I want to ask the other men here and with you. We were boyfriends for 2 years - everything was OK, she was slender as a sapling, she played sports, beauticians, salons. We got married - everything was OK .... she got pregnant and gained weight, I told myself well, when she gives birth she will lose weight, yes, but no! The child is almost 2 years old, and she is gaining and gaining weight. She is 160 cm tall, weighed 45 kg, now weighs 82. Literally fat, ugly pig, treads, does not wear make-up, justifies herself with the child. I remarked to her, she says I didn't love her at all. Why the fuck does he have to be anyway I loved a woman weighing 45 kg, not another 40 kg. on top! She CHANGED, and she wants me to love her as before. He wants to, he knows what the problem is, he knows how to solve it, but he doesn't do anything about it. I told her bluntly - if I don't lose weight soon, this marriage will end, I won't bother in some fat shop to grumble at me, to lie down all day. From a chick and a half of anti-woman meat, I haven't had sex with her in months, I'm disgusted. Are there others in my hall? I never liked fat women, I liked her because she was thin, not because she was fat! This seems a little unfair to me, it changes, and it wants me to be the same
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Hello author. In this case, you are absolutely right. Many women, unfortunately, do it after winning a man and thinking that he is tied in a towel, they stop with "joking" and trying to look good. Because they think so. He is with me, I gave birth to his child, we are now a family. They don't care. They also get postpartum depression and I don't know, they start with a lot of eating and lack of incentive to maintain. I advise you not to rush with divorces and so on. Approach the problem more carefully. Share and normally that she would like to change as before, adjust and that even for her health is not useful and can even and and together offer to start a diet and exercise to feel that you support her in this endeavor. Success! malkatarozichka
I don't think you love her. You liked her as an object, and when she changed, you stopped liking her and didn't even feel love for this woman. Too bad she gave birth to your child. Surely, if the child gets fat, you will want not to be his father. There are other people to whom women have gained weight after giving birth, but live with their wives and do not complain.
Well, there is a solution to your problem. If I'm on it, I leave you the child, who is in a beautiful age of the "terrible two", to shake all day. And she goes for a month to the obese, both to sleep and rest from the child and from you, and to acquire healthier habits. Then won't he find you in a severe depression, crammed with chips and comforted with beer? I wonder if he would survive a month alone, I emphasize alone, as you say to lie all day with a two-year-old? Lying all day and two a year are two mutually exclusive words for me.
Oh, what can I tell you. I am a woman, I weigh as much as before I gave birth, I have not neglected. However, my ex-husband weighed 120 kg. I was embarrassed to make remarks to him, we broke up for other reasons, but I just can't make out that thing. Send her yours for hormonal tests on the thyroid gland, she may have something if she has gained so many kilograms. One has to take care of one's health ... These kilos are not good.
It's from stress. So am I - both hormones and stress. Hem I start a diet total hunger for a week something that has always been successful with me now does not work and out of anger and pity I hired a nice .... I do not like fat but I do not work, the child is 19 months old . My husband in the situation - he likes to tell me that I'm ugly, but other people tell me that I have a beautiful face. And for weight loss I was advised to do research. I don't know, be patient, it's nonsense to ruin your marriage and family for something that requires patience and is fixable
I will just say that the pig is not her, but you.
You friend, you are the pig ..
You sound quite superficial and immature. By your logic, if your partner gets sick from something indelible, it's straight to court. The poor girl.
This is what happens when you marry a woman you like and don't love. If you don't like the weight and don't take measures, go fuck some prostitute, most of them get up in the body. The family is not a matter of vision, but partnership, support, understanding. If you want a top model to be a bean in 5 years, you will still find a reason to want a steak.
