I mostly ask women how well the direct approach works. I watched videos of a man going to a stranger on the street / beach, saying a few words and starting to kiss her. I personally doubt the authenticity of such videos. For example, would you kiss a stranger, no matter how beautiful, inventive and whatever My second question is to what extent would the direct approach work for you? In a sense, I'm not talking about kisses, but let's say a man tells you something like "impress me, I like you blah blah, I invite you to go out tomorrow." Don't get caught up in specific words, for example. Let's say it will be more inventive, but I'm referring to the approach itself. Would this work for you? Or would it work better to talk about something completely different in some casual way (ask you where to find it or a shirt tip in a clothing store - for example) and ask for your phone during the conversation? Or it must be quite indirect - to have known each other at least a little for days, weeks, months as colleagues, a common company or something and now if you feel some chemistry little by little things to become direct and go out at some point. Which works for you and which doesn't? And does it depend on any factors? From the person's radiance, from the circumstances (are you colleagues, strangers, place, etc.), from the momentary emotion and do I know a bunch of other things (add you)? Some say that the direct approach attracts women because it is associated with confidence, while others say
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It depends a lot on the situation, my mood and what the man looks like, because let's not be fooled, we are talking about a direct approach in which he comes, says 2 stories and leaves. In principle, I would not. If there is any conversation and there is some connection between us then maybe.
The direct approach only works for handsome, sexy men. If this is not the case, the woman must know the character of the man in order to experience attraction. And that takes time, sometimes months.
The videos you watch are made in countries where it is quite normal to have sex with the person you are dating on a first date. Or go to a bar and leave with a man / woman. I increasingly think that such videos are directed because there are many laws in the United States that protect women. Many things can be considered sexual violence, and there the sentences are huge. Well, I don't know how real these videos of harassing unknown women in public are.
I wouldn't kiss a stranger, but I would accept a date - if he looks nice, I'm free too. But you have to hit the moment - for example, you do not stop girls with headphones or those who are in a hurry for somewhere, etc. And you have to see that she's looking at you (longer look, smile) - I mean, she liked you. ,,
With me, with the direct approach, you have no chance. If you start talking nonsense to me, I'll cut you off right away. And I will think that you are wrong or at least congested and desperate. In order to give my phone to someone and to go out with him, I have to know him from before, and not someone to stop me on the street and give me my phone ... I will give it, but another time! I have had several long relationships and I am currently in one and I have always known the person first - 2 times they were my colleagues from the university, and my current friend and I met online and wrote to each other for months before we went out for coffee. So I don't know how it is with others, but for me the direct approach doesn't work at all. You'll be lucky if I don't call you crazy, if before you ask me about my name you start offering me coffee and asking for my phone.
If Brad Pitt came and attacked me directly, his direct approach would be completely successful. But in your case, it's hardly a good idea.
So all the pick-ups and videos seem absurd to me - obviously there are some women who get caught up in this, but I do not have such girlfriends and I myself am dumb someone who tried something like that. However, I have male friends who have been passionate about the topic for years and are trying to apply things - guess what - they are sitting alone :) In order to go out with someone, we need to know each other more or less (maybe virtually not live, but still again, to have some conversations and to have an idea of what kind of person is opposite and that we have something in common and at least some interests that overlap or common topics) and to be interesting to me with something. So for someone to talk to me on the street or try to apply pickup grips and I go to kiss him or give my phone is absurd. Maybe the boy is cute or looks good, but for me, that's not enough reason to date someone. At least that's how it is with me - we must first have something in common to arouse interest.
Well brother we live in a time when 80% of women are chasing 20% of men. If you ask such questions, you are hardly 20% of them. Here the harpies can jump on me and start talking about self-confidence, radiance and all sorts of things, but the truth is simple - if you're walking you don't get angry, they'll jump over each other for you, if not - don't bother at all. Many people will tell you nonsense that it is important what you say, how you are dressed, body language and the like, but the fact is that a woman decides whether to listen to you the moment she sees you.
