Hello, I feel guilty not because I did something, but because I felt something strong and pleasant. At a company gathering in the evening I danced with a colleague who is very unpleasant and disgusting to me (otherwise he is nice, he is just a wooden philosopher and we do not understand each other at work). The dancing continued and the distance melted and the disco ended. we decided to continue in the pool. 20 people in a small pool and you talk to everyone and it started to get cold and the colleague in question started stroking my legs and as the night progressed we stayed less and closer. In the end we were hugged two by three in the pool, captivated by the cold, we were getting closer and closer and the bad thing is that I really liked this closeness with the person I can't stand. the moment I liked it the most I just went out and hoped it would all be over. After all, I have a friend and I have never had a desire for another person - I can't stand it. The other bad thing is that my colleague offered me a friendship on FB and we write common stories but he laughs at my stories, listens to me - exactly what my friend has not done for some time. I love my boyfriend and I want everything to be the same as before. Why, of all the people in the world, did I find myself warming up to this particular man, and why the hell did I like him so much?
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There's something to worry about. It's your fault you let him in too close. Only your husband has the right to touch there. If you keep drooling with this one, don't be surprised if you cheat. In my opinion, even now you are fighting.
A moment of weakness, you did the right thing. Talk to your friend to clear each other's problems. The other person will always be your consolation, but that's only for a while. Don't ruin your relationship because someone paid attention to you.
Well, if you want to play with the one that "irritates" you, first break with your friend and play at will. It's stupid to hang out with someone else in the pool while you have someone by your side. If your boyfriend turns in the pool with a colleague and you understand, how will you feel? Do things so that they are not fucked. It is not easy, but it is correct. Otherwise, in time you will write here again. "My friend left me because I cheated on him, but my new one would joke because I don't like him anymore" :) You decide. If you're doing stupid things, don't expect cool things to happen to you in the future. Law of nature. ;)
Very cool company gathering with the end of groups in the pool. I want in this company too :-)
You went that way ..
You have a friend and you swim in a pool with another person. How would your friend feel? Abe, what is happening in our time - can't people consider elementary things? Don't you like your friend's caresses? If he's cold, talk about it, and then decide what to do, but while you're together, I think it's awful to act in such a way that you don't consider another man's caresses to be something that humiliates you, even though you like him. Confused work - sorry.
You've had a good time, which you don't have to spend your whole life on, you can just leave it there. Especially when there is alcohol, the inhibitions drop a lot. Another question is whether there is something significantly unsatisfactory in your relationship with your friend and why you needed intimacy. You can also draw the appropriate conclusions. One possible conclusion is that probably the next day the colleague continues to be a wooden philosopher.
There is no such thing as guzna without guilt. If your conscience bites you, then you have "disturbed" your inner balance. Ž
When you lack answers to your favorite habits, such as listening and understanding from a loved one, sometimes you look for them in distant people who in one way or another have predisposed you and you are littered with attention. In my opinion, you are offended or hurt by your friend and that is why you feel such feelings towards the other. I keep my fingers crossed for you and your boyfriend to rebuild your relationship and forget about the confused feelings that guide you. Ask yourself the question "Who do I love" and go to him.
I think you just felt some lack in your relationship and became emotionally vulnerable. And this has manifested itself as a reassessment of the wooden philosopher. Alcohol and physical intimacy have only added more vulnerability, but they are not the main factors. It's just that when a person feels emotionally lacking, he begins to rethink certain things on a subconscious level and idealize alternative possibilities. And a subconscious monologue begins as to whether what you have is good enough to fight for. Wouldn't the other be more exciting and satisfying? Which to choose now? If you choose one or the other, won't you fuck up? The bad thing is that this mental noise has the properties of an avalanche and increases on its own until it grows into very serious torment and torment. Older people call it winding wicks, and younger ones enter the movie. Of course, all this is only in your head. Neither the wooden philosopher has become cooler, nor have you liked him. It's just that for a moment you saw in it some kind of substitute for something you needed at the moment and that you missed. The point is not to take it upon yourself to believe that you are almost in love with him. If things aren't going well in your relationship, that's another matter, but the wooden philosopher has nothing to do with it. Rather, realize what you are missing and find a way for your friend to give it to you. Don't blame him, just predispose him to give it to you, because it could be the reason for you. If the thrill is gone, do something, surprise him. But do not follow the model "I have a problem with my friend -> I will look for another". There will always be problems in a relationship, because nothing in the world is perfect, but the question is to solve the problems, rather than letting the first colleague you meet color you. Because this is not a solution either. If you are in a relationship with him, you will have problems with him in time. Then will you be colored with a third? In short - Stop idealizing the philosopher, be aware and fix your relationship problems delicately. If that doesn't help, talk directly. Discuss what problems you have, how you plan to solve them, and whether you want to solve them at all, or the relationship is over. Only then does he think of new ones. He doesn't do monkey and branch tricks like most women. how do you plan to resolve them and do you want to resolve them at all or is the connection exhausted. Only then does he think of new ones. He doesn't do monkey and branch tricks like most women. how do you plan to resolve them and do you want to resolve them at all or is the connection exhausted. Only then does he think of new ones. He doesn't do monkey and branch tricks like most women.
Number 4, be careful what you wish for. Do not end up after a company binge with a crocodile in the pool, especially if it is higher. That the job in the good company went.
In fact, you're not so much without guilt
You were guilty because your conscience spoke to you, you were on the verge of cheating on your friend without deserving it. Infidelity is not a joke, many families and serious relationships have broken down because of it. Think carefully about what you do, because then everyone goes to the cash register to pay the price. R.
From the Author: Thank you very much for the menus and still tell myself what happened next: I thought a lot and finally talked to my partner, we explained all the shortcomings that we allow each other and now things are not the same but much older. good. I explained to him everything that had happened - he was not happy, but we decided that we could stop with that and now we are closer than ever! Once again thank you