I hope the moderators publish my comment. I will comment, even though I am a woman. I am 30 years old. I gave birth two years ago and I want to share how it is with us. When I got pregnant I weighed 51 kg. On the day of birth I weighed 59 kg. Immediately after birth I weighed 55 kg. / I gave birth to a very small baby 2,630 kg. with little amniotic and thin umbilical cord if relevant /. Easy birth, anyway. I regained my tight belly in two weeks. I was very proud. But I haven't photographed or uploaded anywhere like most do. I had gained 51-52 kg again. for a height of 167 cm. After the child walked, a harassment started for me, a lot of workload, the child grew up, started to want his own and the time for me personally was getting shorter. This made me nervous and I started eating in unlimited quantities. For a year now I have not followed regimens of 51 kg. fortunately I kept at 55 kg., then I started eating healthy again and I'm 52 kg again, but I try not to get thinner because I look like a stickman and I have shadows under my eyes. I also have hashimoto and I should fill it from there, but fortunately no matter how much I eat more than 55 I don't get up. It's either a gene or it's health, but it's also food. Does your wife eat more and she gets nervous? If you go out more and don't mentally engage her to do something, to think, won't she forget about food? After all, you have to love her in everything you go through, she will not and will always be young, she can get sick, she will certainly not be forever young, she will change and it is normal, but you should not you threaten like that. Pay attention to the menu and start eating without bread, sweet, carbonated, greasy, fried and see how not only you but she will lose weight. It's winter now, let spring come, go for a walk among people, so you will be a little ashamed and motivated to tighten. Give her a perfume, say that you love her and try to direct her to movement and good food. Rice, avocado, tomatoes, cucumbers, lettuce, baked potatoes, eggs, fish, chicken, less dairy, although they are also important, nuts only raw. I understand you completely, it really sucks what you're going through. There is no way to be sexually attracted to such a body of 80 kg. In my opinion, anything over 60 kg. is naughty. I hope someone is not offended. It also depends on the height. But those who look 60 are like horses, big and tall. I like myself the most at about 51 kg. and even now I plan to do a little detox to get rid of water retention and a little fat. There comes a moment, the child becomes about 1.5 - 2 and your life is somehow stagnant, nothing happens to you, you are just a mother, you work, you look at the child and it kills you. Then alcohol, food help her ... but it's not good! I remember when I was without the child, in the evening I ate sparingly and dug in the net and so I did not gain weight, but now out of stress to endure the evening I eat something ... which sucks and I rarely try to do it. My advice is to talk to her. Don't threaten her, just make a remark about the meal. By changing it, he will undoubtedly change his vision. Eat small portions, eat more vegetables. I don't know how to eat properly, but my regular menu is something like this: breakfast apple or banana, some raw cashews and almonds, lunch rice with spinach portion or some green salad olive oil and a little salt, afternoon nuts or fruit, for dinner a small portion of soup, white peeled beans, baked potatoes with butter and chicken leg. I also drink a lot of water. You also need water to lose weight! It is. And when I eat slops I cram a lot, donuts, chocolates, salads, chips, juices, cookies, nuts ... and then bloated stomach and nausea, but it's awful and I don't do it anymore so as not to lose 55 kg again, it happens to me hard and bad. Good luck to the author!
My husband is over 100 kg, 1.70 is tall. We have lived happily together for 25 years. It's not your weight that bothers you, author, it's your simplicity. Your poor child! I hope it doesn't fill up either. You'll probably throw it away for something weak.
I'm Jeanne, I gave birth to two children, I haven't gained weight more than normal, only my stomach has relaxed, I don't like it. Well, if my husband likes women with flat bellies, he should leave me. It is difficult to look after a child, women do not have time for themselves, except for those with babysitters. Your wife sacrificed her body, her beauty, to give birth to your child. Well, you don't love her, this woman, you don't see what's wrong with her. You keep thinking, sitting at home, drinking coffee, but it's not like that.
I totally disagree with most of the comments. Love includes appearance. Yes, people change with age and other events. But it's one thing to change, it's one thing to be completely let down and stop caring about your physical condition. Yes, the author's words are rude, but he's right not to feel good. If the man next to me lifts 40 kilos and stops supporting himself, I will not tolerate him, let alone have sex with him.
You only feed her reluctance to lose weight. A woman needs to feel supported. Are you involved in childcare? Your position is very one-sided. Your wife is probably depressed for a number of reasons, she may have hormonal problems. I also had hormonal problems and I was quite fat, there comes a time when even an apple can make you fat. With the difference that my husband did not tell me that I was a pig, but still loved me. I lost weight accordingly. You didn't love your wife, you loved her body. Maybe she was a kind of trophy wife to you, and now you can't show off in front of your friends and think how cool you are to fuck such a woman. The complete degradation of our society leads to the existence of such individuals as you. How glad I am that you are not my husband.
