Hello! Yesterday I ended a 2 year relationship of my choice. The reason is that we do not live in one place and there is no way to get together for the moment, our vision is becoming more complicated and rare and our relationship has cooled. We started arguing more often than we loved each other. And I feel that somehow I don't love this person so much anymore, my feelings are not the same and I chose to say it and put an end to it when things are not going well, instead of enduring and lying. I admit that for some time this relationship has tired and weighed me more than it made me happy. Yes, but I feel terrible after we're done. I just can't describe how bad I am at the moment. I thought it would make me feel better, that I would get better, but the opposite happened. I can't understand why this is happening, given that I want it, I want to end this person, and it hurts and I feel sick. I hate to make someone suffer ... How do you cope in such moments? How do you manage to move forward? What can I do to not feel so bad? Why is it so hard to end? :(
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I put an end to 10 years of relationship, broke up my "marriage" to be happier, I no longer saw the point of being with this person, I was always empty, but I'm still getting used to it. Everything with your time :)
Every change is difficult! Once you've been together for two years (which is not a small amount of time), it's normal for this person's absence to be strange to you and to be in your unusual state. Just give yourself time and things will get back to normal.
Well, you should even be proud of yourself, because you really did the right thing. You have made the best decision that can be made in such a situation. You destroyed an agony by invoking your common sense. Many people are not capable of such a decision for quite a long period of their lives, and sometimes even their whole lives are experienced in this way - in a toxic relationship. Just stop feeling guilty and think about your future.