Hello, everyone! Thanks to the people who will read and give her advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we live alone in a dormitory. We are both students at the end of our studies. Basically, at the beginning of our relationship he behaved very well, he was very caring, kind, he helped me in everything. When I saw that I was completely devoted to him, I didn't care about others, I cooled down to him. He wasn't so good anymore, he was muttering more, he was laughing at me, but somehow I managed to be with him. I told myself that I would learn to live with another person, I would get used to it - and that's what happened. To date, however, his behavior has become unbearable and I can not understand why. He is unemployed, I work harder to have money. I take over the whole household - cooking, cleaning, laundry - it was my duty not to complain that it weighed on me. And he rests all day, plays games and wanders in general. And after all this, he is dissatisfied with everything. I scream for every little thing, for every crumb of earth and dust in the air. He mutters about how I dress, how I talk, how I look, how I fold my clothes, or how I move something where it shouldn't. In general, his behavior is very rude, he insults me and behaves as if he doesn't care about me. In your opinion, what is the reason for his complete change in behavior? Why is he so cheerful at one point and can insult me hellishly in 2 minutes? What did I not give him, what did he not get? Thanks to everyone who will comment. how I talk, how I look, how I folded his clothes, or how I moved something where he shouldn't. In general, his behavior is very rude, he insults me and behaves as if he doesn't care about me. In your opinion, what is the reason for his complete change in behavior? Why is he so cheerful at one point and can insult me hellishly in 2 minutes? What did I not give him, what did he not get? Thanks to everyone who will comment. how I talk, how I look, how I folded his clothes, or how I moved something where he shouldn't. In general, his behavior is very rude, he insults me and behaves as if he doesn't care about me. In your opinion, what is the reason for his complete change in behavior? Why is he so cheerful at one point and can insult me hellishly in 2 minutes? What did I not give him, what did he not get? Thanks to everyone who will comment.
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He just hadn't revealed himself. He has always been like that. A manipulator waiting for prey has seen that you are vulnerable and is taking advantage of you. Don't let that happen, most women have become like servants, passive. Talk to him, but it's unlikely to work. As a last resort, you yourself know what to do .... Good luck! Ž
He is still dissatisfied because you tolerate him. You need to get him to help you with something - for example, to wash the dishes. Being unemployed means that he can help with many things in the housework.
Beat his jester. Not only do you study, work, and most likely give him money or pay most of the expenses, but he can't fold a laundry or run a washing machine or a vacuum cleaner, he'll even mutter to you and hack you. Are his hands in his ass wrapped all day? At least find a job. He is used to his mother cleaning him first and running after his mother's gold, and now you. Either tighten up or hunt the forest. Although it is unlikely to tighten. You don't owe anyone anything, let alone endure and raise someone ungrateful, because there is no one else in the cafes or in front of the computer all day.
The problem is not that you didn't give him anything, but that you give him everything from start to finish, and he is a lazy breadwinner who is used to being his servant. Behaving like that, he stops respecting you, starts muttering about everything and becomes more and more impudent. Stop humiliating yourself and raising a useless drone. You taught him to sit and wait for everything, and he's super ready to shake his reels all day, very clearly. This is the problem. You collect his rags and go outside, let his mother take care of him. Have a little self-esteem, folks!
A man sitting at home all day without a job - isn't he ashamed? Things are not going well. You need to talk to him seriously about his plans for the future, and if he intends to drive her like that, leave him alone.
Because he is totally useless and does not contribute anything, he tries to crush you so that he does not feel, and you do not feel that he is actually a nothingness and a parasite.
Should I send you to a psychiatrist or him? But first, think about how this person contributes to making your life better?
Kick him right now!
Get rid of him. Aren't you his maid? When he is not working, he can take over part of the household, cleaning, washing, his hands will not break. As he can play, so he can help. Not to serve him!
Aloo run, don't you have respect for yourself ... What is this for you?
