4 months ago and something I broke up with a boy we had an 8 month relationship. We had started arguing often about the same things, he became irritable and stopped paying so much attention to me. I found myself not expecting our meetings with trepidation from before, that I was annoyed at the slightest. And it wasn't like that before. R. was the one who met me and was quite embarrassed when he asked for my phone and Facebook. We wrote to each other for at least two weeks before we went on our first date because I was stretching. It's harder to trust and let people in, and I need time to judge the person. But after a few meetings with R. we found a lot in common, and I liked it. I've always tried to be good friends with my boyfriends, not just emphasize physical attraction. R. had often told me that I was much more than his predecessors, that I was superior to them, that I was very beautiful and good. That girls like me are rare, naturally beautiful and without makeup, and modest. I have always been told that I am different from the mass of girls. Whether I was brought up that way or a character, but I've always been more shy. R. often told me that he would not let me go. That she's afraid of scaring me, or getting tired of constantly hugging and kissing me. That it was the first time he had spoken so freely to a girl, so frankly. That he's crazy about me. I don't know what went wrong. But in our last quarrel, I demanded an end, and he did nothing. We had exchanged a lot of insulting words, and he just turned his back on me and continued down the street. After a few days I was sorry, it usually passes quickly, and I can't stand being in a fight with someone. I wrote to him for a few days, but I found only anger, coldness. He kept telling me not to look for him, that it was over, he didn't love me anymore. I told him I understood but at least return the key to the apartment. When we met, R. lived in a dormitory, but then moved to another, closer to me, almost 10 minutes away. To be alone, that he used to live with another boy. So R. had given me the spare key, telling me that I could always stop by, and he even hoped that we would both live. So I reminded him that his key was still with me, and I had to give it back to him if he didn't want us to get along in any way. It took a long time, but we finally saw each other. R. seemed happy to see me, kept his eyes on me, and we talked a lot. There was no sign of the cold man I was writing to. We continued a few more days of contact, but I almost had to measure my words, because at the very least he was on fire and forbade me to write to him. It was as if I believed through a mined field. My messages were simply read but not answered. I got angry and deleted his number, and removed him from my Facebook. A little childish, but I could no longer see that he was online and did not answer me or write first. That he doesn't care how I am. It's been a long time since I've stopped crying and suffering so much. But one night a viber message surprised me. The only way we've been together is if we live together, we'll have a future and maybe things will get better. Before the separation, R. wanted us to live together, although neither he nor he had done it before. I had told him I needed more time, and he shouldn't press me. So after reading this, I wrote him that this is not the way, the problems would deepen. R. said he would not try again. Time passed, probably 2 or 3 weeks, and an unknown number called me, R. He was very surprised that I deleted his number, even a little offended and disbelieving. He said, that I had no problem calling him. I didn't remember his number again because I didn't want to be disappointed again. I decided to write to him, and for at least a few days everything went well. We talked on the phone, we even laughed. There is a fair in town every year, and I asked him if he went. R. said no, and asked me why I hadn't suggested he go. I told him that if we were together, I would. R. was even jealous of me when I told him I was going to the movies and asked me if I had a new boyfriend. He even asked if he was more beautiful, if he was more gifted, and so on. He began to write me intimate things, as we used to talk to each other, my pet name appeared several times. He told me to write to him the next day, but I still encountered his coldness. One day he's nice and funny, the next it's like a stranger who strikes me again. And I gave up looking for him more.