14, and I don't know why they jumped on the author so much, even though I'm a woman. If a woman had written a topic: "My husband has gained 120 kg, he is trampling, pouring himself beer and not moving", everyone would spit on him what a toupee he is. Now, however, everyone is spitting at the author's superficiality. People, pay attention that the woman has become double, 82 kg at a height of 160 is a hell of a lot, she is obese and if she does not take measures, things will become terrible. Plus this is not a temporary situation, but 2 years. If I don't take any measures, I don't even try to take them down, I'm not optimistic. Yes, the child wants care, but it is also a matter of the desire to limit food, to move and gradually to limit the weight at least a little. Unfortunately, some women, after giving birth, completely abandon themselves, justify themselves with the child and that they should love them as they are. I am a woman, but these are pure excuses for laziness. Yes, people change, there is no way we can stay like we are 20 years old, but we should not abandon ourselves completely and others accept us. It's one thing to gain weight from an illness or pregnancy (it's a temporary condition), it's another to not care at all what you look like and to cram as you see fit. Unfortunately, I do not see a useful move by the author, except to talk to her and if there is no change, to separate.
14, the author sounds as if he has been deceived and fucked. Put yourself in the place of the girl - she gave birth to a child, take care of him. If she is still a mother, who do you think takes care of the child at home? The author sounds as if if she gets sick of something indelible, he will leave her for a moment. There is always a more delicate way to approach the situation.
Do not blame the man, despite the not very tactful tone. Being already "tied to a child" does not mean that there can be no pretensions or purely human desires. This is true for women as well.
How he used to love her like that, and now he almost hated her, and you point out her weight. In my opinion, your problem is different, not that she is overweight. To say yes And that is is frivolous, even ridiculous on your part. Who knows what you look like, I'm curious. I just don't think you love her.
I just want to know what you look like, author? The way you expressed yourself is very ugly! I understand you in part, but let her go to the gym and keep fit, and you look after the child. Let's see then. Jen
After giving birth, the woman has completed her task, she has caught a carp to make her a baby, she has given birth to a child (the main goal), then she doesn't care what she takes a nap for, so they relax.
Double weight gain speaks of a health problem. And you have a mental one - you didn't love this girl, you just fucked her and you bragged in front of the others what a great boyfriend you fuck. What makeup was it, boy? Did a roaring child hang on your leg? So roaring and so hanging that you can't even wash your hands? Not to mention going to the toilet ALONE. You went to talk about makeup. Do you have any idea how your wife eats while she is alone with the child? We women who have been through this know. Something from the fridge, chewed quickly. No matter what. Just to eat. Because the little one does not allow time for a calm and healthy breakfast or a slow lunch. One thing is for sure - she can lose weight. However, you will never get smarter. I would send my husband to be ashamed together, because I am 110 kilos. Except that he will have nothing to tell you.
Because in her head you are already tied in a towel. Marriage, child. I have witnessed two such cases in which good-looking women 3-4 years after the child still look like trolls. The comments that claim that she did not have time and was depressed for that she gained 40 kg are complete nonsense! Because I have seen how women after the child for less than a year do not seem to have given birth! Oh yes, the author was cynical and didn't love her, and he must have sex with her out of obligation so as not to hurt her fragile feelings if he doesn't buy Viagra. It's cool when a man has to love you regardless of your appearance, but if after marriage your husband gains 30-40 kg, he stops supporting himself and starts to retaliate, will you go to bed with him? With or without a child, both parties in the relationship should strive to attract each other. Because I looked like a pig, love me, it doesn't work!
Plus 30kg more for cuddling and I'm not complaining at all. I love
Obesity of the body is a consequence of obesity of the soul. So the author is right. And let's not justify women with genes, stress, hormones, etc. In Hitler's concentration camps, everyone weighed less than 40 kg. By the way, my cat gives birth twice a year, and she is still elegant.
The author is a complete jerk. It's easy for you men - just wondering where to turn your hose and that's it. You are not interested in anything else. To be a man in this world, you have a hose to maintain, to eat and to grumble that all women are cheap rags, and you yourself only want them to boil your hose somewhere.
"It's like marrying a woman you like, not love." I don't know. I loved mine, the ex, but she gained 38 kilos again in 6 months, despaired of life and went home to her mother.
