I am a 17 year old girl and I have a 14 year old sister. Lately, I've noticed an embarrassing change in my wonderful father. He is terribly cold to me, unlike his attitude towards my sister, he praises her, hugs her, kisses her, is happy for her, and he doesn't talk to me almost ... He always agrees with everything I do, you know, I go without problems at discos known for drug addicts and beatings, I go home alone at 4-5 in the morning and he doesn't mind. Not that it bothers me, but it would just be nice if he just told me to be careful. I can't talk to him because he will tell me that these things just seem to me. Advise me what to do :(
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You are very shaken by the Oedipus complex ... you are jealous of your own sister! You are 17 years old, almost 18 - that's why they left yours to develop. As for the other - find a friend to cuddle, as long as he looks at his father.
Darling, pay a little attention to him, after all, he is your father, it is not normal for only your sister to be interested and you are important to him in life. My 9-year-old sister and I get along great, but my mother causes us problems. . Now she and I live with him. The little one always pays attention to both of us equally because she loves us. Be careful and maybe you will gain the trust of your sister and father. Boy- 20
Find reasons to tell him that you love him, that you are proud of him. Ask him for advice and tell him that they are very valuable to you. Tell him how your girlfriends envy you for having such a father, that you are friends with him. Tell him how happy you are to be Daddy's girl. I believe that such words will soften his heart. Sometimes parents show preferences, but this does not mean that they do not love their other child.
My kitten we will meet I will pay enough attention to you :)
By sitting in the holes until 4-5 in the morning, do you want to make him proud of you? I advise you to stop; if you make an association between the discos and your father, then obviously it has something to do with how he treats you. This is just advice. You naturally know things better than I do.
There's probably nothing you can do - he just prefers your sister for a number of reasons, she's his weakness. If you tell him, of course, he will deny and you will come into conflict. №2 may or may not be right. The fact is that the parent, mother or father always draws to one of the children, even when they are of the same sex, they share them. That's it. There are no exceptions. You can only reconcile when it comes to the same thing, but your father's reaction is different from you and your sister, not to be silent.
From the Author Thank you for the advice, I will try to use them, but please do not think that I do not get along with my sister, on the contrary - she is one of my closest people, not to say the closest. Our difference is very small, we grew up together, she (besides me) knows most of my secrets. However, from time to time, like all sisters, we get annoyed too. If not my mother or father, then she is certainly my grandmother's favorite and often likes to present me as a "black sheep". I'm used to it, it doesn't bother me that much, I'm not complex, it's just a little weird. You see, my father and I only see each other in the evening for a few minutes, and we still don't exchange words, while my sister, who is also not young at all, asks her about her grades, how her day went, and so on. And when I was younger, we were terribly close to him.
You didn't post my comment, well, but I was the only one who answered the girl who was wrong with his father. So she will continue to wonder. What was so unacceptable about what I said, and it's more than clear, that the father can't look at her because he avoids imagining what his daughter does at night? For a father, it is thunder from the clear sky for his daughter to have a pathless life ... She is STILL a minor, after all!