the feeling that I have lived a lie all my life. It's not enough that I was born by force, to strengthen their marriage, or rather she decided to tie him to another child. I can't know what she was thinking 26 years ago. Give an opinion on the issue, as well as advice. I see that it's not just my mother and father, but many couples. And men are afraid. They are afraid to respond to their wives. Why tolerate all this stuff. What normal person would endure such harassment for 20 years, even 1 year. The most interesting thing is that all the women around me at one point tried to behave like that and when they see that it does not work, they leave, which I have no problem at all. Better to be alone, but to save this unique harassment for years. which is not a problem for me at all. Better to be alone, but to save this unique harassment for years. which is not a problem for me at all. Better to be alone, but to save this unique harassment for years.
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Because many people, being powerless and foolish, when they see themselves in a position to do something to dominate someone, take advantage. Applies to both men and women. If someone behaves like that with you, then know that he is not worthy of your attention.
Why only women, my husband grumbles that he does not like, the other messy. Family life is difficult.
Well, your father is to blame, maybe he even likes it, strange as it may sound. Weak men feel protected by a powerful woman. in the end he chose it - let him sip the potpourri now. You get out in time and let them eat their porridge.
There is really little talk about the harassment of women over the South in the family in Bulgaria. And in my small town I see it quite often. Apparently the truth is that women want to have power over their cats and the only way is to ruin them mentally.
one behaves as one is allowed. Your father made his choice to tolerate your mother, and that's his decision. And I wonder what kind of person would allow it, but obviously there are people who allow themselves to be dominated. I don't know if they are masochists or others, but they would not leave their abuser and would not oppose him for anything in the world.
yes women often ally in the family against men and often set children against their husbands to dominate the relationship when they fail to control it themselves, what you describe is common. Women have also harassed me, the only solution is physical self-mutilation so as they are not rational and never have a reasonable dialogue that satisfies both parties. Their logic is "I am always right" and men owe us. My advice is to tell your father the same thing
I would say encourage him to leave. At least temporarily, for a while ... supposedly. However, I doubt that he is most afraid of this and that is why he allowed himself to get here. What do you think - could he fix it in life alone?
This is observed in both women and men. If a person wants to seduce someone, he would never allow himself to make constant remarks. Also, if a woman wants to seduce a man, she would not allow it.
In any case, I can say from observations and personal experience that such an attitude appears when both respect and love (as far as we can talk about love in our everyday material world) are gone forever, which in many couples happen after getting to know each other well enough. Human nature is complex and strictly individual and it is a matter of great luck to meet a person with whom you can match as characters and views on life at least 80%. But people get used to each other under the influence of everyday life, which gradually begins to connect them, and especially under the pressure of one thing that dominates all people to a greater or lesser extent - this is the fear of loneliness. Man is as much an individualist and egoist in his essence as he is a social being by nature. To feel complete,
This is not a female trait, just your mother is a narcissist. There are such men, I have seen in my life mainly such men who harass their wives in the same way, but I also know a woman. Pathology of the character, there is a maturity of a 5-year-old child, generally speaking, he wants to become hers if they refuse - the other is completely bad, and she is completely good. Your father is to blame for being emotionally dependent on her, support him not to tolerate, but do not judge your mother too harshly. It is so simple, this thing is not curable and does not change. I have such a native, I was very annoyed at first. Then I accepted that he had done the best he could, just as much as he could. Such people do not understand why they have problems, they think that others are to blame.
Author: I wrote it quite illiterately, but it was really from the phone, for which I apologize.
the Smotlovs marry terminators who get used to life. In fact, everything depends on you ... I have learned from my boyfriends to listen to my partner, I make money decisions at home - when and where we will go on vacation, what car to buy, etc. But I am this who earns money at home, my wife does housework (cooking, laundry) and the children.