A month must have passed and he looked for me again. R. at least twice first wrote to me if he could call me in the evening, to be sure. He was surprised again that I didn't have his number. The conversations were normal, he even told me that he was to blame for our relationship. One day he blames himself, the other me for everything. I decided not to press him, and just watch my life. I loved him, I got used to him, but I had to move on. After a while, he called me again to see me. I agreed, but it kept shifting the date. It's Friday, it's Monday, it's this week, it's that. I had things in his quarters, trifles, the return of which he delayed from week to week. He returned them and it was over. Okay, but from this unwinding, it just became clear to me that it wouldn't happen. And I resigned myself. So when he started to displace our meeting, I just lost my temper. He kept finding excuses. I wrote to tell him when and where to see each other - and the voice of the desert probably from the month to December, the current date. If I met R. somewhere I don't know how I would react, or he. Will it pass me by, or will it stop? I would stop and talk, but if I saw that he didn't want to talk to me, it would hurt. There are things I would like to say to him, to make it easier for me and for him to understand me better. There were a lot of unspoken things that weighed on me. So I wanted to ask you, why are some men so hard to tell you the end? Why don't you look for them for a while and suffer so much more, remind yourself? You just stop being so emotional, and he shows up and messes with the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? somewhere I don't know how I would react, or he. Will it pass me by, or will it stop? I would stop and talk, but if I saw that he didn't want to talk to me, it would hurt. There are things I would like to say to him, to make it easier for me and for him to understand me better. There were a lot of unspoken things that weighed on me.
So I wanted to ask you, why are some men so hard to tell you the end? Why don't you look for them for a while and suffer so much more, remind yourself? You just stop being so emotional, and he shows up and messes with the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? somewhere I don't know how I would react, or he. Will it pass me by, or will it stop? I would stop and talk, but if I saw that he didn't want to talk to me, it would hurt. There are things I would like to say to him, to make it easier for me and for him to understand me better. There were a lot of unspoken things that weighed on me. So I wanted to ask you, why are some men so hard to tell you the end? Why don't you look for them for a while and suffer so much more, remind yourself? You just stop being so emotional, and he shows up and messes with the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? which I would like to tell him, to make it easier for me, and for him to understand me better. There were a lot of unspoken things that weighed on me. So I wanted to ask you, why are some men so hard to tell you the end? Why don't you look for them for a while and suffer so much more, remind yourself? You just stop being so emotional, and he shows up and messes with the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? which I would like to tell him, to make it easier for me, and for him to understand me better. There were a lot of unspoken things that weighed on me. So I wanted to ask you, why are some men so hard to tell you the end? Why don't you look for them for a while and suffer so much more, remind yourself? You just stop being so emotional, and he shows up and messes with the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? and confused in the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings? and confused in the wounds? Why remind themselves if they are not ready for change? Why do they give up vain hopes, and so play with your feelings?
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You ask interesting stories and good questions. They treated me like that. I have a strong character, principled and uncompromising, but understanding, don't you ... don't imagine a commander. I'm beautiful, I know everything I need to have a homely atmosphere, I have a rich general culture and interests, so my personal life should be great, but it's not, precisely because most people are weak-willed and have a hard time with people like me. . They're scared, it's hard for them to be with me, but at the same time it's hard for them to end their relationship with me because I'm ... in short, a dude. I think it will be the same in the future. I'm difficult, they like it, but it also rejects them, slowly and gradually. If you have a character like mine, you will see that in that. I am 29 years old and I have been like this since I was a child. So far, none of my relationships have ended categorically on the part of the other. I'm the one
This, in my opinion, is a toxic relationship. He doesn't want to be with you, he doesn't let you go at all. And the moment you catch a new boyfriend, the circus will be guaranteed. I would advise you to distance yourself from this person. You are either together or you are not in contact. The middle position will only get you in trouble. And why does the whole thing ... I think it's a matter of ego. When he sees that you are withdrawing, the ego calls ... When you "approach" you become a kind of sure. Most likely he himself does not realize it.
All he has told you are some wonderful "type phrases";) However, women are trusting ... even very much;)) He is fed up with sex or has found another to tell them the same things and now he will only look for you for sex. Forget them or find another one. Otherwise you will cry permanently.
