Hello from me! I will share with you a story from my life, and I will be happy for anyone who decides to express their opinion or just give advice. In short: I have a serious relationship with my good and bad moments. A relationship like any other, full of love, jealousy, scandals, suspicions and insecurities. But I'm not going to bother you with another adultery story (God forbid I don't have to do it) or teenage unrequited love. The problem is the following / for some a problem, for others - no /: My partner shares almost everything. But it is not about sharing between the two of us. What I said, what I did, where we went, what we did, when we get angry, when we love each other ..... most of these things become a public secret. Shares with our friends, whether common or not; in front of close colleagues. Sometimes I get really annoyed. Several times I tried to explain to him, that not everyone needs to know what's going on in our lives, and that's why it's personal to stay between us. So sometimes I feel like "naked." Kind of everyone knows where and what I did. And he, for his part, says, "What if I told them it wasn't a lie What's wrong?" It is true that very intimate things are not said / at least I think so /, but even small nonsense irritates me. Why does he do that? He loves me, he holds on to me, we are together and yet I am irritated by this act of his. Regards: Tara that really very intimate things are not said / at least I think so /, but even small nonsense irritates me. Why does he do that? He loves me, he holds on to me, we are together and yet I am irritated by this act of his. Regards: Tara that really very intimate things are not said / at least I think so /, but even small nonsense irritates me. Why does he do that? He loves me, he holds on to me, we are together and yet I am irritated by this act of his. Regards: Tara
Answers 12
"Filled with ... jealousy, scandals, suspicions and insecurities." - great connection, nothing! Once you agree with that, I don't see what's stopping you from agreeing with the rest - they're all from the same shell. I wonder how there can be such elementary and immature beings on either side, but if there are - let them be taken, they are similar.
The author: Is there a relationship in which there is not a drop of jealousy, suspicion, insecurity and scandals ??? Well, maybe a slight argument. Is every relationship just flowers and roses ??? Apparently you are an elementary being, if you think that everything in life is "honey and butter". How limited on your part. You must have lived in a golden cage and never encountered such things to make such statements. Or you have to be very lucky and everything is cloudless. In either case, you will not know the feelings they evoke. Tested or not, it doesn't matter. I did not want your advice on the type of relationship, but on my husband's behavior. I just wrote that it is the simplest relationship like everyone else. At least as most. Those for whom everything is perfect ........ "Spit on me"
What your friend is doing is admirable disrespect! Your relationship only affects you two, and what you do is absolutely not the job of others! If it does not comply with your reluctance and continues to irritate you, then it is absolute, complete, 100% garbage!
My ex-girlfriend was doing the same thing, I dumped her, there's no fixing it. It may be normal for some, but it annoyed me, I just found another who can measure his stories.
Dear people, so when two or three women, not to mention more, share their problems, joys and worries about their personal lives, they should also be 100% rubbish. But with one main difference: They do it behind the backs of their halves and everyone can imagine how things are decorated. Here in this story, in my opinion, there is no room for concern on the part of the author, because in the end she is aware of what is happening around her and just the fact that she is annoyed by all this is not a pain to die. And I don't see what's bad to share with your friends, be it where you went and what impressions did these things leave on you ?! And if the author had written: "Help, my husband is a temerut. He does not share, he is silent like a fish, he could barely keep his words to him", etc. You would probably be rubbish, to put it mildly.
Dear author, when there is "jealousy, scandals, suspicions and insecurities" and all together in one relationship, I would not call them a "drop" ... rather it seems to me a rather frivolous and shaky relationship. Complementing the whole picture is your friend's attitude towards your relationship. I don't think that when a person holds and RESPECTS his partner, he would do, as you put it, even the smallest details in the public domain, don't you think ?! I completely agree with number 3!
You have to somehow show him that you don't like it at all, that it hurts you and would even ruin your relationship. I think if he really cares about you and loves you he will comply. Or at least he will try, because he may just be the type of person to love to share. But everything has its limits. Success! J.
Author: I wrote "a lot of these things become a public secret." Not that even the smallest details become public. Also, a lot of intimate things are not said. In other words, it all depends on which side of the table you are sitting on. Because if I'm happy, I'm happy and I'm excited about everything that's happening, I'm sure I'll go and tell you what good things are happening to me or what makes me sad. And therefore, I can get advice and support. Or maybe my irritations stem from this fact: that I prefer to keep it to myself and I'm more closed!
Hahah, my father is the same. Apparently yours is either the Gemini zodiac sign or it's just a blink. It's not an insult to him, he just likes to share everything in public, because he's obviously happy with you. Don't be angry with him because he won't change, just get used to the situation. Well, I taught my father not to tell his friends who I'm boyfriend with now, where I go in the evenings, etc., but this happened with a lot of scandals, which in a relationship will not be good. Reconcile that from time to time you will be "naked" in front of people, and if you love him - you will suffer, it is not a pain to die! Success :) mosh
I support the opinion that there is no real relationship without jealousy, suspicion and quarrels - the ideal relationship is only in the movies, and the one who says that there is an ideal, cloudless relationship - is lying or hypocritical. Regarding the author's problem - dear, and my husband is so unscrewed - he loves to share - who, what, when, how, why. At first I was really annoyed - I'm a closed person and I don't like my personal things to be made public. At one point I gave up - I just realized that he is - he needs to share, to talk, and it is not right to limit him - tolerance is the basis of the relationship. You can hint to him that it is right to keep too personal things, but not forbid him to share.
Do you know what I would do? I tell Him directly: "Abe, man, if you continue to irritate me by talking everywhere about our personal life and my shortcomings, our relationship is over .. Consider my feelings a little, will you be very happy if you I started telling your mother, for example, about your shortcomings in bed? Have a little respect and behave a little more decently ... If you don't like something in me, go and look for some bitch on the highway who will benefit you the most. cheats on anyone! " I'm just saying what I would tell him, because, for example, I can't watch people try to slander me in front of people or something like that, I just give him a shit and wash up haha. You're restrained, well done, but don't let him down so easily. He doesn't have a perfect partner, he may have but again there will be some drawback .. but this is too much. He doesn't respect you, you tell him "either go on the road or catch the forest": D give him another chance after you talk and if he's okay then he's fine :) if not then he's an idiot and doesn't deserve you at all but number 10 is rights! ...
It's the same with me as at number 10. Over time, I got used to it, and when he says some stories, he accepts my remarks as true, I'm sorry ... until next time :))))