Hello, I am 12 years old and I have no friends, everyone runs away from me in the fifth grade, I had a girlfriend, but she moved to another school and I stand alone, maybe I'm not good company. When we go to the theater with the class and have to sit on the chairs, everyone is grouped together to sit next to whom. And I am isolated. And many times I get sick and wonder where I'm wrong. I will ask you how to have friends. thanks in advance.
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Usually in each group there is one person, who is the black sheep / the sacrificial lamb /, the different one, etc. Even if he is not different from the others, someone will still be appointed. You have a choice: either to find someone to replace you in this role or not to care at all, to ignore those who isolate you.
Start taking an interest in others. For example, after a test, ask your classmates next to a question what they wrote. Ask them in the morning when they come to class and sit next to you how they are (not necessarily with "how are you today?" such, but can without a "bastard" because it does not go to a girl). Physically, go ask them if you understood the exercise correctly. So, just take an interest in others. Also see how you are dressed and how you behave, make sure you are bathed, with straight hair, normal clothes, etc. At this age, more attention is beginning to be paid to dressing, because people are beginning to divide into subcultural groups - "metal", "chalgar", "rappers".
Oh, dear child! Don't be afraid, you will have friends in another year. You are still children at the moment and you do not realize what a real friendship is, but I promise you that one day you will have friends!
Try to get involved in their topics of conversation. But just because they are your classmates doesn't necessarily mean they should be your friends. I have about 5 people in the class I talk to, but that doesn't mean they are real friends. Distinguishes between classmates and friends. Outside of school, find a hobby, whether it is lessons in dancing, singing, drawing ... sign up for something and there you will meet other people with common interests.
Because the CIA destroyed the concept of "society" in Bulgaria and many other places around the world, promoting the concept of "individualism". You are already at an age when you could understand this. Don't give up! There will always be someone around the corner who feels like you and you will fit.