I respect that you are so literate and sober at the age of 26. I was somewhat in your father's position. Partly because the insults didn't go that far. You have a very good idea why your mother is behaving this way. She has another man she wants to live with and she does all this so that your father can't stand it and his glass overflows. Exploding like a bomb, in anger he will do what your mother looks forward to. The perfect reason to leave the "monster" he lives with. And why not claim to evict him from the home, if he has the right to it, of course. This will be the perfect excuse for you and everyone else. Believe me, your father does not like this humiliation at all, but it weighs heavily on him. He just suffers because he doesn't want to lose everything he fought for in his life. It will all end or with that, that the other man lost your mother, or if your father broke out. I am very glad that you understood everything and you are not on your mother's side. I will not say bad words about her, because despite everything, she will continue to be your mother. But you can see for yourself that what he is doing is more than disgusting, constantly crushing your father. And here is my advice. Talk to your mother calmly, but very seriously and firmly! Tell her you assume she wants to live with another man, but if she does, you will stand firmly behind your father. Yes, this is ugly blackmail, but this woman cannot be stopped in any other way. You're a man and you don't want some bastard to treat you like that, do you? But you are free and you can spend it while your father has a family. Sooner or later, it will become clear why your mother is behaving this way. At least your father will know for sure. He even now knows or at least suspects. Make it clear to your mother that by abandoning your father, her life will not be just flowers and roses with the prince on a white horse. Every action of this world has its consequences and you will have to itch the bitter popara that you have crushed. I'm glad there are young and smart men like you!
Stockholm syndrome.
My husband is the equivalent of your mother. We have been living like this for more than 20 years. There is always something wrong with him. Family is a complicated thing, compromises are at its core. You need to fit the characters. This happens over time, but there are also many positive aspects to family life. I wouldn't ruin my family for anything in the world. People love each other and live together in different ways. Don't be so critical of your mother. Without her, believe me, your life will be harder. Love her!
No, they will bow to you and crawl to your feet, funny complex. Didn't you realize that your circus ended a long time ago? No woman will stand as a mat anymore, just so as not to cut her veins some insignificant complex of anger. For centuries, you have been privileged everywhere solely because of women's weakness for their loved one. There is no other reason why you have been allowed to live as great. And now that we are kidding you and you have seen the reality of every step of the squeal how much they, the poor men, have been discriminated against. Millions of women were killed and crushed everywhere every day by their stupid attachment and the endless complexes of another impossible, and now the complexes scream "discrimination, abusers, but how many men are harassed" for even the slightest defense of a woman. It's clear that you can't figure out how pathetic, desperate and stupid you are with chicken complex brains, but with so much impudence, you should still feel little by little what brazen jokes you look like. Spit and squeal whatever and as much as you want, there are no more cuckoos who, out of attachment to you, do not build a career better than yours, to make more money, to have subordinate servants and all the other absurdities to make the poor feel impossible sir. March! to keep your subordinate servants and all other absurdities, to make the poor God feel impossible. March! to keep your subordinate servants and all other absurdities, to make the poor God feel impossible. March!
"Why do some women constantly replicate and pick on everything with the man" (in the case of your father, and with any weak-willed man). Because your father has a weak character. A woman can't behave like that with me. Before she lives with me, I will explain many things to her clearly and logically and ask her if she understands the essence of our conversation. If her answer is yes, fine, but if she pretends to have forgotten, I'll remind her twice more, and if she tries to do what your mother does to your father, I kick her out without thinking anymore. I will say again, such women's theaters do not work with me.
Up to 2 Your husband muttered what he did not like and that your home was cluttered. When your husband has a greater sense of order in the home, and you do not see this clutter, the problem is in you. How would you react if you loved a tidy home and your husband wasted everything without thinking? Won't you remark to him?
The most important thing is the issue of finances. If your mother provides the money and your father is semi-unemployed, then there is no chance he has to endure. Or if the apartment is inherited from your mother and he has no other option. In other cases, it's a matter of slapping her or just gnashing her teeth at every crooked word she says. But as he is accustomed to this, he will hardly have the courage to change the situation.
... and so on for 20 years ... ... and then they cry when you throw them across the balcony or shoot them ...
Firstly because these women are rude and do not respect their husbands and secondly because the man obviously allows it.
The feminist complex.
There is a huge difference between being picky and grumbling rightly and not rightly. You never learned that sometimes people grumble and pick on each other for a reason.
