Hello, everyone. A girl desperate for life is writing to you. I am writing to you with tears in my eyes. Why Because today, on my birthday when I have to be happiest, I stand and cry. The reason for this is my father. I'm not going to talk about him. Suffice it to say that he is an alcoholic and it is already clear. I only grew up in scandals. At least I thought he would compromise today for my birthday, but alas. I wanted to live. I really do not wish such a life on anyone. I have always wondered how I earned such a father. Why me? But I am most sad for my mother because she suffers the most. Anyway, I'm writing all this not to make you feel sorry for me, but simply because I wanted to share it with someone.
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Author, tighten up. I'm an alcoholic's daughter too, but I pushed high school and packed my bags. Today I live very calmly, but it's true - I don't celebrate my birthday because of that time. It sucks to have any expectations for a special day and to wake up in hell. Only you and only you will be able to get rid of this way of life.
What kind of person do you have to be to ruin your child's birthday? Hector
Girl, your brother writes by fate. Former de. There is only one way - cut it !!! Whether he brings the money, whether it will be harder for you financially without him - get rid of him !!! Nothing can pay for your damn nerves, crushed self-esteem and inhuman atmosphere at home. It is normal for a person to have been out all day, to have worked, to have studied (I think you are your student), to come home to meet comfort, warmth, calm. To see how the others in the house are, what they have done, to encourage each other for the next day and so on. Not to go home and see a Temerut idiot doing fairs. I was a student a long time ago and when I came back from school I heard his drunken curses from the street, and we lived on the top floor of the block. Eventually, he began to fight, not to mention that everyone at home spat with insults and threats. Get rid of it !!! And vice versa, do not accept it !!! To walk and get drunk, pig.
Number 4, you're absolutely right. But unfortunately, these mothers, who stand and endure such freaks for years and keep their children with them, will not lose it. They will neither lose it nor remove their child, they will leave him there to suffer and damage his psyche. Unfortunately. Just look at the stories here ...: ((((When the child, raised in such a "family" and in such an environment, becomes old enough to take his suitcases and leave, his psyche is already irreversibly damaged. Well, how can it not be ... and the healthiest and strongest person will get sick in 18 years in such an environment! So these mothers in question ... I don't want to hear anymore "mom is an angel, she doesn't deserve this". and masochism ... they are irresponsible to themselves and to their children I wish you success in life with all my heart, I am your sister by fate I want to tell the author
From the author Thank you for the comments. In fact, it doesn't work so our mother can stand it. Believe me, many times we have decided to leave it. Personally, I was ready to pack up right away, and I prayed so much to my mother. But a lot of people dissuaded her. It would be very difficult for us. We wouldn't have enough money for accommodation. And then he said that if we leave him, it's like I'm homeless, because the apartment is his. Can anyone answer me the following question, because I am not very aware: many times he threatens to evict us from the apartment. Can he do it, ie is he right?
Author, if you are over 18 has the right to evict you from the apartment. As an unemployed person, he doesn't even owe you support, even if you study. He can evict your mother, even without a divorce, if the apartment was acquired before the marriage or is an inheritance. Your mother is a weak woman, if you are over 16 you find a job and you can move out. If you're over 18 and graduated high school, what do you do there anyway?
He can't kick you out until he turns 18, he can't move you. You can even, ie your mother as your guardian, through a lawsuit, evict him and he will go to a dormitory until you turn 18. There are lawyers, ask what is possible, how to act. You can't sit and be blackmailed with "four walls" for the rest of your life.
to № 7: not so. even if he is unemployed after having an apartment, it is considered that he can support himself by using it (renting out, etc.). In addition, it is a FAMILY HOUSE and in case of divorce, even if it is his personal property, you can continue to use it for several years. if he is abusing you - ask for a protection order, then you can evict him with the police. there are many possibilities, the question is DO YOU WANT? author, you must be your mother's support, she has obviously resigned herself and is afraid of loneliness rather than misery. be brave, if your mother doesn't agree, when you get older, run away. the farther away, the better and start your life over
From the author: I don't know if we have the right to expel him. Unfortunately, the apartment is his and was bought before they got married. Personally, I am very afraid to call the police so that it does not get worse. He is capable of anything.
Author, if you are under 18 you have the right to evict him, but your mother must divorce him and receive parental rights. After you turn 18 / you finish high school /, he returns his home and your mother leaves. Don't you have so much money for accommodation or relatives to live with temporarily?