I'm a 19-year-old boy, I have a girlfriend of 17. One thing irritates me, I don't understand it exactly. He always wants to be the center of attention and when that doesn't happen he is offended. For example, I go out with her and my friends and I pay more attention to them than to her and she doesn't say anything, but I feel annoyed when we don't talk to her so much. She gets angry when someone ignores her or she says something and they don't pay attention to her. Or another example - by not complimenting her much, but I usually talk to her and she feels less liked. And if she doesn't feel wanted by me, you know she'll dump me and never give me a second chance, no matter how much she loves me. Otherwise, she doesn't compliment me either, so she doesn't accidentally give up her dignity ... She insists on her independence and expects other people to be addicted. Otherwise she is very beautiful, people almost always pay attention to her, but when this is not the case and for example someone ignores her, then she is very annoyed. Otherwise, she is not interested in the opinion of absolutely anyone, only hers is important to her. What's wrong with her? How should I behave so as not to feel neglected?
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It's complex. If you want to fix the problem, even if you talk to it, it won't work, you just have to pay more attention to it.
You have an extremely self-centered, immature and spoiled girlfriend who is only interested in herself, and you are just a means to get attention and compliments. She considers herself and behaves like a princess, and you are just her servant, and I am sure that when you get tired of her or decide that you do not flatter her enough, she will dump you and immediately replace you with someone else who admires her. You will be the one to suffer because you are addicted, not her. Do you really want it? Is it really worth it?
I can tell you a lot about how bad this girl is, but I don't care and it doesn't make sense, because it doesn't work out. You just have to know that you don't have to deal with it.
Simple and effective advice: The next one, just as you wrote it, is a kind of film and you have no future with it.
"For example, I go out with her and my friends and pay more attention to them than to her" It is not clear to what extent you pay attention to her and your friends. If you ignore her too much and don't include her in the conversation, it's normal to feel neglected. I have also had such moments when they behave as if I am not there and it is insulting. BUT if she only wants her to be the center of attention and to ignore others, then it's her fault. It is not clear in the story exactly who is more to blame than the two of you.
What love in those years, you still don't know how to remember it like people.
Tip - stick a knife in her throat. The problem is finally solved, you will lie there for a year. Good luck!
It's normal for her not to like it when you go out with her and your friends. Just go out with her and have a good time. Separately go out with friends.
In love, such thoughts and definitions are strictly forbidden. Author, the truth is that every woman needs attention and does not want to be in the company of your friends as if it were part of the interior. In general, each person will be uncomfortable going out with his partner and other people, and no one talking to him. Of course, if you still talk to her and include her in the entertainment, then obviously the girl is just a narcissist and likes everything to be his, but in any other case, you are to blame for her dissatisfaction. And yes, it's nice to say a nice word to her sometimes. It would be even better if she did. People are different, I've noticed that those who need attention and compliments are really not as confident as they seem at first glance. More understanding is needed here, both on your part and hers, but you should not judge each other and quarrel. It's for some reason, but strangers can't tell you. Talk to her and find out for yourself.
When I'm with friends I also pay attention, as well as when I'm without them. My friends try to strike up a conversation with her, but she inflates and answers in one word and it doesn't work. I don't think there are complexes, she is considered for "perfect" and liked, not tied ... I'm the author
Egocentric chick with a whole bunch of complexes. you will only suffer with it. I don't see how you can fix things. Except for you to start manipulating her, because now she is manipulating you. Either a huge clinch and bullying on your part until he wags his tail and sits on the e, or you have to dump her. I see no other way out. If you get attached to her whims, you automatically become a boy for everything, a man under a slipper and you lose. Sooner or later you lose her too, because you will pass an obstacle and she will roll her eyes for the next one. In my opinion, the right position is to be naughty and make a joke if you want to keep the relationship.
And how exactly should I manipulate it?
12. - There is a huge literature on the web. You have to look for it yourself. As rude as it sounds to you, people like yours are subject to training. I may be repeating myself, but I know from experience and from reading that you should never take a woman's talk seriously. There are ways to lower her self-esteem and make her sit on the other side. With a subtle irony, kodoshi, you should take it lightly, but not rudely. My, it's a long time to tell. Just look for literature- If you know Russian, here's a video: "How to manage a woman?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vqx3tmrfT0U