Hello, I will share with you something that until recently I did not even dare to admit to myself. In sex, I am attracted to the brutal domination of women, humiliation, ridicule, dirty. Sometimes, when I'm alone, I play porn and somehow inadvertently look for the hardest scenes, where the woman is treated like garbage, like an animal. I feel how this excites me and at the same time I loathe myself, this interest and those who cause it to the fairer sex. I have contempt for these men, all the porn is nasty and humiliating to the woman, but at the same time I feel how my body reacts with excitement. Why? I can't find the answer in myself, why is that appealing to me? Why can't I have a normal harmonious relationship with tenderness, love and reciprocity, and I watch this crap. I'm looking for an answer in my childhood, maybe because I had a stern father? Yes, he was, but not as extremely brutal as to pervert sexually, so to speak. I'm interested in the psychological explanation, I'm sure I'm not the only one, but I want to know the reason that could have caused this in me, because I don't feel OK. I want to clarify that I have no fantasies related to someone humiliating and harassing me in the way I watched videos. The excitement comes from watching women being abused. I am terrible. :( The excitement comes from watching women being abused. I am terrible. :( The excitement comes from watching women being abused. I am terrible. :(
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You're terrible, another time. One does not choose what to excite him. Stop blaming yourself for nonsense, but be who you are.
: DDDD it's me too, but I'm used to it.
So what, everyone likes different things. I'm a 29-year-old man, and I can't even think of anything like that with my wife, she's super boring and I don't like anything different at all. And I like to dominate, to treat them like garbage, as he said. Not always, but it pleases me, excites me, etc. Of course, this only while we have sex, otherwise I do not beat and hit women, etc. Eh, if I find one, but hardly: D
You get aroused because in the female sexual nature it is to be dominated, possessed, to receive / absorb the male energy, to be submissive and a sexual slave.
Hello, look for an answer in your subconscious. It is possible to project your hidden desires on what you are looking at. Maybe there is an incident from your childhood that you experienced or observed. What is your attitude towards women? What do you associate these fantasies with? All the answers are in you, only you can find them. Don't worry, most people have strange fantasies and beliefs. Think about how it makes you feel all this, what you need - power, recognition, affirmation, freedom or something else?
Number 5 is right. Such is female nature, no matter how much things are covered up through civilization models. You are just closer to true female nature. Psychologists are trying to find "rational" explanations for this behavior, for example, you can read about the so-called. hybristophilia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia) - this is when women are very attracted to men who are sociopaths, criminals, even murderers, rapists, etc. This is a very extreme option, well, and few women get all the way there, but in general it is embedded in the female nature. For most women, it is limited to a desire to be dominated.
from the author: yes, but there is no love in that, you know, for me this is not natural, it is not normal. Yes, it is normal for a woman to want to be dominated, but this can and should happen in a very different way, without compromising human dignity. Moreover, I am not aroused by the thought of someone treating me like garbage, but by watching a man treat a woman like garbage. I want to understand the psychological reason for this, even if it is normal, as you say, it is not embedded in everyone, the question is why, what is the root cause.
Well, number 5 said it very well. At least you're aware, and you're looking for an explanation. Now do you understand why all those feminists, emancipators and genders are so unhappy? They want to be something outside of nature. Don't worry, darling, there are many men who can take part in a similar game with you in the form of a role. This is pure, primary female sexuality. It's just that your femininity is not so much destroyed by the world's 'fashions' and trends. "Equality of woman and man" - heh, what if men decide to be "equal" and want to give birth? if there is a world cataclysm and we go back to shovels, hoes and picks, women will still want to be equal to men ... All this 'fashion'
So far nothing true in the comments until the 5th. It is normal insofar as it has become the norm for our society. This is a consequence of the environment in which we live. You don't even have to have a serious childhood trauma. It is enough that we live in modern times, secular, and watch porn. It has nothing to do with human nature, but is a gradual distortion. I remember the movie "Return to the Blue Lagoon", where a boy and a girl grow up on an island alone, without any perversions. These are subsequently imported from a ship with "civilized" people. Such things do not happen to small groups living according to the laws of nature. Author, you are right. I guess enough research can be found on the subject. It is largely a consequence of the modern, emancipated and unnatural behavior of women,
I like dominant women and I want to have a sexy and strict boss. (at work and then to bed) M 30
All women are like that ... you want to be treated like rubbish, but only in your brains ... at least one should admit it!
One really does not choose what to excite him. And I want to stop thinking about anal sex, but I can't. The very thought of him and the man I'm doing it with drives me crazy. There is something perversely attractive. ж37
I couldn't help but get involved after seeing what others were writing .... Look for information about Asmodeus - what 'patronage' ... They say that looking at such things, people are so corrupt that they are not on their own - and you are not, you are not good like that !!! These are real things, but we humans are used to believing only what we see. Do thoughts and feelings not exist if they are not 'seen'? If you realize that it is not normal, then you still have some form of conscience ... If you stop your 'hobby', and at the same time you start to repent, try to clean yourself ... And time will pass .. I will you feel free, your eyes will not be blurred, girl! And walk in high places, there thinking changes! Honestly, I'm sorry, but I believe you will obey my order. I know it will be difficult for you .. Good luck! Ж22!
Number 5 to the author 8 - sex, primary desire, passion and lust have little to do with love or respect. The first reason is that the woman and the man have a different but complementary physiological and hormonal structure, this is easy to see - the female genitals are inside the body and the male are issued outside. In men, androgenic hormones predominate - testosterone, etc., and in women estrogenic, this determines different functions, behavior, role.
I think the author is showing signs of sadism. Without realizing it, she imagines being a man and thus abusing women. Maybe he hates beautiful women (the fairer sex) and thus subconsciously takes revenge that she herself is not as beautiful as them.
Welcome to the BDSM club! Apparently, like me, you fall for obedience. However, I want to make one clarification, all this with obedience, bondage and rudeness I do only with my boyfriend and only during sex. Otherwise, our relationship is quite harmonious, there is tenderness and trust. However, during sex we like to play games and the role of master and slave is our favorite. Well, it's fun for me to be treated rudely and ruthlessly within 15 minutes, but then we cuddle up and everything is "normal" again. We just go beyond our usual behavior for a while. So I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of, just find someone who has the opposite fantasy and likes to be dominant. And of course, there must be limits if something seems too much to you or there is a risk of injury and trauma,
Don't worry, it's not just you who gets aroused, it's a lot of other girls. I'm a boy and I've been with people who like exactly what you like. There is nothing shameful in this, everyone has their dirty fantasies or fetishes :) I also like to dominate the girl I'm with, I even like to kill her, spit on her and slap her lightly on the face. But alas, I don't do this with everyone, but I'm not worried that I like these things :) M. 28