Hello, a desperate girl is writing to you. I am 18 years old and I can't find a real friend, which makes me very sad. Over the years, I had several girlfriends and friends, but they always betrayed me (then they tried to get along, but I do not forgive betrayals). I currently have a "girlfriend" at school, just so I'm not alone. It may sound immodest, but I am much nicer and liked by her, it is obvious that she is complexed by me and she envies me. How did I find out? Constantly making fun of me, which he knows I'm annoyed with. Hell, it's annoying, I just can't stand it. And it's always been the problem with me that everyone is jealous of me, and I'm a person who cares a lot about my friends and I would never be jealous of anything (I'll even be very happy if the person is happy). I really want to meet such a person, who is not envious and be my true friend. Basically, I'm such a person that I don't need a big company, I've always had a "girlfriend" (maybe that's my mistake). I feel hellishly lonely. Do you think it's my fault, how do I make them treat me like that?
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Hello. Don't worry, the problem is not in you. It's just that the Bulgarian mentality is like that. The people are crushed and cannot tolerate people who are not. I have the same case from a teenager, but I am almost 30 years old and it stopped impressing me. There are good people who are not complex and contain value in themselves. They will be around you for better or for worse :) Just be patient and do not force yourself with negative people. As such, discard it and live alone. Practice some hobbies and fill your time. So, in addition to the things you like to do, you can meet people with your interests that you like. Success!
You can try to lower your self-esteem a bit. You can even see it from the few lines you wrote. And don't be hypocritical, you're supposed to be a friend, and you can't stand her?
you are a man who cares for his friends, but there are none. you have one, but you can't stand it. in fact, you are not a person who cares about people. if you care who is the best, then you are not an adult, even though you are 18 years old, you are 5. If you treat people badly, if you are arrogant, flaunt appearance and social status, it will never be to have real pirates. You will never have the right person next to you, simply because the right people don't like light people. As a person who has a girlfriend with a similar problem as you, I will tell you this - start being kinder, quieter, be beautiful when it is so important to you, but do not flaunt it - people will notice what you are and your qualities themselves will begin to come to you. catch a few books - I highly recommend how to have friends and influence people.
your mistake is to have self-confidence. I do not deny - many traitors in this world, but why do you think that everyone betrayed you because you are beautiful? with this "one thing in mind" of yours, you prevent yourself from finding true friends by thinking that everyone envies you. : d Try to ignore the fact that you are "much prettier" than the girls you interact with and behave like a real person. A friend and I had an argument like that .. years of friendship and she constantly thought that I envied her money, hair, clothes .. how to communicate with such a person who puts himself above me based on his appearance? Think about your values and try to see the mistake in yourself and not only in others. Otherwise, there is no dispute here - nowadays it is very difficult to find a person who would always stand by you. It's just that people are mean for some reason and are selfish en masse, but there are .. there are still real friendships somewhere .. just with age the "real" friends .. with age and difficulties they become less and less and over time you realize who is really next to you for your own sake, not for any gain. Success!
First, the fact that you do not forgive betrayals is not a cause for pride. No one is sinless, and since when you make a mistake, you expect to be forgiven, you must be able to forgive. I'm writing this because you may have missed a real friendship. Second, common interests are required for friendship. Enroll in courses or see a fan page on Facebook of something you like. This way you can meet people you like.
Buy a dog, otherwise I don't know who will last you.
Nobody envies you, your ego is big and that's why you don't have friends
As long as your nose is turned up and you consider yourself a great beauty and you think that everyone envies you, you will NEVER tie friends. Get down on the ground and then you can make friends with someone
I think it's your fault, because your statement shows that you are very arrogant and you somehow show it to them. You say that you are much more beautiful and liked than her. You may not say that, but your face reflects your thoughts and others feel it. You will not have real girlfriends if you continue like this. There is a saying: An ox like a ditch falls on his head.
FROM THE AUTHOR: Only one person has correctly assessed the situation and that is the person from comment 1. By comment 5 I will say, YES I am proud that I do not forgive betrayals and that I have principles :) I do not think that makes me a bad person! And I have never said that I am sinless, but I claim that I am not MALICIOUS and COMPLEX towards friends! I see that for you, when a person is a realist and tells the facts, it means that he has great self-confidence !? Again, the same villains and complexes as 98% of the people comment. I never wanted to be above anyone, just a completely normal attitude, without mischievous smiles and insults!
Oh, author with number 10, if there are villains here, YOU ARE the biggest villain. Exactly what you claim is not EVIL AND COMPLEXED, exactly with these nasty shortcomings in your character you stand out the most and you will NEVER be cured of them unless it happened until you turn 62 years old. NEVER.