Hello! With him, ie my beloved, we are not constantly together, so far we are separated and rarely see each other, but when we are next to each other, he almost always gets aroused and wants me, he wants to make love, but I was a virgin and it hurts. Our first contacts were very strong, but for a short time we had to part, because we are from distant cities, months of long and painful separation followed again, to want someone, but not even be able to touch him ... I'm not small, please don't make fun of me, I dreamed of meeting the boy for me, I'm a little over 30 years old, I wonder if because I waited a long time or because we couldn't be together, it still doesn't work and it hurts. And he wants me so much, I hate that I don't relax enough, and physics doesn't allow it since I haven't had sex with others. Will things work out or have I become sexually invalid,
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You may have tendovaginitis. It doesn't have to be because you were a virgin. Go to a gynecologist instead of writing here.
You haven't become sexually invalid, you just don't have experience. Add to that your worry that it won't work, you tighten and strain subconsciously, and the result is that it hurts. This condition is called vaginismus and is not a disease. You are physically ok. Having sex with more men does not mean that your vagina will expand. The vagina can only become wider when there are very strong stretches, such as childbirth. There is no way such stretching can happen during normal sex. Yours is on nervous ground. I advise you to masturbate and get to know your body yourself. This will help you relax and find out what you like. I also recommend that you buy a sex toy, vibrator or dildo. Make sure it's made of silicone, because plastic ones are harder and won't help you relax.
Are you aroused? Tell him to arouse you well, to be wet underneath and you will want to be inside yourself.
This rarely happened to me. I am a man of 39. I've had enough women, but it's happened to a few. My member is 21 cm and has a good circumference. I'm not big and complex, but nature has taken care of me. Each first penetration was accompanied by pain and withdrawal. On my "revolving" conquests in the 3rd minute they tried to take it all, but in others they needed more time and clenching their teeth in pain. I will not forget the incident in which a supposedly capable girl had found out about the size. She claimed that she was not a virgin and had a boyfriend who was her first. She paid him a lot of French attention and decided she should sit on top of him. He did it very quickly and reached the halfway point. He screamed in pain and jumped. She understood why she hadn't bled the first time, but only with me. I begged her to finish me. I can barely bend. I was very careful and by half an hour she was riding me calmly. Three days later, he spotted me in a restaurant and took me to the toilet. He took off his pants and asked me if "her butterfly" should look like that. I looked at her and we realized that her small and labia were still swollen. The gynecologist also explained it. I currently live with a woman who behaves the same way. It is very difficult for me to make her relax and sex with her is like a burden. She gets what she wants and I get half. It hurts after half and the act turns into torture. 5-6 years ago, when we were chasing ovulation every day and getting pregnant, there was no problem. It gradually expanded. It is possible that your boyfriend is more gifted than usual and in combination with your virginity you have this problem. I can give you some tips as above. Don't think about the pain. Don't get into it, that it will hurt you. Let the boy make you finish with just your fingers and tongue. When you are wet to the limit and ready to continue with your second orgasm, sit on it and control the penetration yourself. Gradually you will accept it whole. But by no means leave it only halfway. It can't hurt you, but it will be for a short time. And the most important! As much sex as possible from there to Dad.
Hello, I am the author, I get aroused when we are next to each other and we both get very aroused. He licks me. He does everything possible to relax. I get well. but then it seems to hurt and I honestly lose the desire for sex even though he really wants me and I let him do it despite my pain,yes he asks me if it hurts me he is not indifferent and to think only of himself I appreciate it in him and I often keep silent about my pain he then gets angry at me why I didn't tell him but I want him to finish to relieve him and I endure everything and then I feel overwhelmed I said and he thought And he really wants it to happen so that I feel pleasure but I do not know if it will get people it is very difficult for me still Besides we see each other rarely and when we see each other I am quite narrow again and it hurts again we want so much that we can't stop having sex.