My question is mostly to the men or women in my situation, to clarify this problem honestly. And here is the story. I am 35 years old. My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 8. Our sex life before we got married was indescribable - almost every day, all kinds of experiments, complete trust and many orgasms, but after marriage it is under all kinds of criticism - a maximum of 2-3 times annually, without diligence on his part, and even in the rare cases of intimacy it continues to end outside. We talked about the lack of sexual desire and the fact that it ends outside several times, always on my own initiative, to solve the problem in any way, but I don't get an answer, except that he is too tired from work (as if I don't work). ). I am a beautiful woman, I behave in front of acquaintances as if there is no problem, but I am saddened by the lack of sex. I try to be a good housewife, to pay attention to his problems, to be a good friend, a psychologist and to look sexy all the time, to surprise him in all paragraphs, but this is only on my part and the effect is zero. I'm a passionate woman and the lack of sex kills me, and I don't want to cheat. I just want to fix my marriage. I wouldn't be writing here if I weren't hurt mostly by the fact that I long for a child, and because of the problems described above, we still don't have it. I ask for your opinion! In addition, I ask for advice on how to seduce him. and because of the problems described above, we still do not have. I ask for your opinion! In addition, I ask for advice on how to seduce him. and because of the problems described above, we still do not have. I ask for your opinion! In addition, I ask for advice on how to seduce him.
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I don't want to be banal, but your husband has been scratching his itch elsewhere and is not at all sure about the future of your marriage - mostly he doesn't want / more / children from him. You are 35 years old and these are the last years for you to conceive, which he does not want to happen, because he has probably already planned his separation after fulfilling his duty to you - children, if you have or if you do not - collects money or something else stops him (what will people, his parents and relatives say). All of the above is speculation, but I'm sure of one thing - there has been another for a long time. Even if you melt Grandma Tzotzolana and your teeth and hair have fallen out, there is no healthy man who goes to bed with a woman every night and does not want her at least 2-3 times a week. Yours is from 100 to 0, which means that he is wasting his energy elsewhere or that he is ill. On average, no.
1 took the words from my mouth
On the subject of seduction: have a light flirtation with another man so that your husband understands. And if he doesn't startle him and doesn't realize that he can lose you - wtf what are we talking about? !? Otherwise, it is not good that you do not have children, but you have been for so many years. You better think about ... if a well-insured man falls in love with you .... It's hard, as you get older, you don't want to change your life and your status quo. From my (unpleasant) experience and someone else's (which I have seen in life) I have learned that if the problems in a relationship last for years and are still not solved, it will not end positively. I lost 9 years with my ex-love until I found out. We had many happy moments and joys, but we never managed to do some things. It was not easy for me to make this decision, it happened 4 months ago, I still have some desires to get along, in general it sucks, we have had a common destiny for so many years, many memories, but the more time passed, the better I felt that I had done the right thing. I've been dating a nice guy for a month now, whom I've known for 10 years from mutual acquaintances and it's very cool. She had a long relationship with one, but they broke up. At the age of 5 she was alone, now she is no longer :). For a year or so she showed me that she liked me, but I didn't give her any reasons because I knew she was serious and I couldn't just flirt with her. I wish you success in solving your problem. M 30 now it is no longer de :). For a year or so she showed me that she liked me, but I didn't give her any reasons because I knew she was serious and I couldn't just flirt with her. I wish you success in solving your problem. M 30 now it is no longer de :). For a year or so she showed me that she liked me, but I didn't give her any reasons because I knew she was serious and I couldn't just flirt with her. I wish you success in solving your problem. M 30
I don't blame him. Same here. I am 36 years old, my wife and I do it once a month, but we have a child. The reasons can be complex, you don't have to break down, but if you are stressed at work, if the tension is high and you really get tired, these are all factors that influence. Try to go on a romantic vacation for a week and you will see how everything will change.
Ooh, darling, we can make things right! Come and I will fill you with little men. And if I were no father, I would still be better than yours.
I think it's a little late for a child, but I don't know ... My aunt gave birth to her second daughter when she was 38 years old.
abe no matter how stressed a person is, sex removes stress, it's not an excuse .... I don't know, you can try to be jealous of someone, but it's hardly a solution ... if you don't have a common vision for the things you want, everything is meaningless ...