"I hope it doesn't fill up either. You'll probably throw it away for something weak." My mother used to walk me from school to us and there was an apple for dinner. That's how the problem was solved for me :)
Dude, I totally understand you. I had your problem, I'm direct. Former athlete and body maniac. I always say that if you are born stupid, you will not become smarter. But for your body as you did. I gave her ex 12 months. to get in rhythm after the birth of the twins. It was funny and amusing to her, and she didn't. As I abandoned her, she began to cry, female circuses. Now I have another, we have a child, and she's super sexy and cool. My pride, I even managed to take my glitter and now we are super happy, and my ex I don't want to remember her or see her again in my life.
Because he is stressed. I went through this, it is very difficult to fix a person. The child is entirely on her, this is a very serious responsibility. She has lost absolutely all the joys in her life because she became a mother and now the only pleasure is food. In order to lose weight, she must first have someone with whom to share responsibility for the child. She can't always take him to the doctor, see if there are any shoes that still fit him, cook for him, make him a development program, know which teeth are still waiting, and so on. You have to be parents together in order for her capacities to be unlocked for other things as well. Second, she needs time to prepare a special meal for herself, which means that you will either eat her buns or refuse to cook for you. The same goes for training. She needs time for them. During this time you are with the child. Third, the incentive. These are usually nice clothes. Buy her something sexy. Fourth, your support during weight loss. It will take about a year to get back in shape. During this time he does not bring pizzas and cakes home. My husband sabotaged me every week, he suddenly started making pancakes and cupcakes! I squeezed, but he didn't, because when I lost weight, I was looking around for a cooler guy than him. And most importantly, she needs someone who understands that. Lyubomir Ivanov helped me, I chose him absolutely by accident, he gave me my first diet and I lost almost 30 kg. However, I went through a lot of scandals with my husband to sit with the child, not to cook for him (because my regime requires cooking twice a day, and he does not want to eat) and not to bother with himself if he does not want to to support me. Now he has learned to take the child from the garden and to shop and cook separately. This is in general terms. You can do an awful lot to make things better. However, it seems to me that you are somehow looking for a reason to end the relationship. If you are not ready to wait for her for a year and take your share of parenthood, leave them alone, pay your alimony and look after your life, but do not roar after 40 years that you are alone like a dog.
All the women jumped, but there is truth in the words of the author - when you want a man, you want him the way you like him, where does "loving" mean agreeing with things you do not like? It's full of posts from women who don't like a certain type of sex and don't. There are many who at one point explain how they do not love their husband because he has changed. So - love is not unconditional and every man knows that - the only unconditional one is that of a mother to her child, and that of a dog. So, stop the balalaikas of double standards and march to the gym! :) The boy is right for himself ...
To feel good, she must be loved, if so, she will do anything for you, even if she becomes weak. Are you perfect? Doesn't she also dream of a nice man, to love her too. So do you look after the child, or is it not a man's job, do you not expect everything from her at home. And here the woman wants to feel good and eats, for example, for pleasure. Not that I support being overweight, but let's put it in its place. Are you going to do something about a man who tells you you're a "pig"? First let's give, then let's ask.
Your wife is neglected because she no longer has the competition that is more beautiful. You are tied in a towel and she has passed to another stage, which is not at all attractive for young people. Apparently she's not vain, and maybe she's not going anywhere and there's no one but you to see her, and you're already too close to you and she doesn't bother to look bad in front of you. For me, every woman, even if she gave birth, should try to look good for her husband, so that he is proud of her and he is happy that she is his wife. The fact that here they accuse you of not loving her is the same for your wife. If she loved you, she would try to please you, not be lazy. I'm not happy to give myself as an example, but I'll tell you so you can see that there's a way, even if she's in shape. When I gave birth, I had gained 5 kg after pregnancy. On the 3rd month I got a 1 year old fitness card. I did 20 minutes of cardio and 30 minutes of fitness. It took me 1 hour and something a day, 5 times a week. I complied with my husband's working hours and when he was with us, I spent that 1 hour going to the gym. And in the days that were busy, I trained at home Pilates, abdominal presses, push-ups, squats. Many women under the pretext that they are busy taking care of the child, start, and we actually see how active they are on the Internet or watch the series. Now I am pregnant with a second and I think that my husband does not deserve a fat woman, and I do not want this for myself. facial wraps, squats. Many women, under the pretext that they are busy taking care of the child, start, and we actually see how active they are on the Internet or watch the series. Now I am pregnant with a second and I think that my husband does not deserve a fat woman, and I do not want this for myself. facial wraps, squats. Many women under the pretext that they are busy taking care of the child, start, and we actually see how active they are on the Internet or watch the series. Now I am pregnant with a second and I think that my husband does not deserve a fat woman, and I do not want this for myself.
