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Will He Look For Me ???

By fireandice20202 September 05, 2020 10 answers Last updated September 05, 2020

Hello, my story is this: I had a friend for almost a year and a half, we love each other a lot, but we also fight a lot, we always find something to pull for. Several times after an argument he keeps telling me that he doesn't want to see me and after a few days I look for him or he looks for me. So now a few days ago it happened exactly like that, again he took the initiative to separate, but this time I do not think to do anything to get it back. He knows how much I care about him and expects me to do something 100% again in the name of our relationship, but this time I'm thinking of checking and waiting to see what he will do and whether he will do anything at all. As for the separation, it was because of great stupidity, nothing significant, and he, because he is very nervous and does not know what he is doing when he gets angry, so he came to the end again. So far I have not and will not lie to him or do anything behind his back, neither will he. So my question is: what do you think will happen, will he look for me? PS I'm 19, so is he

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ioanacrazy87 answered · September 05, 2020

   What is this nonsense? Most likely to offend you and ruin your relationship. Don't pretend to be stupid, call him.

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fierroj answered · September 05, 2020

   Look for him, he's nervous and proud, but that doesn't mean you're not important to him. You know best what your relationship is like. One feels if the other side has love ...

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joythebaker answered · September 05, 2020

   I've been this way. I looked for him first, but when I saw that he was still angry and looking for a way to get rid of me, I gave up. However, it is quite stupid to look for someone because you miss him, and he pretends to be important and too busy. It's like you're annoying him. And I stopped and decided to just leave him alone. After a certain period of time, he looked for me alone. Just remember that sometimes people need time. Besides, if you ignore someone long enough, and if they care about you, they will look for you. This is how people are arranged obviously, pure psychology and even curiosity. Besides, only time will make him miss you. There is even such a rule, No Contact, that is, without any contact with the other person for a certain period of time. In general, you give yourself time to gather your thoughts, to even cry. To think things through. But it is very important not to fill it with messages, calls. The effect can be the opposite - to make it annoying. You will look too desperate and sticky. I know it sucks not to look for it, but sometimes it's better. It is recommended that you do not even look at his Facebook profile, or when he is online. You will only struggle and hope that he will call or write to you today. And when it doesn't happen, you'll feel even worse. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I have been with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. You will look too desperate and sticky. I know it sucks not to look for it, but sometimes it's better. It is recommended that you do not even look at his Facebook profile, or when he is online. You will only struggle and hope that he will call or write to you today. And when it doesn't happen, you'll feel even worse. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I was with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. You will look too desperate and sticky. I know it sucks not to look for it, but sometimes it's better. It is recommended that you do not even look at his Facebook profile, or when he is online. You will only struggle and hope that he will call or write to you today. And when it doesn't happen, you'll feel even worse. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I was with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. It is recommended that you do not even look at his Facebook profile, or when he is online. You will only struggle and hope that he will call or write to you today. And when it doesn't happen, you'll feel even worse. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I have been with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. It is recommended that you do not even look at his Facebook profile, or when he is online. You will only struggle and hope that he will call or write to you today. And when it doesn't happen, you'll feel even worse. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I have been with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I have been with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort. There is a lot of information on the Internet about this tactic, videos. It may not be for everyone, but at least it gives you time to just recover emotionally and, if the relationship is renewed, to know what you can do better. And if he doesn't want to fight for you, even worse. I have been with such a confused man who said no to every argument. Very immature and confused behavior, and pure inability to deal with conflicts and problems. You will need a lot of effort.

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hottyasiantwink answered · September 05, 2020

   This game of nerves is very exhausting. I do not know what exactly to advise you, because there is not much information, but the ego is not the best advisor. Since nothing tragic has happened, I don't think stubbornness will help. And I've been in such situations, and thinking about what to do, I've always come to the conclusion that the silence and silence of the phone and the lack of any notice and clarity about what's going on between us is painful for both of us. Nobody wins ... and it's not necessary. This is not a race. Clarify and love each other :). Success!

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interviewmag answered · September 05, 2020

   Let this boy sulk and find a more normal man.

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nutella answered · September 05, 2020

   I understand you completely. I wouldn't look for him in your place either. I had such a relationship during puberty. Sections, gatherings, quarrels. In the end, I'm just tired. The boy told me we were breaking up and I agreed. I didn't look for him. Two days later he came to us to apologize, I accepted the apology, I wasn't angry at all, but I was no longer sure I wanted him in my life. You tend to reunite with him, but only if he makes an effort. I understand that too, you have feelings, you want to be together, you're just tired of the games. My opinion is that your story will probably be repeated. You live your life, I won't tell you not to date him, but I have to warn you that once something has happened "n" times, it will happen a lot more. True, he is proud and nervous, but these qualities are at your expense. If you're so important to him, it must stop leaving you at every obstacle. And it is possible, believe me.

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humilcuck answered · September 06, 2020

   Stop with this absurd connection. For a normal relationship you need a lot more than love. Love is given to a person who treats and understands you as his other half. I'm crazy about "love", but if you don't respond with the same attitude and self-sacrifice to call it, it's not possible. I have been living with one person for 6 years now. We got together to be together and start a family. We also have a 5-year-old child and since she got pregnant she has shown her true nature. Evil, stupid, irritable. Every day she looks for a scandal! I got to the point where I had no desire to go back to my own apartment. You are still young. Your age is short. Look for a real person to help, understand and love you. These quarrels between you will not stop. It will get worse. He gritted his teeth and left him.

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inkeddaddy413 answered · September 06, 2020

   From personal experience I tell you that the person who always "leaves" after an argument, just doesn't like you enough, doesn't appreciate you enough, isn't sure he wants to be with you ... I do that, so I know ... yes, it's impulsive, then I come back out of pity or some feeling, but ... to be honest, it's not cool for the person opposite. How do you feel about his "departures"? Eventually you'll get bored, you seem to be fed up, but ignoring him won't make him more balanced and engaged ... doesn't mean he has no feelings, he has, but ... most likely something is wrong with him. Talk about it, don't ignore it, it just doesn't make sense.

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zayfer_1 answered · September 06, 2020

   You are as immature as my girl, as he is. Many people do not understand that there can be no full-fledged relationship without the people in it being mature. Many people do not properly understand the definition of fidelity, love, eternal support and understanding, compassion. It takes courage to love someone, but for that to happen, you must first love yourself. Fear is what makes people play games, and this other is not love at all, but usually selfish attachment. You do not love him, but the way you feel in his presence - the euphoria. You do not want his happiness, but your own. You didn't open your heart to him unselfishly, as I suppose. What I advise you is to work on yourself, to learn to love, to grow and to gain wisdom. And one day, when that happens, you find someone who grew up on the same level,

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scubasteveh answered · September 07, 2020

   Only in your fantasies!