Hello, I recently shared my affair with a married man, I do not want to repeat myself, I am not a fallen girl, on the contrary I am from a very good and financially stable family (from this I want to judge that I am not with him because of money or looking for my father) it happened that we fell madly in love, and now we are wondering where, mostly me, I want to share with someone my story, but someone who has experienced something like this (no matter a man or a woman). We are constantly together, lunch dinners, discos, romantic nights and it happens every day, not every 2 months on one of these things, but my question is from here to where, he does not dare to take a big step with the excuse that I'm small (which I also understand) and that I have a stormy and stubborn character, he tells me that until he changes he can't live with a person who is always tense, nervous and grumbling, but still this is me naliii ?? Why does he want to change me ??? Or is this an excuse ??? Although I do not understand why he does so many things for me in case he uses me, he changed his life for me, his habits and not only his but his family's (deprives them of so much work, be it vacations, family outings). and most of all of myself, of which I am not in the least proud) All his friends say that he is too much with me and make remarks to him. How do you see things and can this story have a happy ending and in whose favor will it be? If there is a person with a similar story, let him leave an email, I will contact him. Thanks for your attention :))) habits and not only his but also his whole family (deprives them of so much work, be it vacations, family outings and especially of himself, which I am not at all proud of) All his friends say that he is too much with me and make remarks to him. How do you see things and can this story have a happy ending and in whose favor will it be? If there is a person with a similar story, let him leave an email, I will contact him. Thanks for your attention :))) habits and not only his but his whole family (deprives them of so much work, be it vacations, family outings and especially of himself, which I am not at all proud of) All his friends say that he is too much with me and make remarks to him. How do you see things and can this story have a happy ending and in whose favor will it be? If there is a person with a similar story, let him leave an email, I will contact him. Thanks for your attention :)))
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You are very strange to me, without reading your previous story. So discos, restaurants, cafes, ihu-ahu is anything but love. It is impossible for a person not to be ready to hang out with someone every day. while he is wandering, probably his wife is with them, cooking, cleaning and ironing his shirts. Eventually it could be for men, for the neighbor for a more practical and fast example. Not to mention that even if you're right, which I can't believe he's neglecting his family for you, it's a matter of character and responsibility. Such a man is not a man. I neither want to blame you nor want to blame him, again for a number of reasons, but judging by what you have written, I do not see you as a couple. Somehow your frivolous behavior, along with his stupid one, I do not see you under one roof and each of you must show responsibility for something in common.
Because sensible men do not divorce their wives because of some girl. You can see how immature and frivolous you are. Be sure that this will not last long .... He took you on vacation-God, how easily you are impressed ...
Your post exudes naivety! I am not a moralist and I will not read you morals. And that's exactly why I'm telling you that if a man my age meets you, he'll take easy advantage of you. This seems to be the case. Male 29
.... don't count on him doing something for you ... doing it for himself .... he's just another bored man with family life with opportunities ... wanting something different .... from this relationship the only thing he can to get is to learn a lesson for yourself .... and replace it with someone else before he does ... ZARA
Because no matter how much you don't believe, divorcing someone is very, very difficult, especially if you are 10, 20 years younger than him. If it was another question at his age, it's more understandable somehow. His relatives will turn their backs on him and stand on the side of his wife-victim, which will be true, his children (if any) will not be at all proud of their young / little stepmother, and mostly because the man is he found a mistress because he was looking for a mistress, not a wife. Wife, he has at home, there is someone to grumble at him, to bore him with the usual marital problems. That's why he has found a friend with whom to distract himself, go to discos, lunches and dinners. When I see, he obviously does not return to them, it is a miracle that not he, but his wife is no longer divorced. From a purely statistical point of view, an extremely small percentage of men divorce because of a mistress.
I don't know why you're dealing with a married man? He will never leave his family! You're still young and you're probably stupid ....
Don't cut your hair, those years will change you. In time, you will become wiser and realize what you have done. And yes, if the age difference is bigger, don't start ruining his marriage. Not for anything else, but his needs will always be ahead of yours in time and you will never be on the same wave, unless your goals, dreams, hobbies, characters are not the same.
I think this story will have a bad end for you and his family. This is one of the situations in which there can be no win-win, there is not even a win-lose, and it seems that it is only lose-lose figuratively speaking. You have no right to demand that he divorce first. After all, you are the second, you are the one who interferes in one family and it doesn't matter if it is with a motive of money or with another motive. You were aware that he was married and you accepted him as such - married. On the other hand, he is clearly irresponsible. You can't harm your children in the name of being with another woman and having fun. Does that sound responsible to you? Is it normal? He may enjoy spending time with you, but there's something wrong with his priorities. And he says - I will not divorce and find excuses. What your character is is not the cause, but the excuse. You know, who wants finds a way who does not want finds excuses. It's just that his situation is comfortable - he has a young girl next to him, he also has the woman he's used to. Only you suffer from this and are used to it, so I don't see you having any future with it. Even if he stays with you, I don't think he can make you happy. At least I wouldn't want to have such a person by my side. Ana
Thank you for the sincere and objective people who spoke on the subject, thank you to those who attack me, so I understand how many evil people there are, as far as my situation, I was convinced that only I can make the right decision for myself, too so that only the one who has experienced it knows what I'm talking about :))) From the Author