To love him and wonder why you're not doing so well. It is horrifying how many people have been in such relationships for years and years. Brother.
This is his model, as my grandmother likes to joke for a long time. Your friend hit 6 in the lottery. You make money, you clean, you cook, you put up with his emotional outbursts, and he gets to the point where he thinks the Lord has caught the raincoat. He begins to have high demands, because he is aware that you will do the possible and the impossible to please him. You didn't learn it that way, it's just that way. He does not look for reasons in his views, his upbringing or anything else ... he is a naughty character. He has found the easy one, he has relaxed and now he is spinning his numbers because he has peace and confidence. Even if you make him hesitate, sooner or later you will get here again. He will not change, and the reasons for his behavior should not interest you. In fact, whatever problems there are with you, there will be problems with each one. It will be even worse, for not everyone will follow him and be silent. He still hasn't figured out what flower he picked up. I'm sorry, I've been in your position (even at your age) and I understand you. I will tell you what they told me some time ago, and then I realized it myself. It is one thing to cook and clean for the lazy and quite another for a person who respects you and is grateful for your every effort. By the way, this is my father's opinion. No woman wants to be carried in her arms and pampered because she made moussaka, but attitude is a key point. When I cooked and cleaned for a man who spent every spare minute in front of the monitor, I felt like a maid. When I started cooking and cleaning for a person who talks to me in a human way, goes out for coffee with me and respects me and all our loved ones, I felt wonderful and it didn't weigh me down at all. In the first case, you picked up a teenager, you had a child without giving birth, and in the second case you really have a man next to you. I'm sorry, I'm telling you again, I understand you and I've been in your place, but you have a child, you don't have a partner. Let him live alone, then he will work and start housekeeping. You are not a maid, you are his half. It should not make you feel less human. One day you will cook and clean at home again, you will even look after children, but the person next to you will not make you feel obligated or inferior. Look for the right attitude so that it doesn't bother you to wipe the floor and not to worry that there is dust left somewhere. then it will work and start housekeeping. You are not a maid, you are his half. It should not make you feel less human. One day you will cook and clean at home again, you will even look after children, but the person next to you will not make you feel obligated or inferior. Look for the right attitude so that it doesn't bother you to wipe the floor and not to worry that there is dust left somewhere. then it will work and start housekeeping. You are not a maid, you are his half. It should not make you feel less human. One day you will cook and clean at home again, you will even look after children, but the person next to you will not make you feel obligated or inferior. Look for the right attitude so that it doesn't bother you to wipe the floor and not to worry that there is dust left somewhere.
Complex idiot. He sees that you are evolving, progressing and you need him less and less. He realizes that you will realize that you do not need it and you will throw it away as unnecessary garbage. That's why he tries to mentally abuse you and ruin your self-esteem so that you can stay with him and serve him. Get rid of this leech right away so you don't regret it one day.
He must be cheating on you. There is no other explanation.
He envies you. If something bad happens to you, you will die of joy. It might hit you someday. Spare his masculine self-confidence, find another.
Honey, drop it now! Do you think that it is normal for you to work, to support him, and in return he not only does not take over the household, but also allows himself to shout at you? Believe me, in time it will get worse. These not only do not change, but even over time they become quite angry and in the end you will eat like nothing and slaps, because he does not like the dish or because you are late after work, and he is lying on the couch waiting for you to come home and give him you cook.
My friend had a similar problem, but the situation was a little different. He told her that she was very thin to gain a few pounds, why she smoked to refuse them / or cigarettes, why she did not offer happy things, those she offered him were not happy, she had to be more spontaneous and so on. n. How does that sound to you? Pure narcissism. They are such people looking for a place to take care of them, and they are not so much that the person on the other side does not complain, and if he starts complaining, it is his fault that you did not understand him, run away from one! Nothing good will come to you, he has always been like that and now that you live together he has revealed himself! You are young, you have many choices in front of you! Lisa
Kick him right now this ungrateful and complex garbage.