See, every woman is different. But no one likes to be hung for a long time. If my husband likes me, I would not be "scared" by his direct approach. These numbers, with which you give an example, such as the polls about the shirt, etc., have always been very sweet to me and have made me happy when I have identified the person. But why not give them another compliment and an invitation to a meeting :)
Much depends on the person opposite, but at least for me, perhaps, the direct approach would pass with just these words, enough to come out. And then everyone decides whether he liked the other, etc. The indirect one with the question of direction, time and the like is a bit worn out and devoid of creativity, so maybe not. Of course, the best option is to get to know each other better, but that doesn't mean it's necessary, it will just take you a little more time and effort. To depend on many factors: radiation - here I do not mean muscles and rags, but things like a smile, look, etc .; Energy, presence - charisma plays an important role; Do we have anything in common at first glance - for example, I would not go out with a man who from afar seems to be a wild scoundrel and lives throwing napkins on Saturday night; The current situation also matters - if at the moment my thoughts are somewhere else, I have something important on my head, the chances of doing so decrease, there are other factors. Still, at least I could make a relationship that way, be it a relationship or a friendship. F21
Each woman will answer you differently according to her preferences. There is no universal formula for success. I personally prefer things to happen more smoothly, direct people, words of action scare me. I am anxious and shy about that too. I think (this is just my opinion) that if someone approaches me directly, then he has no serious intentions and it is all up to him whether I will cut him. We're talking an invitation to meet for a coffee conversation if we don't know each other. I do not perceive direct people as more self-confident, on the contrary, I think they are bigger complexes and are blind to their shortcomings. Something interesting happened to me recently. My husband and I are on vacation on skis. Someone was constantly looking at me in the hut. I'm used to it .. The night before we leave, I get up from our table, the person in question behind a column catches me and calls me "how to get your coordinates". YOU SCARED ME. My husband was not at the table. We were a big company. This one was stalking the moment. I was very upset. I haven't given occasions, I'm not that simple. It has happened to me other times, and at work, but in front of my husband someone can afford such a thing ... Men like you captivated someone with an appearance and you do not know what world you are in :)) Author, advice from me. It depends on what you are looking for - if sex-direct approach, if you want a relationship - first extract information about the girl and act, but carefully.
As number 9 said, nowadays, the majority of women chase the top 20 percent of men, while the other 80 are either invisible to them or, at best, get the nuts of men in the top 20 percent. And as some "ladies" have already mentioned in this thread, the direct approach only works if you are physically beautiful. If you are beautiful, they will immediately take off your panties for you, but if you are average or ugly, or they will reject you at the moment, or they will spin you on a spit for a long time, you will have to PROVE that you deserve them (you can thank the social media that inflated their ego so much).
I agree. Much better than the internet, you see the person right away and judge. If the man approaches politely, it's really nice!
If he's a complete stranger, hey on the street, I'd be shocked. If a man looks bad, I will think that something is not good mentally, and if he looks good, I will think that it is some number and that it is not good mentally. Now, if it's a bar, a concert, a conference, a place or an event at all that suggests we have something in common, I might not be shocked, depending on the approach. If he approaches me to talk to me, because I'm interesting to him, for example, we'll talk, and from there, if any attraction arises, he can. But if he comes and just asks me for my number or invites me on a date, I'll think he's either desperate or just looking for sex and trying each one. Otherwise, for 80% of women who pursue 20% of men, this is true in my opinion. If you're an alpha male,
I am in favor of the direct approach. Of course, there are gactors to keep in mind. For example, is it bound, because if it is, hardly anything will happen (at least in my opinion). But if she's single and someone asks her something directly, I'm pretty sure it's okay than bastards and wasting time on other nonsense.
In my opinion, the direct approach is good, as long as it is not too much. And don't look too suspicious. If you guys can say it so that it sounds normal and honest, rather than greasy, I personally would prefer it to most methods. A simple "I like you. I'd like to know you more" makes things much easier than bragging and twisting the situation.
Oh, again those 80%, 20%, but the ball ... I would never read such theories and conspiracies, nor any dubious dating advice. Everything is quite individual. There are girls who like nice, sentimental boys. Others think of them as Liglians. There are girls who want so-called "bad boys". Others do not tolerate the aggression of such. I guess most like something in the middle. Everyone has an idea in their head, an image of the person they would like to be with, and they strive for people close to that image. That is, at least in my opinion. And no such peak-mic-lines will change things. Most of all to get into trouble with this talking to random people on the street. However, there is no way to know who is in what mood and how they would react. Personally, I do not like such conspiracies out of nowhere. It happened to me twice, and in both cases I just pulled away and walked away. For the first one, I don't regret at all that I reacted like that, because the boy in question was not completely on his own and smelled beastly of alcohol, no matter that it was 11-12 o'clock at noon. Not to mention that when I got up and walked away, as he almost sat on me on the bench, he started shouting (literally) how it was still happening and they didn't pay attention to him and others. such. In the second case, almost immediately after that, I felt bad, because I realized, and it was obvious that the boy was ashamed and probably cost him a lot to say these few words to me. But the truth is, it was just very strange all this approaching and starting a conversation at the bus stop in the pouring rain. And the things he said sounded weird, I was even a little scared at first because he told me that he had seen me around the neighborhood, etc. at the bus stop, etc. And all the people around us were staring at us, perhaps because he, as he was standing somewhere aside, suddenly literally jumped up to me and started talking. I don't remember these events well at all, even though 2-3 years have passed. Honestly, my very friendly advice is not to try these dating methods, but you know.
