Hello. I am a 15 year old boy. My life is very confused. Since my parents separated, my life has become hell ... We now live elsewhere and I realize that I have lost a lot of friends. Since my parents separated, I shut up and you don't want to do anything. This nightmare began in early summer 2014. I'm not saying that my parents are to blame for everything, but they broke up very hard. There was also a fight, police, broken plates and glasses. Then my father kicked us out, he wanted me to stay with him and live with him, but I couldn't leave my mother. Then I told him that I didn't know what I was going to do from there, because we lived as a family, it was completely different. Anyway. All summer 2014 I got it on the computer, I hardly went anywhere. I went out once a week to ride a bike and went to the store. The other time I was playing games and, I had fun "with mice on the Internet and we played. September 15, 2014 came. I was enrolled in a new school. New children, a new class, a new environment, etc .... I'm not so open ... I'm shy .. Then everyone I was thought to be crazy, but I still had some friends from class ... January 2015, January 1. My father called to wish me a happy new year, I hadn't picked up his phone all summer ... It was hard for me, but I managed to remove it from the "list of people I hate", he is still a relative of mine. We do not choose the relatives, they are a given. We started seeing each other and talking, I went to visit him and so on. I still have the same garbage to this day. :)
I go out very rarely, I behave especially, I prefer instead of sunny and hyper hot, the weather to be cloudy, because I like it the most. I would not refuse to go to sea, but I prefer cloudy weather. You may be wondering, what does time have to do with my character? Well, I don't know ... I'm just giving information and asking for your help ... Let's move on. 3 months ago, I started seeing a girl. She liked me then, but I didn't ... After that time, when I realized that she liked me, I stopped paying attention to her. (A complete fool, isn't he?)
I like her now, but she says she doesn't like me. I had hurt her ... Now I like her, but she doesn't pay any attention to me ... She must be giving it back to me because of before, I just feel so sick ... To make such a beautiful girl like her suffer for me. He behaves very strangely. I don't understand her at all ... I love her a hell of a lot and I want to get her back, but I don't know how. I think I'm already a waste for her and I can't change that. Basically, I'm not an ugly boy, I'm not stupid either. Just because of this computer ... My life is falling apart with each passing day. Being shy is a big problem ...
I get up at 7:30 in the morning to get ready for school. When I get home, I sit at the computer for a while and go to bed. Then I get up and start playing and it can take you all night. At night I sleep only 2/3 / hours and then the same thing again ... Not to mention on the weekends ... Even worse. :( I want help from you, please help ... - How can I get back the girl I love? She treats me like a stranger, if I go and talk to her at school will I change things? - How can I not be so shy ? - How do I change my way of, "life"? Thanks in advance to anyone who wrote a comment or gave advice. Then I get up and start playing and it can take you all night. At night I sleep only 2/3 / hours and then the same thing again ... Not to mention on the weekends ... Even worse. :( I want help from you, please help ... - How can I get back the girl I love? She treats me like a stranger, if I go and talk to her at school will I change things? - How can I not be so shy ? - How do I change my way of, "life"? Thanks in advance to anyone who wrote a comment or gave advice. Then I get up and start playing and it can take you all night. At night I sleep only 2/3 / hours and then the same thing again ... Not to mention on the weekends ...
Even worse. :( I want help from you, please help ... - How can I get back the girl I love? She treats me like a stranger, if I go and talk to her at school will I change things? - How can I not be so shy ? - How do I change my way of, "life"? Thanks in advance to anyone who wrote a comment or gave advice. if I go and talk to her at school will I change things? "How can I not be so shy?" - How do I change my way of, "life"? Thanks in advance to anyone who wrote a comment or gave advice. if I go and talk to her at school will I change things? "How can I not be so shy?" - How do I change my way of, "life"? Thanks in advance to anyone who wrote a comment or gave advice.
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You must change your mode first. Get a good night's sleep, you may not realize it, but it matters a lot. In the beginning it will be difficult for you, you will need at least a month to change the bad habit. Shyness is part of the character. What you can do is communicate as much as you can to gradually relax. There are two options with the girl: either she likes you but wants to give it back to you or she doesn't like you anymore. You can try one more time to invite her on a date. If he refuses, back off. If she then looks for you, then maybe she still likes you. :) If she really stopped liking you, you better retire with dignity. You will still meet girls and fall in love. :) And don't blame yourself for not paying attention to her when she liked you. It's just that then you didn't have feelings for her and you acted correctly by not pretending to have.
For starters, you need to start liking and loving yourself. The computer is not your fault. It's your fault that they let you work so hard because of their dramas. But you have to find a way to think positively about yourself. You need to talk to a man about your emotional state in general, because he will tell you more appropriate things and advice in general - uncle, uncle, cousin of many years, you can go to a therapist if there are no suitable older men around you. . The girl left her alone and was not angry with her. You hurt her feelings. If you were in her place, you would probably be a lot more upset.
For a start, put your life in rhythm - food, sleep
God, it's like you described me 1 year ago. I have good news for you. Gather enough courage and go to the gym. Maybe even with a friend or if not alone. There are tutorials on youtube for all exercises, programs, etc. Fitness completely changes your lifestyle. I started as a stick 60kg tall 180cm. I barely weigh 5 kg. I had not left us for 3-4 years only on the computer and at school. Only after 5-6 months my self-esteem rose a LOT, not to mention what changes I made with my body. I am now 73 kg. People who made fun of me for not having a social life now do not dare to open their mouths when they see me.
You sound like a depressed person, that's why it's best to talk to a psychologist. Number 7 also gave you a lot of useful advice. Sport helps a lot to get on the rails. You will get tired and sleep better, not to mention that your self-esteem will increase a lot when you see the first positive changes in your body. And when you start to like yourself, this will become apparent and, accordingly, others will start to like you more. Even that girl may look at you with different eyes, but as long as you call yourself rubbish and tell yourself how nasty your life is, don't expect someone to like you. Nobody likes to talk to desperate and negative people! For that, sign up for a sport and go bold! Good luck and remember, no one can help you if you do not want to get out of the hole yourself. You just have to force yourself to change something in your life.