Surely what I will share here is a banal story and it will not be of much interest, but I still need to share my pain ... I am almost 21 years old, not so old, but injured enough to I stopped believing in love ... Before I had dreams and hopes, I believed in pure and sublime feelings, I believed that there is love, that I will be very happy one day ... Dreams - they are free! I went through 3 (and only relationships), things still didn't work out, I don't know if I was guilty, but I must have been to blame, because I was always abandoned for one reason or another ... Maybe I went through everything, infidelities and quarrels, divisions, betrayal, disappointment ... everything. After my last relationship - the sum of all possible negativisms of "love", I renounced that sublime love in which I believed as a child, I promised myself I wouldn't hurt myself like that again ... and I was fine with that decision. But things don't usually happen the way we want them to and fate had to bring me together with him ... I won't be distracted by how we met, etc. there is simply no point in unnecessary explanations, except for the explanation that there are tears in my eyes again - once again ... And so briefly, when we met he had a girlfriend of about 6 months, but they had problems and he left her and started a relationship with me, and so for about a month - everything was fine, I believed him, although I had vowed not to let him anymore, yet he was the only one for so long whom I decided to give a chance - I just fell in love. Then he told me things wouldn't work out and the usual excuses when you dump someone left me no choice, I didn't say anything, he had already made the decision for both of us. Today I found out that he had returned to Her (his former girlfriend), and again it turned out that I was the toy for a few days, and she was the doll, I was the whore for sex, and she was the princess for all nights ... And again the old tape, they made fun of me again ... I didn't do any harm to anyone, I did my best for my relationships, and no one could at least treat me with dignity and tell the truth, even if it was painful ...
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From now on, give your love only if you feel the same in return! If there is the slightest doubt and similar games like this person - do not break your soul! You will find the real one after many fakes that you will meet on your way.
Beautiful lady, believe in love and one day she will give you her gifts! Don't hurt yourself because of your failed relationships. This is life - we meet someone, we fall in love. Yes, it hurts a lot when someone betrays you, when you don't respond to your feelings! But don't despair about people who don't deserve your sighs. Even rejoice that you understood in time what this man is. You are 21 years old! Enjoy life and do not allow melancholy in your soul. Believe that you will receive love again when you do not expect at all! Forget your pain, erase this person from your consciousness. Build your self-confidence, your inner world that no one can take away from you. You are too young to despair! And another time be more careful in your choice!
It hurts when they make fun of the feelings. I'm sure you feel offended and betrayed once again. But you are still very young and you have enough time to meet the one who really deserves you. Do not leave yourself in the hands of pessimism, because it is detrimental to both soul and body. These days, I realized that I was just a sex toy in the hands of a man who gave me the illusion that I was loved. We have to deal with reality. For me personally, this unhappy relationship will be the last - my last attempt to be happy was catastrophic. I have no desire to be lied to anymore (and this is my personal choice). There is no hope for me, but do not act like me. In a moment of personal crisis and depression, we decide to lock ourselves in our shells for safety. This is the wrong choice. Give yourself some time to calm down and try to forget what happened. You will treat yourself - do not rely on someone else to take your pain. I wish you patience and peace. Know that there are others like you. This is a small consolation, but still repeat to yourself that when one door closes, another opens. Fate knows its job and may help us get rid of inappropriate relationships until we finally meet the one we deserve. Keep your head up! Gerda
Hello !!! Pain is part of the path to love!?! And you are a good person and you should not give up your dreams and faith in love !!! for true Love one must go through fire and water !!! Unfortunately or for joy this is becoming more and more difficult !!! I recently read that it is not time that celebrates the heart but love !!! There will always be pain, but it depends on us whether it will be stronger or our desire to find love !! Life is full of twists and turns !!! But I strongly believe that there are still decent people !!! I still believe that it is not beauty but Love that will save, and not the world, but the few people who have open hearts and souls !!! I wish you with all my heart to find wisdom and for it to meet you with love !!! The bad thing is that people who believe in love unreservedly suffer the most and forgive the most !! But I know that through faith and patience their dreams will come true !!! Everyone makes mistakes? But this is not fatal? The fatal comes when we add them or when we surrender !!! No matter how many times we fall, we must find a reason to get up !!! Be blessed !!!! Fozzy
А съм мъж на 28 от Варна. Не се отчайвай истинската любов съществува, но не както си я представяме. Винаги има проблеми и перипети винаги има неща за доизглаждане така се стига до щастието с борба с постоянна работа такъв е живота чрез страданието се учим. Важното е да не спираш да вярваш, да не губиш детската наивност, трудно е знам. Не е точно утешение, но това което се е случило с теб се е случвало и с мен и с много други ... не се самосъжалявай, не драматизирай ... стъпи си на краката и живей тоз живот без да съжаляваш, защото негативните чувста и мисли прояждат от вътре. (hug) Parsek
Just because you haven't found the right person for you so far doesn't mean you don't have one. I'm a boy, I'm younger than you (18) I went through the same things "I didn't do anything bad to anyone, I did my best for my relationships, and no one could at least treat me with dignity and tell the truth, even and painful for her ... "Me too, but in the end it turned out that my last girlfriend had returned to her ex. At the same time as we were arguing, and if I hadn't found out from her friend, I would probably still be running after her. You will find someone who really makes you happy and loves you. Life is in front of you Success!