Up to 16. Dear Miss / Madam, A few questions of pure curiosity that would explain your anger: 1. Have you been hurt and used by a man? 2. Are you currently engaged to a man (marriage or cohabitation)? If yes, how do you understand each other? 3. Do you plan to have children? If they were boys, how would you raise them? 4. Has your mother been abused by your father? 5. How does a woman manage to build a successful career in such a male competition? thank you
Author, not all women are like your mother and not all women "bite" their men. What you are talking about much more often happens in the opposite version - the man harassing the woman. Examples as much as you want. Regardless of gender, the one who bullies others is always either severely complex or severely bullied in his childhood, and is most often a combination of the two. One behaves as one is taught by one's parents / environment. The key to the behavior of every person on this planet is in childhood, because that is when the character, understandings, worldview is formed. Kids absorb absolutely everything, remember that. I, for example, was also very bullied as a child. And not just harassed, but brutally crushed by her father. He subjected me to physical, mental and sexual harassment for 17 years ... I can't even half describe to you how much grief I have experienced ... My psyche is broken, I'm not well and I will never recover ... Even with time I get worse, instead of forgetting. The past weighs on me, it also weighs on me that I can't share such shameful secrets. In fact, even if there were, I could never muster the courage to speak ... I'm a stupid freak for everyone around me, but no one thought about what led me to this state. And, yes, I'm mentally ill. There is no cure. On the one hand, I am terribly angry with men and I hate them, on the other hand I want to love, be loved and show the best of myself, but there is no one. So far, I've met all the boys, they turned out to be rubbish and that made me even more angry and disgusted. Well, I'm not justifying your mother, such behavior is unacceptable, but I understand her. Some time ago I read an interview with a psychologist on the topic of "violence" and I was impressed by the following words: The rapist does not always become a rapist, but the rapist has always been raped. There is something to think about on this issue. I even cried when I read them for the first time. I hope at least with your family things develop positively. Success! g / 22
Women do not tolerate without typical men and usually in one way or another make them useless. Not that this justifies such behavior, but definitely a man on the spot would not tolerate this attitude, and a woman would not afford it.
Number 16, calm down, take your pill and calm the ball. As you frothed, you just blew my keyboard.
№16, are you a woman, or ...? Where does it come from, it's so good, but you're just green. Haven't you spent a night with a rugby team that you hated men so much? It was calmer, you will choke from foaming. You hardly have a man next to you (who will stand in such evil), and that's why you enjoy when you hear about human misfortunes
16, all the men you know are impudent and chicken-brain complexes, including your father. You speak very strongly and very boldly in cyberspace. I'm sorry I don't know you personally, but if I knew you and listened to your same stories in public, you would know who's cheeky and who has chicken brains. In a week you will be totally changed. You will even want to become my servant without paying even a single lev. I will always insist that you polish my shoes in front of my eyes and ask, "Your Excellency, did I polish them well?" There is no woman who can be compared to men.
Author, if the same thing your mother does with your father, he did with her, would you post a topic or would you accept it as normal? I ask because there are families where men treat their wives like cattle. Everyone lives with the one he has chosen for himself. Besides, he could divorce if he couldn't stand her, he preferred to roar and grumble, to complain, instead of resisting himself. He may be good, but weak and impersonal, that he does not respect himself, how can he have respect from a woman? He does not interfere in their relationship, they will not change, it is too late, but he draws conclusions for himself. The everyday life, the routine, the grayness of everyday life kill love, in yours there must have been so much of it ...
Because they have no courage to separate, to be free, which means to cope with life alone. Because they are glues, applications and shoes.
I am a woman, but I have never had the pleasure of irritating anyone, be it a man or a woman. I do not know such women.
Because they are tired of being dominated. Such women are rare, although this needs to change and put the men in place.
Number 29, you and men like you are the reason there are women like number 16. Go get treated!
Lack of love. It was just necessary for everyone to take their own path and seek love, and not to witness such scandals. I have a girlfriend who behaves like that with her husband. I hinted to her that if I treated my husband so humiliatingly, he would not tolerate him. She told me that they were used to it. Her husband was silent. She counted his bites (he was fat), he counted his sips. Humiliating a person is cruel and everyone will pay for their actions someday. My girlfriend is not happy, but I think it's her fault too, even though she doesn't admit it and blames her husband for everything. Sometimes divorce is the step to happiness.
