Hello. I am a 15 year old girl from Plovdiv. My problem is that I don't get along with my parents at all. Yes, I know you will probably think that this is very common nowadays at this age. But the point is that they don't understand me at all, and they don't accept my musical and film taste. I mostly listen to metal, to some extent HipHop and RnB, and also KPop (although quite a bit). Here are some of my favorite bands and artists: Eminem, Beyonce, XTina Aguilera, Destinys Child, PussyCat Dolls, Black Eyed Peas, Linkin Park, Avril Lavigne, PiNk, TaTu, Jessie J, The Prodigy, Gorillaz, Tokio Hotel, 30 Seconds To Mars, Skillet, Paramore, The Gazette, Evanescence, 2ne1, BigBang, KoRn, Marilyn Manson And for movies I like a lot of fantasy, like Avatar, Golden Compass, Stardust, Endless Tale, Please help me. Tell me, if you can, how to deal with this problem, and convince them that if my taste is different from theirs, which is perfectly normal, it does not mean that it is bad and I do not deserve to be respected. Thanks in advance to everyone for their help. Also - if there is someone my age, with the same interests as me, from Plovdiv, if he wants he can write to me here, and we will see how we will connect with each other. This is from me for now.
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I'm 12, I'm a boy I had the same problem. It's just that over time (If you don't help them when they need help, this and that) I remember having your interests. Mom and Dad understood that it was just my decision. And don't worry, time will pass.
Not your parents, but you don't understand your parents. They don't have to like and respect pointless movies. These things that you have described with great desire seem super cool to you and those who do not know or like them think you are behind. Don't worry, you are no different from the modern Bulgarian youth. But I didn't understand what advice you were expecting. In time, you alone will not respect most movies and anime.
In my opinion, this is more than normal and even covers 90% of the things I like. I think you work hard and you don't care if it seems strange to others, when you think it's not. Have more confidence in yourself and stop trying to dine people on something that is not for them. If I were from Plovdiv I would be happy to make friends with you!
Why do you need to convince them? Listen, watch what you like ... and you don't need a lot of talk and explanations. Your parents have to accept your views, even if they don't like them ... but it is unnecessary to discuss and persuade each other.
Well, the things you've listed are dumb, and your parents have every reason to hate them. But I'll tell you a piece of advice: Threaten them that if they don't let you listen and watch what you want, you'll break something of theirs, and if they punish you, send a boyfriend to slap you in front of them and convince them.
Well, the things you've listed are dumb, and your parents have every reason to hate them. But I'll tell you a piece of advice: Threaten them that if they don't let you listen and watch what you want, you'll break something of theirs, and if they punish you, send a boyfriend to slap you in front of them and convince them. The other option is to listen to chalga, eat kebabs with tomatoes, and watch Turkish series as an obedient, 12-year-old girl, as you should be.
Girl, 17. I have the same interests .... but you did not mention the most important thing, namely what are your parents? You say different, but what exactly do you mean by different, because there are a lot of different people in principle.
Well, to tell you the truth, I don't see a problem with that, they and my parents don't like the things I like, but so what !? They can't stop you from liking them !!
Do they expect you to listen to chalga and your eyes run out on various Turkish and Indian soaps? You have a completely normal and decent taste for your age, do not attach yourself to what they tell you.
You don't get along with your parents because you're trying to emulate Western Masonic projects (hip-hop, pop, movies, etc.). We are Orthodox Christians and have other values, so it is better not to be a cattle, but to be a Bulgarian who wants to preserve the nation and the interests of Bulgaria through her education, intellect, perseverance, imagination and others.
I don't understand what your problem is, I am a mother of a 15-year-old child and I think that he has similar interests to yours at the moment. Of course I remember that at your age I was also interested in modern music and anime this intoxication will grow. But what is your problem, why do your people need to listen to your music or watch your movies with you? And I also don't watch such movies with my child. Where do you feel not understanding whether they forbid you something and what they point out as a reason? Maybe you don't help at home or have bad grades because you spend your free time on music and movies instead of reading lessons. I have no problem with my child because these interests do not prevent him from performing his duties. The grades are very good, and at home it helps when needed,
sorry number 15, but do you have any idea at all about the things you call masonic?
I try to help when I can, and my grades are more or less good - not to fall below 4. Is it enough?
I'm not very familiar with most of the things you've listed, but I still decided to write about your problem. Your parents have their understandings, and they are certainly right about some things. Do not overdo it and listen a little to their words, it will be for your good. Otherwise you like these things, just calmly explain to your friends what attracts you to all this. I personally have never liked such things, although sometimes they were interesting to me. And as you were told above, in time you will realize that there are more valuable things, but even if that doesn't happen, at least you will be mature enough to know what and why you like it. You are now 15, and after another year or so, you will defend your positions more boldly and confidently, and you will not have problems with yours. Think about the fact that they love you and think only the good you most likely. Success!
Typical of a 16-year-old paw, your parents didn't give them a nap for the anime you watch. They care about things you can't understand yet.
26, have you watched any of these insignificant anime at all ??? I can tell you that if you were, you wouldn't be talking so insultingly disparagingly about those.
I am 26. It's not about the anime, I watched Naruto and I liked it. I wanted to say something else: It is on their minds that they have to make money to have something to eat and buy you textbooks, clothes, a phone, a computer ... That they have to protect you from bad influences in order to become a person of you that they must cope with the chaos that reigns around us ... I don't know what family you are in, but today in Bulgaria people have such problems, and even worse. And I'm not judging you to look at these things, you're 15. But I want to tell you that they don't care about your anime. You just filmed. : D And keep in mind that they are people a few decades older than you, normally they don't like your style / music / movies, do you like their style?
Another league. Mom said she was watching wild things, the end of the world had come. I don't - they don't have to like nonsense. And no, watching nonsense doesn't make you normal.
Hello, I am 19 and I study in Plovdiv, I like things that you do almost everything and yes, I had problems with ours for some of them, but everyone likes something differently and is not obliged to like something like others, I hope your parents will get into a situation and understand you, and you don't push them so hard and hopefully things will get better in time. Being your parents will love you the way you are :)
Hello - after so long I thought about my topic, and decided to write to you. There is a positive result in our case. We just talked calmly, sensibly and maturely, and we understood each other like great people - no one should be confused about musical and film taste, or anything, and so on. It also turned out that really, as some of the commenters suggested, they didn't really mind the things I liked - just like any parent, they were worried that I wouldn't get too obsessed. Well, after I explained to them that this was not the case, they calmed down, we got along normally on the issue, and so on. Thank you very much to all of you for the comments !!!