Here's where I'll start - First, can someone tell me quite simply and clearly why, when we cross our eyes with someone, the other person will always look to ask '' What's the problem, tell me, are you doing something to me? '', without us staring badly, furiously, etc. I have only seen such performances by gypsies, but today it became clear to me that it can be expected from everyone. My main goal is to understand what makes people think that everyone in their county has no right to look at them, walk past them, and so on. Let us go blind except not "challenge" them?
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A similar story happened to me about two months ago !!! Contrary to my character and the fact that I like radiant and warm people, I treated the lady across the street unfairly with exactly the same three words as quoted, with the difference that I ended up with "I have the finances"! I even think that she or her friend may have written it this way, affected by my attitude towards her (especially THEN)! Now that I think about it, I really made a mistake (or more precisely I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND HER question correctly) in the store where I was looking for a gift for my mother, for her anniversary! I don't want to pick on the ladies here, on the contrary, but I want them to know that I hate female mercantilism, and just at that "special" moment somehow her question sounded like that to me or more precisely with the nasty sound like "you have money whether "! ? Now I'm SURE she didn't want to say that (or SOUND THAT WAY)! She said something like "what budget do you have", but at that very moment her gaze did not radiate the good intentions with which she wanted to help choose a gift! I want to PERSONALLY, if I read this, apologize to her and smile heartily at her with a radiant smile! I'm really sorry because I'm convinced she took it very personally and emotionally! I'm sorry! From Rado that she took it very personally and emotionally! I'M SORRY! From Rado that she took it very personally and emotionally! I'm sorry! From Rado
Once I was on vacation and thinking about some nonsense when my gaze stopped on my colleague. I didn't even keep my eyes on him for long. I looked normal, at least I thought so. After a while he came to me and asked me why I was looking at him badly and if he had done something wrong. I explained to him that it was not a deliberate bad look and I was just wandering in space. Since then, it has become clear to me that it is possible for a person to just stare without bad intentions, but from another's point of view, this situation may seem much more tense. And almost every second does not like to be stared at by strangers, the feeling is really uncomfortable. Most people do not pay attention, even if they are uncomfortable, but there are those who start to get annoyed.
You take things very deep. There will always be such people who will try to make themselves interesting and important. Just avoid them and don't retaliate. And if he's just a stranger on the street, you shouldn't be even more impressed. He does not think that this is the case only in Bulgaria. There are people everywhere where they will always try to provoke you for no reason.
See that the comments on this site are of the type that people do not comment on the problem, and everyone in the comment tells their story. This makes every topic meaningless and no one can find a solution to their problem, because it is read, a similar situation arises in the minds of the commenters and they are in a hurry to say it to themselves without bothering with the given topic.
I will answer the title - this is a trick of the mind. Everyone thinks that he is special, unique and significant, which is normal and somewhat justified. As for the rest - maybe they pretend to be bad.