Hi, I'm a boy a little older than you. Reading what you wrote was like reading my story. I can hardly say these words for the first time! There are just things in life that obviously happen not only to us, but to others as well. What can I tell you, I myself am experiencing the same thing at the moment and after a very long relationship. ....
It hurts because life forces you to break with your illusions! You see, things are often not exactly as we imagine them. Electric current can glow very beautifully when it passes through the designer lighting of our home, it can play very nicely when it passes through our high-quality stereo system, it can move machines and work wonders, but it can also be very, very unpleasant. , and even deadly when it passes directly through our body. However, this does not mean that it is "bad", but it means that our idea to test it directly is inadequate. It is the same with Love and Justice - not that they do not exist and do not exist, just the ideas and approach of most people to them is wrong, full of self-delusion, and as a result - painful. Do not despair of the experienced pain and disappointments - the pain in most cases is constructive (for example: when we train our muscles, then we inevitably have muscle fever. It shows us that we have trained them well and develop them. If not, then nothing we did in training.) Keep looking for the right paths - they are in front of you, and to find them you only need your will and your ability to make choices. If we return to the example of bodybuilding and muscle fever - the pain can and should be carefully dosed: urban training is not the best training, and does not lead to anything constructive, only to great pain, self-destruction and abandonment of the endeavor ... If however, we decide to continue, the next time we have to train more moderately, until we achieve a light, almost pleasant fever (pain) after each workout.
You do not have anything to regret. Even if this partner of yours loved you and was honest in the beginning (which may not be the case), he has obviously changed his mind. Do you want to suffer for someone who doesn't really love you? There's no point ...
Hello. I am also 21. I had a hard time with my first separation. I was 16, he was a little older than the same school. He was my first boyfriend, but it was a short relationship, 1 month and he dumped me. Later I had another relationship, also unsuccessful. The third was the most painful because I was depressed. I had come across a man who apparently intended to use those weaker than him. Talk sweet talk and my head shakes. Three years of tears and pain, neglect and humiliation and I said no. I was weak next to him, I complied, but everything had to stop. He had told me many times that he would break up with me, and I was ruined, as always. In the end, the man who said the end was me. I broke up with him and he was relieved. At the same time, I met a man who was older than me. I knew what people thought of such relationships, but there was real love here. I did not give up and gave in to my feelings. After all, a relationship is an intimate thing, once it makes me happy, it doesn't matter who thinks what, does it? When I ended my relationship, I told myself that I deserved something more. I have a hard life, a family that doesn't appreciate me, no friends, I don't complain, I tell the truth. My love was salvation. For a year now, I have had a relationship that is more than good, everything I wanted. I didn't believe I would meet someone with whom I could fit in so much. My advice is - do not give away where you are not valued. The biggest delusion is to think that he will change because you love him unconditionally. People who play with other people's feelings, no matter how much you love them, they will still not change. Be sure of that. I used to think that finding oneself was a big cliché, but I was wrong. Get to know each other better, love yourself. When someone hurts you, defend yourself. Don't feel guilty about other people's mistakes! Think about what you give when you love and you will know what you deserve. Do not put up with empty promises, do not belittle yourself! Believe it or not, love always comes, sooner or later. I know it's hard for you. Another thing you can do is do other things. I don't know what you're doing right now - studying, working or both. Do things that give you pleasure and make you feel satisfied with yourself. I believe that a man will come into your life to treat you like a princess. And you believe! I hope I helped you and I wish you success! I know it's hard for you. Another thing you can do is do other things. I don't know what you're doing right now - studying, working or both. Do things that give you pleasure and make you feel satisfied with yourself. I believe that a man will come into your life to treat you like a princess. And you believe! I hope I helped you and I wish you success! I know it's hard for you. Another thing you can do is do other things. I don't know what you're doing right now - studying, working or both. Do things that give you pleasure and make you feel satisfied with yourself. I believe that a man will come into your life to treat you like a princess. And you believe! I hope I helped you and I wish you success!