I had such a relationship during puberty, now my relationship is more mature and is being considered more deeply. Such connections are very instructive, everyone has to go through something like that. Don't be sorry, you can only be happy that you had many beautiful moments and know each other. Communication is a two-way process. Either you both have guilt, or no one is to blame and you just don't fit. You were the first to push him away, the boy was guided precisely by his feelings in all this mess after your separation. It wasn't easy for him to end because he wanted to, but he couldn't forget you for a week. Do not believe that a few days after the separation, a person who loved you will suddenly stop loving you. This simply cannot happen. He may be hurt, offended and angry, his love may even be more like hatred, but he may not completely forget you and not have a drop of good feelings for you. You did the same with him, together you became entangled in a complex web driven by feelings. You left it, you regretted it, you erased it everywhere, then you wanted it again ... there is not much straightforwardness in love, especially when we are still young and guided mainly by our emotions. You both have guilt for each other. You hurt him, he hurt you too. I admit that your questions are good, but they are not the right questions in this situation. What he did, you did. I'm not blaming you, don't touch me, I'm just a bystander and I'm trying to give you my impartial point of view. It is right to sit like big people and understand each other once and for all. Reading this story, I think you both want to be together, but you haven't found a suitable compromise and you have personal concerns. Sometimes, in case you're sure that you want the relationship to end, you will have to end it yourself and be firmly convinced and consistent in your decision. If so, you would not feel the hope he gives you. You wouldn't notice her the same way. Maybe you're not ready to let go, or maybe you're both too scared of your relationship to be comfortable going back to each other. Make a decision for yourself and talk to him, let this be a last chance and whatever he says, draw the line and calm down. Otherwise you will still have to rotate in such cycles. and maybe you're both too scared of your relationship to be comfortable going back to each other. Make a decision for yourself and talk to him, let this be a last chance and whatever he says, draw the line and calm down. Otherwise you will still have to rotate in such cycles. and maybe you're both too scared of your relationship to be comfortable going back to each other. Make a decision for yourself and talk to him, let this be a last chance and whatever he says, draw the line and calm down. Otherwise you will still have to rotate in such cycles.
I wonder if there's so much you can do to do nonsense. I didn't have any and I would take the keys to him and send them to Econt and write to him to get them from the office. You said no to the end, so no matter what these writings and nonsense are, you have to have self-respect! And when you see yourself on the street and say hello to him if a big job goes by. I have met by chance with ex-boyfriends you exchange a few common stories and wish you all the best, if you offer a meeting I say that unfortunately I do not have time at that moment and so much.
Because they don't want to be alone. It is the same with women - they suffer humiliation and fighting, if only they are not alone.
From the author To number 5-- I couldn't send the keys via Econt, I didn't see it correctly. The boy gave them to me by hand and willingly, and despite our problems, I could not just send them via Econt. After all, I've been with this man for months, and he gave me the key to his apartment, and to shake them in an office would seem too cold and vicious. It's even a little humiliating. I know that not everyone thinks like me. Besides, the boy and I live practically in the same neighborhood, from my terrace I can see his block in the distance. They are no more than 10 minutes away. We can hardly avoid each other forever. To number 3-- Hardly anyone can pretend for months and play a role for one sex. It is possible, but for the good of all women, I hope that there are honest and sincere men who will think and say these words from the heart. Otherwise, we are doomed to deal with actors who play a role just because of the bed. I think he told me the truth, because that's how I felt it in my eyes, gestures. Some things can't be played out, like a look, tears, and he cried for me. Or I dated an amazing actor, as you say. To number 4 - I know I hurt him, and he hurt me. I know things had stalled a long time ago, and we were arguing about the same things. Now I realize how stupid and reckless I have been at times. Our last quarrel was quite big, and I just said goodbye in anger. He was stunned, and just left. Days later, I tried to insist that we talk, find some way to make things right. Well, I encountered obvious reluctance, boredom and hatred. From the week before last, I