Why wouldn't a woman have an incentive to pay attention as before? For example, most of her efforts to take for granted just because she is married, and at the same time to stick to small household chores, are disappointing. One thing in the house is not over and will catch the eye, and everything else? No one is obliged to devote himself completely to anyone. And when you see so much criticism in the eyes of your loved one, where does this stimulus come from? Instead, you feel insecure, sorry, tired. Even if you want to, you can't find the strength, because you have nothing to do with it. To win someone who is still not yours ...
Give females knock the pitcher of the poor woman who does not even write in this topic, show everyone how perfect you are and have lost all the weight. This happens regularly in every forum, there is nothing more damn than women "who think well of you". Number 14 when you give birth we will talk again.
My friend from 50 kg became 100! The child is already 4, she is getting up again. He eats like a pig at midnight, doesn't work, spends like crazy! And nervous! I'm waiting for the child to grow up to start school. I take the child and run
I apologize to the editors, but raise a nine-month-old child who you constantly feed him so he doesn't die and fuck him in the ass and see if you stay the same.
Poor woman, if she knows what rubbish she's dealing with, a man who reads you can hate you. Get educated, it seems that you are uneducated in any direction, even in the human direction. When a woman becomes pregnant and gives birth, her body changes, many changes take place. To dump someone just because they changed their body ... that's terribly sad. What incentive did you give her to regain her "weak" appearance again? When she listens to you like that, you depress her, you crush her. Break up with this woman, and after your divorce, she will become beautiful and thin again. If I were in the woman's place, I would take my child and leave. I will not tolerate someone like you even for 1 hour. Now I will tell you another more frightening fact. There are women who CANNOT repair their bodies after giving birth. As much as they want it, they can't. Release her, and go, find some 30-40 kg then already men in kilograms choose us. God protect all women from men like you, that's all I'm going to say ... Sarah
Look now, I'm a man and I understand you, but your approach is wrong and so you certainly won't encourage her to take matters into her own hands. Besides, you don't understand - after one birth the hormones are seriously pushed, separately she may really not have time from the child, because it takes a lot of time, and even if she is in postpartum depression / stress. So I agree that it is not pleasant for your wife to gain 40 kilos, but a little understanding, support and help does not hurt. They can't give her ultimatums of the sort - you're losing weight or I'm getting a divorce. You could have hormonal problems too. Why don't you take care of her a little so that she has time to take care of herself? Why don't you take her somewhere to relax, at least for a day? At the moment, her consciousness is totally closed and she does not clearly realize how neglected she is. Why don't you take her to a psychologist, for example? Maybe he needs to share, to express his pain. We cannot issue ultimatums and insult a pig at the first problem in marriage. If you think this will be the only obstacle in your marriage, you are deeply mistaken. And mine gained 20 pounds after birth and can't take them off, but I've never remarked or issued ultimatums. Otherwise, I see that the woman is trying to take them off, she is moving, she is restricting herself from eating, but she has not been able to take them down much, obviously the hormones are completely different, but I like her anyway. She used to be too skinny, but now she's round, just to have something to crush. but I have never remarked or issued ultimatums. Otherwise, I see that the woman is trying to take them off, she is moving, she is restricting herself from eating, but she has not been able to take them down much, obviously the hormones are completely different, but I like her anyway. She used to be too skinny, but now she's round, just to have something to crush. but I have never remarked or issued ultimatums. Otherwise, I see that the woman is trying to take them off, she is moving, she is restricting herself from eating, but she has not been able to take them down much, obviously the hormones are completely different, but I like her anyway. She used to be too skinny, but now she's round, just to have something to crush.
№ 19 - Tied to a child? That his wife made this child herself? As he did not want a child to use a condom.
