Hello! My story. I met a girl more than a year ago. He attracted me almost immediately, not so much physically as as a person. The problem was that I was quite ambitious, as I was then, and I didn't see an option for a person next to me. However, the more time passed to be close to her, the more I fell in love with her, as I am convinced in her. I got to the point where I could no longer stand this thing and did everything I could to break away from her and not see her again. However, the more time passed, the more I dreamed of her, and my days were filled with thoughts only of her. After more than 6 months, I decided that I should do something and at least give her flowers, anonymously, of course, considering that it had been a long time and I had a clear idea of how many crepes it would look like if I bloomed in them. with flowers. And because God forbid, when you are in love you are capable of all sorts of nonsense (I leave the details and why exactly it happened), I did the exact opposite. One day I bloomed with flowers in them, woke up her whole tribe (mother, father, even grandmother had) and gave her a big not exactly bouquet of flowers. However, her father did not seem to accept it well and this is already my speculation, but I have obviously put her in an acquittal before him, because he later did this on a very serious issue and it turned out that I was probably a danger to her. (which was a figment of the imagination and did not correspond to the facts). After this incident, I stopped any attempts at subsequent contact with her, as I did not consider it appropriate to continue, especially if I had imagined and the feelings were not shared. All good, but months later, I'm starting to have good reason to believe that now she is looking for contact with me, but precisely as a result of those events, she is afraid to look for me directly. At the same time, I can't be absolutely sure and look for her, because, this can lead to quite dramatic scenes in case she really doesn't feel anything for me and I'm just mistaken. Last time I thought, this time, but really anonymously to send her something small and just to guess who I am, and if she remembers me, to remember. Otherwise, to pass as an anonymous gesture, which she probably already received before and will not be something new for her. I know that I have saved a lot of details and maybe it is not very clear what exactly I am asking and I will try to clarify about that. What do you think would be the positives and liabilities of something like this, more than 5 months later? Thanks for your attention, time and answers!
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Dude! You are pure luT! I'm not a woman, but I haven't had less than 20 attempts at a serious or fleeting relationship. People said, "- Ask a patilla, not an old man." I am 101% straight and I adore the female body. But when it comes to this body to start talking - and I run. What nonsense have I done, just to have a point of contact with a female being. A bouquet of 200 red roses served by a courier with a card, in an elite restaurant and I was sitting at a table next to see her reaction. He looked at them. He is happy. And within 2 minutes he left without the bouquet. And I didn't even see her again. Huge plush toy in the paw and sewn 4 gram gold engagement ring. Of course. Accepted. Two years later, it ruined my life! From thistle to hawthorn, to higher. A lot of victims, I threw nerves and pleas at these creatures who also go to the toilet and pee squatting. Eventually I got to the point where I didn't choose. I caught the first one who shared my dream of a child and a family. The moment she realized she was pregnant, she opened the gates of hell and poured it on me and my baby. At least I know in hell I'll feel like the Caribbean. Not everyone is like that! But good, smart and beautiful women have long been enslaved by bad boys. Lift your pants and guard and don't humiliate yourself for two fingers of meat! Sooner or later you will realize that I was right. smart and beautiful women have long been enslaved by bad boys. Lift your pants and guard and don't humiliate yourself for two fingers of meat! Sooner or later you will realize that I was right. smart and beautiful women have long been enslaved by bad boys. Lift your pants and guard and don't humiliate yourself for two fingers of meat! Sooner or later you will realize that I was right.
You must first resume communication between you. Don't send anything, just write on social networks, approaching the past incident with flowers with humor. You can even start with this - does your father still want to beat me: D Your story shows that you have enough sense of humor and it can help you in this case. Once the communication started, ask her to help you with something in the form of a meeting - a gift, a look at something, etc. Depending on her reactions, you will plan the next steps.
well, was people (author and number 1), what are these performances? then anonymous surprises, then bouquets, roses, plush toys ... It is normal for you to think about not quite in class. Can't you just invite the woman to a coffee / cinema / theater / restaurant / walk or whatever you decide, talk, get to know each other and see how things go? Already when you have, if not a relationship, then you went out, you feel that the other party likes you, you can make surprises, because it will be clear how the other party will accept them. Is it so difficult to be human? If you shake a chick with champagne, open your mother or father, how will you feel?
Abe, man, isn't this little one you decided to give her an engagement ring? Calm the ball down a bit. I understand you, and trying to fight my feelings made me physically unwell. However, this is your personal drama, which you caused yourself and you realize that from the outside your behavior seems strange. In that line of thinking, don't relate to her father's reaction, she wasn't personal. This is how he would react to anyone who wakes them up in the middle of the night to give flowers. The important thing is to like you when he gets to know you. True, I don't know the chick. She may be a terrible romantic, but your assertiveness may just scare her, which would be a shame. As far as I understand, you did not have a relationship. Well, create, as it is created, step by step. Invite her for coffee. Start over and this time give your feelings a chance.