suddenly became a stranger to him. He stopped replying to my messages after a while, and then I gave up. I told myself that if he wanted to, he knew how to find me, and that I shouldn't press him anymore. And I deleted it, but for my peace of mind. I saw that he was online, but he didn't answer me, or he was looking. It was killing me, and that's why I did it. I was tired of waiting for him to call me without doing it. It hurt every time he told me not to look for him anymore. That's why I did it. And we used to write to each other for hours, and he could barely spend a day without seeing me ... I tried to understand each other, I really tried. I tried to be proactive, I tried to quell the conflict and reach a compromise. But after repeated refusals, I surrendered. I didn't even expect him to look for me, because he was pretty sure it was over. He joked with me as before, as if nothing had happened. But the next day it changed like magic, and he became evil again. And I'm tired of constantly measuring my words, or not knowing if he really wants something to work out between us, or just out of loneliness and boredom. I'm tired of guessing. There were times when I thought he wanted to, but there were times when he was glad he was without me. I would be lying if I said I didn't miss it. As I passed by where we were, I remembered conversations, jokes. Time will pass, I know. I know, and obviously he feels the same way. His demeanor confused me, because when I wanted, he pulled. Now that the pain has subsided, he thinks of me, and it's as if I'm reliving the first days after the separation, and how I felt like a wreck. If he doesn't want me, why does he make me go through this over and over again? It would have been better if he hadn't looked for me, I think sometimes. It would be better if he didn't ask me if he could call me, asking if it was over. I told him I understood my mistakes, and I could change something. But he couldn't guarantee that he would be the same boy he was in the beginning and I fell in love with. He told me I was better now, and no one would make me angry. At the same time, I feel that he is still attracted to me. Maybe he's not as ready to see me as I am. Maybe one meets the right people at the wrong time. Besides, we may not be for each other at all. Whatever happened, I have fond memories of this man. I don't focus on the bad guys, there's no point in hating someone you kissed and hugged yesterday. I could never hate my exes or pass them by like little stations. But he couldn't guarantee that he would be the same boy he was in the beginning and I fell in love with. He told me I was better now, and no one would make me angry. At the same time, I feel that he is still attracted to me. Maybe he's not as ready to see me as I am. Maybe one meets the right people at the wrong time. Besides, we may not be for each other at all. Whatever happened, I have fond memories of this man. I don't focus on the bad guys, there's no point in hating someone you kissed and hugged yesterday. I could never hate my exes or pass them by like little stations. But he couldn't guarantee that he would be the same boy he was in the beginning and I fell in love with. He told me I was better now, and no one would make me angry. At the same time, I feel that he is still attracted to me. Maybe he's not as ready to see me as I am. Maybe one meets the right people at the wrong time. Besides, we may not be for each other at all. Whatever happened, I have fond memories of this man. I don't focus on the bad guys, there's no point in hating someone you kissed and hugged yesterday. I could never hate my exes or pass them by like little stations. Maybe one meets the right people at the wrong time. Besides, we may not be for each other at all. Whatever happened, I have fond memories of this man. I don't focus on the bad guys, there's no point in hating someone you kissed and hugged yesterday. I could never hate my exes or pass them by like little stations. Maybe one meets the right people at the wrong time. Besides, we may not be for each other at all. Whatever happened, I have fond memories of this man. I don't focus on the bad guys, there's no point in hating someone you kissed and hugged yesterday. I could never hate my exes or pass them by like little stations.
Maybe there's another one and that's why he's insecure. You are still important to him and he checks you from time to time. He doesn't want you to forget him, but he also doesn't want to be with you because he wants to try the other one first. In my opinion, it is best to stop all contact with him and put an end to yourself. It will be difficult at first, but then you will feel calmer. This boy will not change and even if you get together, it will never be the same, because you are both high ego and you are badly hurt. You will not be able to forgive yourself. Accept that with some people it just doesn't work without being guilty. Or maybe he is a womanizer and this is the term of any relationship and there is nothing you can do and you are not to blame. Head up and smart