Look now, since your father hasn't left her in so many years, there's obviously a reason. And things are not only black and only white. They know what they went through and exactly why it happened. Not to mention that there is the opposite. Women are not only verbally but also physically abused by their husbands. So we can't judge. This is their relationship and even you hardly know everything! For example, grandparents lived together for over 50 years, loved and cared for each other, but grandma always gave in and kept quiet even when grandpa was wrong. Only after their death do you learn why. In his youth, his grandmother had cheated on her with another man, and his grandfather literally crushed her afterwards, apparently even beating her. And since then, for 50 years, my grandmother did not dare to say a word out loud. Otherwise, Grandpa took great care of her. Doesn't your father behave like that because he atones for his guilt about something? Do not know. So let them live and watch their lives.
33. to put the males in place. ========================== And how exactly do you "put them in place" the males? You pretend to be very great and very strong, and when things escalate to a certain point, you run after another man to provide you with physical protection. But do you know which is the worst? Women like you and number 16 disgust men (yes women are not the only ones who can be disgusted). The worst is when men decide they don't need you, that you have nothing to give them. The worst is when men decide they can live alone, when they decide they don't need children and they don't need this thing called "love." Then you and number 16 will roar "where are the real men". Then you will start complaining,
Number 34, you are also number 16 (the villain), and number 25. I do not need treatment, and you need very serious treatment, but it is unlikely that a cure will be found for you. Such has not yet been discovered. See how the numbers 24, 27, 28 react to your comment number 16. See what you wrote in comment number 25, third paragraph: "Your psyche is broken, you are not well and you will never recover. Even with time you get worse. "For everyone around you, you're a dumb freak. And you're mentally ill. There's no cure for you." In the first line of the fourth paragraph, you say, "that on the one hand you are terribly angry with men and hate them." We have long known that you are angry and hate men from your regular participation in this site. Number 16 and number 25 you can't fool us, you're the same woman, your numbers don't work.
Number 34, you are also number 16 (the villain), and number 25. I do not need treatment, and you need very serious treatment, but it is unlikely that a cure will be found for you. Such has not yet been discovered. See how the numbers 24, 27, 28 react to your comment number 16. See what you wrote in comment number 25, third paragraph: "Your psyche is broken, you are not well and you will never recover. Even with time you get worse. "For everyone around you, you're a dumb freak. And you're mentally ill. There's no cure for you." In the first line of the fourth paragraph, you say, "that on the one hand you are terribly angry with men and hate them." We have long known that you are angry and hate men from your regular participation in this site. Number 16 and number 25 you can't fool us, you're the same woman, your numbers don't work.
Number 34, you are also number 16 (the villain), and number 25. I do not need treatment, and you need very serious treatment, but it is unlikely that a cure will be found for you. Such has not yet been discovered. See how the numbers 24, 27, 28 react to your comment number 16. See what you wrote in comment number 25, third paragraph: "Your psyche is broken, you are not well and you will never recover. Even with time you get worse. "For everyone around you, you're a dumb freak. And you're mentally ill. There's no cure for you." In the first line of the fourth paragraph, you say, "that on the one hand you are terribly angry with men and hate them." We have long known that you are angry and hate men from your regular participation in this site. Number 16 and number 25 you can't fool us, you're the same woman, your numbers don't work.
He stands and endures because he is afraid of loneliness. She crushes and harasses him because she still can't forgive herself for giving birth to his children and connecting her life with him. Both are sufferers and both are victims. Love them as they are.
In another topic, the moderators wrote that they did not post a comment because the insults are not tolerated. Well, obviously this topic tolerates not only insults, but also threats of violence.
Author, if you think about it and explain why the comments between №44 and 47 are missing, you will easily answer the question. For the same reason, women scream at men, feeling unpunished and protected by feminist laws to harass men. The good news is that many of them do not live to see the excessive insolence of women and still receive male justice from men. It's a pity for your father to suffer a monster at home, instead of ... let's not say that someone else ... will scream that something was tolerated or intolerated. Many will still suffer Hr. societies infected with the poison of feminism if all men together do not take action against the infection!