I think you should surprise him ... Something like sexier underwear. Also talk to him about it and maybe he is not ready for a child yet :) I wish I was helpful
Abe, how can you justify a woman's husband by saying that he was too tired from work? My husband can be said to have no day off if he is not at work, helping his parents' village and not sweeping their yard or throwing legs around the house. He is terribly tired almost every night, but there is almost no night he doesn't want us to have sex. Even if he is killed by fatigue and does not have the strength for sex, he does not lack desire (while he is lying down you can still give him pleasure, as long as he wants your partner). And you have a big problem and obviously not recently. I can't even imagine how a normal man will sleep with his wife 2 to 3 times a year. I understand that the situation is delicate in view of many things, but I think you have lost and continue to waste time and futile efforts to fix things, whatever it was up to you you did. I don't know if there is another (it probably is) but there is no point in hoping that a miracle will happen and he will suddenly feel that you are also a woman and have feelings, needs, etc. It is very easy to talk from the side, but your situation is not flourishing, I personally would not be able to withstand such a person. It's not just a lack of intimacy, it's disrespect for you, you don't have a real relationship, marriage in my opinion.
You have been together for 15 years and you have been married for 8 years ... and you only have 2-3 sex a year. And he still doesn't want a child - and when is he postponing ... should 15 more pass? It is not normal. I support n1. A healthy man can't have 2-3 years a year ... well, for a week, say, it can be acceptable. No matter how tense or stressful his job is, his sex drive is stronger and he will want sex. If not, then he is relaxing elsewhere ... or he is ill.
Look, I'm a lot younger (24), but I think there must be a logical explanation, and there must be something serious that worries him, like the responsibility of being a parent, but he wouldn't hide his worries about that, would he? everyone has more or less once doubted their parental qualities. The other thing that may bother him is some genetic predisposition to a certain genetic disease that can be inherited. I have relatives who do not want to have a child because of the risk of a genetic disease, so I tell you not to take offense :) You must approach very delicately and without telling him that you want a child. :)
I think the situation is critical. I am an experienced woman and a great one at that. Your husband is certainly cheating on you. He is tired from work, but in someone else's bed. Any normal man who does not have sex for even 3 days would go crazy. My advice is: don't delay too long to save your marriage; his wife in the prime of her strength and beauty, and if he, as you say, does not appreciate him, another will appreciate him. In this case, you can be glad that you do not have children, start avoiding it, live your own life, you can even break, in my opinion, without him understanding the question is to see, is not a Mr. universe. At the same time, start seducing him as much as possible without reaching the end and without him realizing that he has a purpose other than sex. In that case, it will either improve or you have to run away from it like the devil from incense.
From the author: Thank you all for the comments - all but one are quite objective criteria to draw conclusions. He is not sick. Holidays, pleasant surprises, lingerie, seduction - I tried it a long time ago and the result is desperate. It's just weird how when I walk the streets or I'm at work there are men where their pants send when we pass and their eyes sparkle, and with my own on the same bed we sleep and get the most kiss on the forehead ... I can't flirt to admit, because I am monogamous, but in a few months to end a torturous marriage in which I give my best and receive nothing is a more possible option. I love my husband, I dreamed of growing old together, of being happy with many children, that's a pity ...
Well, talk about whether you only want a child, because if you discuss it and start experimenting, you may soon be pregnant. But I do not see how this will happen if it is three times a year and as you say with thousands of reservations and excuses. The man has obviously found a replacement outside the home environment, elsewhere he is satisfied for sure. Otherwise, a man does not want to live with a woman he wants, oh very strange thing. The problem may be that he will become a father and have responsibilities, but as far as I read he is not a kid, what's wrong with him. Men his age are already coming to their senses and want children. You need to know at all costs if she thinks you will be a good mother. But if you become very insistent, which I understand you because you want to be a young mother, not give birth at 40, think about whether it will serve you that you are separating.
everyone is individual but maybe the person just for some reason does not want a child something stops him or thinks that he will be a bad father or that he will not be able to give him everything he needs and maybe someone will fill his head with nonsense that already is married his life has to change and the like ... you have to make him tell himself what is bothering him.
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