Abe folks, haven't you seen old movies? Is it most normal for a man to talk to a woman on the street or to give her a slip with his number in a restaurant / bar? What has this internet exposed you to so much that you call the classics perverted ?! It's perverse for me for people on the Internet to post old or foreign photos, to lie, to send photos to their genitals, if you don't like them to curse you ... and when it comes to a real meeting to see a combination of an old troll, hair monkey and Quasimodo. Come on, no need.
Hello, I am a man and I tell you that this approach is not well received, at least not among Bulgarian women. I had a case with a girl from somewhere in Northeast Europe who is here on the Erasmus program. I come home from a restaurant late at 2 o'clock in the morning on a main street, there are also people and I see a girl moving with me in one direction, she was drunk, I also talked and she was ready to continue things there, but I showed no interest. In the States, it is common to go to a bar and go to bed together. I am not saying that this is right, but that it is a practice. This is not the case here, except in special cases. To meet someone here without being introduced or to have something in common is absurd. She is scared, embarrassed, thinks you are crazy or desperate, that you want something from her, that you will do something to her and all sorts of such nonsense. You better not bother at all.
Because I've taken pickup courses (there are some, huh) - the direct approach can work for some women when done by some men ... In other words, everything is individual. In discos I saw a working direct approach, very little conversation and then kisses, the chick was drunk. But in general, these are very isolated cases, with most of us there is no way things can happen ... If you are some super alpha mega top male, you can probably make things happen to you with the stupidest approach, but most of us are not such mega men. .
21, out of curiosity to ask was there any real benefit to this course as a result? But answer honestly. Because I still think it's just business, as long as they take some money from you. And when I look at them, the teachers at the peak app, they look so crazy and artificial that they themselves can hardly download who knows how much, let alone teach someone.
Well, there is a difference from a direct approach to a direct approach. For example, it will be strange for me to go and press a woman we met 5 minutes ago, especially on the street. But I wonder if the ladies would give their phone to such a man if they liked the look and demeanor. In reality, if it turns out to be annoying and you don't like it, you can always block the other one. A friend met the woman he had been with for three years.
I will comment on direct approaches to me, but I am a man :) I enter a disco and even passing by the dance floor a blonde girl invites me to dance! Then I realized that she had seen me in a restaurant and hoped to meet me again. Another case - I'm standing drunk to the dance floor in a disco, and I take out a cigarette, the moment I reached to light it, a girl took the lighter from my hands and she lit my cigarette! Third case - we are sitting in a restaurant and at one point a girl comes and sits at the table with a question if she can meet me! Fourth case - we are staying in a restaurant and a woman from the company, who is from another city and was a guest, asked me to go with her to the toilet and hold her bag - after she came out of the toilet she asked me if I had a girlfriend and if I could to kiss me! Fifth case - I stand by the dance floor in a disco and the ex comes, he tells me that a friend of hers liked me very much and wanted me to go to a house party with her. Sixth case - I was interested in a girl and I knew that the waitress in a restaurant knew her, but when she asked about her, she offered herself, not for direct sex. Seventh case - a girl familiar to my friend comes and at some point directly asked me if she could sit inside me! There are many other cases in which someone tells me that you liked me, but I listed only the most striking. These are old stories from 10-15 years ago, but they are all 100% true. However, now I have a married colleague who I think has some sympathy for me, but I still can't understand the signals, and she's probably wondering. do i like her Very often when we talk she told me - well, to give you money to buy me or order what you are - not to mention ordering pizza, and for things that she or her husband should do. Or - to wash my car !!! I remember that one afternoon we were left alone and shortly before we left she told me that she was very hungry, and finally she left, looking angry and indifferent to me! Then I wondered if the fact that she was hungry hadn't been said on purpose to tell her to go eat somewhere?
to 22 of 21: Well the benefit is relative. One guy managed to catch a boyfriend from the pickup course. And you obviously haven't seen all the teachers, or maybe you've seen those from the other school (I won't talk about names, but I know of at least two schools in Bulgaria, some are really weirder and a little crazy, and they are the ones who go in various IT companies to "train" and crucify various theories). We also had very good teachers. I'm talking about people who get every second set. For me personally, the pickup had some benefit, but small. I benefited more from the improvised theater course, to be honest. I find that years later I still use various tricks from there while communicating :)
I am a woman and I prefer the direct approach ... When I act first I am also direct (if I know that the man is free, when I am not sure, I act not so directly until I find out) I prefer to act the same with me. If my husband likes me and I want something to happen, the rest is a waste of time. And if I don't like it, no matter how much time he puts into other detours, it won't work - I'm just wondering how to tell him that things aren't going well even if I suspect he's taking me down ... because he's not direct , I can't tell him "well, it won't work, you better not waste your time" if he just writes to me about something else ... F 30