I have been married for 8 years with two children - 5 years old. And for almost 2 years. I'm still a mother. I love my children. I think I still love my husband, even though we fight almost constantly - mostly for trifles, but if the dispute starts, there will be no end. The bad thing is that it happens in front of the children ... we are both so nervous, we burn at the slightest thing ... I don't know how to explain, but I feel some constant irritation and aggression towards everything and everyone. I can't control my emotions and anger, I often break out. As I said, I love my children and give myself completely to them. But they also annoy me terribly at times, especially the big one, when they stumble on something and when it starts to answer me, it just drives me crazy! Sometimes I even slap him ... I know I have to be patient, understanding and not explode, but I just can't anymore! I haven't had any time for myself since they were born, I constantly run after them for something, the housework has no end. My husband hardly helps me. Apart from the children, we have no social life, neither he nor I. He works late every day. I know some things need to change, but I don't know how to do it. There is no one to help us. My question is - is it normal - that I feel such aggression and irritation almost constantly? Very often I get depressed - I have no desire for anything - neither to cook, nor to pay attention to the children, nor to get out of bed ... I just want to be alone, in silence, without doing anything. And the bad thing is that lately it is more and more often so .. I feel desperate and hopeless, I feel that I am suffocating ... lately I even feel dizzy to run away and leave them to fix themselves for at least 1 month !! Maybe I'm going crazy !? !? Please give advice on what to do, how to restore balance, happiness and peace in my life and that of my family? How to be a normal family, in which we do not constantly shout about everything, to enjoy our children and our marriage?
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Sit on your ass and watch your children and MEN so that I don't start you !!!
Of course, this is not normal. Try to go somewhere, diversify and relax.
Go get a referral for a psychologist. It's not a shame.
Maybe it's some form of depression, also the fact that you don't have time for yourself. Depression is very annoying. It is not a bad idea to visit a good psychologist. Scandals should not happen in front of children, because they reflect on them and some days they can become aggressive. Ask your husband to help. Black Sabbath
Of course it's normal. I have no husband and no children. And one day to stay at home, I get depressed, I imagine non-stop .... I don't know how you cope, honestly ....
Bile, you have bile problems. Drink milk thistle or whatever you decide for bile and liver. Just a health problem. Chemistry, that's it, your chemistry is mixed. And more sex, tell your husband every time you hang his voice in the bedroom. Fix otherwise I do not see, with good de.
Find a lover. As you put on, you will be happy. PS such is life, you will watch the children and the man as you did. If you are a bartender, take a babysitter and go to the malls all day.
Number 1 - I've been doing this ever since I got married - I'm looking after a MAN and children. Well, I go to work when I'm not a mother ... Maybe that's exactly the problem, I don't do anything for myself, I've accumulated over the years and I just can't take it anymore ... But if it's not just that, and I have a psychological problem? !! That's why I share here - there are probably other mothers in my situation - to share whether it is the same with them, or I'm just a psychiatrist ... The author
You don't have any psychological problems, you're just very exhausted, with a lot of responsibilities, and you can't rest. Won't some old woman get involved at least a little? Everything will pass, the children will grow up, you will be spared, take care of yourself, your health is the most important. Let a man join in on Saturday and Sunday, as long as he pities him.
We've talked to my husband many times - that I don't have the strength anymore, that I need him to help me at home, that I need to take care of myself at least once, that he doesn't pay attention to what I'm crazy about. He seems to agree, but then nothing changes. says he needs more sex, but at the same time, whenever I suggest I am still very tired. He generally likes to get more sleep, and in the evening he goes to bed right after the children. And I don't know how and when. On the other hand, I hate it when we constantly fight and I have no desire to get close to him. In the rare cases when we are together, it is very nice and we understand that we still love each other. But the rest of the time we are constantly on the knife! I give myself completely to my family and I'm sick that he doesn't appreciate it. He always justifies himself by saying that he makes money, despite, that I have always worked and never asked him a penny. The author
Hello! What you have described as a condition seems to me to be a thyroid problem. Do you have such an established problem? If not - I recommend going to an endocrinologist. And then possibly a psychologist.