Because they are petty and complex, they have lost their femininity, they pretend to be men. Today's women are infected by feminism. By the way, in the West the situation is even worse. There are still normal female women here. In the West, it was feminism and female aggression that turned men into absolute mollusks. Remember what happened a few years ago on a New Year's Eve in Germany, where young German women were sexually attacked by unbridled Arab immigrant invaders and there was no one to protect them but a Balkan Croat who had beaten several freaks. Western men grow up in a toxic feminist environment in which they are emotionally crammed into childhood. The same tendencies are observed in BG. Male prostitutes and homosexuals have increased significantly in recent years, and the reason for this is that even in childhood boys are not allowed to grow as men. In another 10-20 years, things will get even worse and all this because women have been deceived with talk of equality and oppression. Feminism is a social and cultural Marxism, like all other ideologies that have been insistently imposed in recent decades by the world's liberal elite. Under communism, there was a class struggle that ended in millions of human corpses, rivers of blood and ruined lives. The class enemy was condemned and physically and in every way destroyed. Under Nazism, a racial struggle was waged in which the Aryans dominated. This also ended in a catastrophe for humanity. Liberalism has fought for the destruction of normalcy and the representation of minority groups as victims who have the right and obligation to take revenge. People today are branded as homophobes, xenophobes, racists, just because they do not accept the privileged position of minority groups and their deviant behavior. If you are against quota principles in America, for example, you immediately enter the racist column. If homosexual relationships are sinful perversions to you, you are considered an obscurantist religious fanatic, a homophobe, and an inferior person in general. So it is with feminist ideology, in which Marx's beard is traditionally lurking. Feminists are convinced that they must fight against men who are guilty of having testicles and fucking women. In this sense, men are class enemies. I think some women with feminist tendencies would share a war against men if they could reproduce themselves. If they win this war, as a respected psychiatrist put it, feminists would castrate all men first. The problem for feminists is that it is almost impossible for women to be declared a repressed minority because they are more than men and live longer than them, and even if they receive less income statistically, it is unclear how they have significantly more. a large percentage of property and money in developed countries where feminism is supposed to prevail.
51, you think absolutely logically, but I do not agree that women would dare to wage an open war against men, because they will never win it. Every average man is physically much stronger than over 98% of women, and would always beat or kill a woman like the one mentioned in the topic. The fact is that men are increasingly beating and killing women, and will continue to do so because they are provoked and can do so, and violence against women instead of decreasing is constantly increasing ..... the phenomenon of the 21st century! Feminism thrives where men allow it because they no longer want to take responsibility for the family. Equal rights are not equal at all and cannot be, because men have a very large contribution to the development of homosapiens, while the only contribution of women is the birth of men so that there is prosperity for all. The thing is that the female electorate, gathered with homosexuals and any other bastard, is much bigger than the male one, and when voting on femi-laws, women always win. Women's suffrage is the fatal mistake made by men. In addition, Soros, Rothschild, Rockefeller and others are pouring huge amounts of money into all sorts of feminist NGOs around the world that parasitize and suck money from society for malicious activity. Feminism itself is a doctrine of repression against men, creating laws for all forms of male harassment. In this way, society is deprived of protection and is easily manipulated from the outside. There has long been a feminist desire for the castration of men as a punishment for male disobedience to the female will. The Istanbul Convention is proof of the feminist filth that pervades all points. The man must always be guilty and convicted by a raging female Gestapo-GREVIO, in any case, even a false accusation by a woman, and he will not be able to prove his innocence. Nature has taken care of female perversions by providing self-reproduction only to the sex with the Y chromosome. Women cannot reproduce themselves, unlike men. Too bad for Hr. a world that perishes because of feminism, but women will never rule over men, will always be the opposite, because in the rest of the world they are immune to feminism and the number of women is irrelevant. This other world is taking over more and more territory in one way or another, and imposing rules under which a woman costs almost nothing. In war, women are again inferior to men and are always vulnerable and suffering in extreme situations. For this №51, women will never be above men, no matter what property and money they have. Feminism is a lost cause in the foreseeable future because it doesn't matter if it's the 21st or 31st century. This female perversion will exist as long as men in "democratic societies" allow it, and if they do not take action, other men from the other world will!