The author is absolutely right. When you meet and love a person, you love him as he is. That's what you liked, that's what you loved. No feminists can come here like wasps and talk nonsense. Here, and I admit - if my wife lifts 40 kg. I go directly to divorce. Why? I will explain it - if I meet a woman and she is 40 kg above the norm, fat and stocky, I will never love her and I will never go with her, let alone get married and have children. That is, I fully understand the author and support him. She and you here can't ask a man to love something he never liked, he avoided anyway, and when he gets hit in the head he has to make compromises. The child is not the cause, the cause of such obesity is no movement and constant stuffing with food. That's why she's so fat. Just short and clear - stop eating like some hyenas as if you haven't seen food. Just to make one last thing - run author, 40 kilos have no weight loss! Even to start diets, fitness, sports, these are 40 kilos, bro, 40 !!! Healthy you can lose half a kilo or 6 kilos a year, you can push them to 8 with effort (without causing a yo-yo effect later and upload 16 new ones). But even so, it will take her 5 years to take them off, this is pointless harassment for you, grab your hammer and so much, no one is to blame for this aunt for becoming a bag of bacon. with effort you can push them to 8 (without causing a yo-yo effect later and upload 16 new ones). But even so, it will take her 5 years to take them off, this is pointless harassment for you, grab your hammer and so much, no one is to blame for this aunt for becoming a bag of bacon. with effort you can push them to 8 (without causing a yo-yo effect later and upload 16 new ones). But even so, it will take her 5 years to take them off, this is pointless harassment for you, grab your hammer and so much, no one is to blame for this aunt for becoming a bag of bacon.
There are couples who stay together even in incurable diseases. Author, how do you imagine being with a woman, if she gets sick, undergoes surgery? You do not know what situations there are in life, and how people with disabilities get together. Have you seen a sick loved one? Would you stay with a woman who is in your care bed? This is love, and yours is something superficial. There are much scarier things in this life than gaining weight. There are hundreds of cases of couples with diseases, disabilities that are together. And your claims are ridiculous against the background of human misery.
This is a widespread problem for both women and men. Once the courtship is over, both sexes begin to put much less effort into looking attractive to their partner. Women walk around the house in a dressing gown or in a comfortable, loose-fitting suit. They only shave their legs for the summer, because the rest of the time only their husband sees them. The men float on the couch and can't think of a word. They are most satisfied with sex if you just go with a blowjob, so as not to strain. They release beer bellies as pregnant in the ninth month. All this is ... normal, within certain limits. When a person achieves his goal, he relaxes, reduces stress levels. But to gain weight twice and not be able to gather willpower, if not for the sake of your husband or yourself, at least for the sake of your child to live a healthy life, then the situation definitely requires harsh measures.
For the millionth time, I will say - it is no coincidence that more than half of the people of Ganyov hang out rejected either here or count their yellow pennies with a prostitute for a little attention. : d Neither prostitutes want them, nor ordinary Bulgarian women, let alone foreigners. As you watch, can you get along with the radio? : d Unicellular ones know one thing, they know one thing, nothing that doesn't make a gram of sense. Stop trying to shine on them once again about reality, in every single topic these are unnecessarily lost nerves and time. Just leave them to rot on their own, impudent and vicious, in every next schizophrenic topic, it's for them. And again - NOT ACCIDENTALLY REJECTED BY EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!
I also changed after the two births, but my husband says he loves me. He looks great for his age. Even very young women look at him. We have not stopped having sex intensely, although we are approaching 50. He loves me with the same passion as when he was young, in both places (we like him so much). Forgive me, critics.
Author, you have spoken extremely ugly. You don't love your wife and you don't want to help her, you blame her without trying to understand why she's "neglected." Imagine that her hair will start to turn white, her face and body will wrinkle with age, and you fell in love with a 20-year-old! How dare he grow old! You don't have to be with a woman at 50 in years, provided you took her at 20! Everything sounds a bit like that! I want your wife to read what you wrote about her, to pull one for you ... To lose weight and find her man! And you stay with the big pretensions and with a finger in your mouth! And that's because you blame without trying to help! And it is not an honor for you to call her a pig and humiliate her in various forums. And those who think that they gain weight just by eating, they don't have any health culture and they haven't heard of thyroid problems and type 2 diabetes! And for some of the women who write here - I have no words! Number 36 is absolutely right - there is nothing more damn than women "who think well of you"
It is clear from the comments of some men that the female slender figure is the main thing because of which they choose to be with someone! Not only that, but it is an important criterion that determines whether they will continue to be with her, even after she becomes the mother of their children! Men with these comments DO NOT UNDERSTAND that there are situations (healthy) that prevent the mother from regaining a beautiful body. This is INFANTILISM, UNDERSTANDING, WHAT MARRIAGE AND FAMILY IS, UNDEVELOPED AND SUPERFICIAL PERSONALITY !!! Women, do you see how important it is to choose your men according to their moral values, and not to create children of good-looking BROYKADZHII. To me, a man who is willing and willing to break up his family because of such a "problem" is scum. To the author! You have a child from her - DOESN'T THAT SAY ANYTHING TO YOU ??? M30
It's not true what nonsense I read. One thing is for sure, your wife may become weaker, but you will definitely remain the same superficial specimen. A man told his wife to lose weight because he would change her. The woman lost weight, but found another. Be careful not to be the next, because kg changes, but the essence of a person remains the same. Also, make sure that you do not gain weight accidentally, either for emotional or health reasons, that you may be rubbed. It's very ugly, it's ugly, because this woman gave birth to your child, if you just walked and she was neglected, change her, but for the woman who gave birth and looked after your child, take care of your household, talking like that is very ugly. Author at home someone has to clean, cook, look after the child, and does this woman have time for herself at all. Doesn't she want to be beautiful and weak, whether he does not want to be loved and especially appreciated for the sacrifices he makes to make you well. There is simply no time for an author, no time to put on make-up, no time to maintain, no time for anything, because he has a bunch of tasks and deprives himself of this nonsense in order to do everything important. Every woman wants to be beautiful, but obviously when she lies down this woman is tired. I guess you have parents to whom you can leave it for a few hours. Organize a dinner for you, leave the child to one of the grandmothers for a few hours, surprise your wife and tell her to be calm, to put on make-up, to get dressed and that at 7 o'clock. for example, you will wait for her at the door to take her to dinner. Because during the time at home with the child she has no time, it is important that she must be changed, fed, the work at home is done, the laundry is washed, the dust is wiped, the floor is washed, the dishes are on the table to eat, to smooth him, to watch him all day not to fall, not to hit, to play with him, to pay attention to him, to put him to sleep ... should I continue? It often goes unnoticed how much a woman does and how much she loses, because a mother can't leave her child and work to do hairstyles, make-up, etc., because if she looks after herself and not your household it will smell, the child will lose weight, you will stay hungry. Appreciate her work, and if you love this woman and help her, support her, not just look at a few pounds. If you are married, if not for the others who say it has changed and everything is different. When women are told to "love each other in good and evil, in poverty and wealth" this is also a difference! From rich to poor, from weak to fat, it's all the same! It is not said until you gain 20 kg, but from rich to poor,
I fully support the author! I'm a woman, I gave birth to two children one after the other - after the birth I immediately lost the weight - they weren't that much ... You have to have a total lack of self-esteem to let yourself look like a pig. It is very clear that your husband liked you because of your appearance. Nobody likes to have their partner relax and look like nothing after a few years .. But above all, you personally have to think about your appearance and not allow neglect in any case .. I just wonder , how you lie next to the child and eat all day .. You care so much - the child, cleaning, housework .. I just do not understand this .. And the author is absolutely right. In his place, I would react the same way. How such women do not understand that they will lose their husbands, I don't know ...
To number 11: "In my opinion, anything over 60 kg is naughty. I hope someone is not offended. It also depends on their height. But those who fit 60 are like horses, big and tall." Quite a flat statement .. And to what extent in your eyes depends on height? Imagine a tall woman - about 1.80 to say. And over 60 kg would be naughty, right? Whether you are 1.60 or 1.80, for you the golden mean is around 55 ?! Have you heard of a big bone? And the most interesting thing for me is how did you judge that "those who fit 60 kg well" are like horses ?! PP If the weights can be adjusted, then the centimeters (at the height) - no. The fact that you are of medium height does not entitle you to place such epithets.
Author, I'm a man, but when I read your outpourings I come to hit you. You and your wife chose her only because of the body. Don't you feel something more soulful. When she is overweight, do you have to lose her, even with a child ... What do you think, that people are weak, in shape and perfect all their lives? Are just centimeters in circumference a reason to love someone. I am not a doctor, but by the way of logic it is normal for a woman to gain weight after giving birth. You remember that humans have a number of hormones that affect weight and mood. Maybe the reason for the weight lies in its hormonal balance. This woman also takes care of your child. Work, child care, stress, nutrition, care ... the child is already in the first place, it is very clear that she will "relax" more or less. It's one thing to be uncommitted, it's another to take care of someone. By that logic, let's see you author. Don't turn out to be a 120-pound, immortal pickpocket.