Women, Stomach And Self-esteem

   An acquaintance of mine says: If a man after 40 does not have a belly, he is either poor or sick.

   Maybe when you stop caring and delving into certain things, then your character has become more pleasant or cool and that's why you like women more. The factors can be many. I see that all kinds of guys have all kinds of women. I mean ... I live in a big city (Plovdiv) and there are guys in the center to whom many people would say NOT nice, but they move with strong chicks next to them. Obviously it's not just about beauty. At times, when I was unhappy, I had no friends or women around me. But when I was at peace with myself and over things, everything was okay. And women had everything :). The belly is not a problem brother. It is quite normal. From an aesthetic point of view, we are forced to be ugly. And it's really something normal for the human body. The point is that it will not be healthy for the body if you become overweight.

   It is impossible to like a man with a belly, if we have not had a long relationship before and I like him from the inside! Even so, however, he will have to try to melt it if he wants to continue to be wanted. Don't hope for that at all! It's disgusting for your fat to shake and go two minutes before you. You are obviously signing and I am telling you about it directly!

   Congratulations! You have discovered what confidence means. This is it! Not to love yourself in your best form, but to accept yourself in a worse way. And women really like confident men. Mostly because the insecure try to suppress us as well. Don't forget learning and enjoy the attention, you deserve it because you have learned something much more important and difficult than a diet or 5-6 exercises! May your story inspire more young people!

   3, don't you think that when you give birth to 1-2 children and when you become 40, you will be like a model? So you will not be wanted either. There is a saying that those who judge are judged. I understand that being Taylor Swift and claiming that your husband doesn't have a belly and a relationship after years, but you're hardly like her, and even if you are, it won't be for long. There is no way a man or a woman at 50 can look like at 20, do you even think about that?

   I believe, your sagging belly is the last thing that will attract a woman ... Something else has changed.

   Up to 5 - She may look like a beautiful pop singer, there's no way you know that. And what do you mean? That we should like ugly people if we are not beautiful? This is nonsense ...

   H 5 if the author is 50 years old ... hmm, it will be a big belly at the expense of a small brain. Somehow I don't associate what is written with a person of that age. What will I look like in those years? I do not know! But if I don't have a serious illness, I certainly won't have a stomach;) And I just answered the author frankly. I don't believe that women suddenly kept it that way, unless they themselves are similar. For me, a fat man (or woman), if not due to illness, are lazy, irresponsible, undisciplined shoes.

   I used to say that my belly is unmaintained and I don't want such a man: D I was maybe 15-16. My friend at the moment when we started going out impressed me even with a belly. Other things are more important than whether you have 5-10 pounds in plus. Also, if a man does not have certain qualities, even if he has the most perfect body, I will not keep him by my side. Well done for loving yourself.

   "It's out of the question to like a man with a belly if we haven't had a long relationship before and I like him on the inside as well! Even so, he'll have to try to melt it if he wants to continue to be wanted." Not liking ugly men is one thing, but do you think that the man of your life will be like a mannequin all his life? He had to try. Well, when you wrinkle at 50, you will have to do your best to lift it. OK, you won't have a belly, but your tits will be sagging, your skin wrinkled, your lips thinning, your hair won't be fresh. And if your husband thinks like you, you two will stay dry and sleep separately. I want to tell you that sometimes a person gets ugly, hangs, gets fat. To maintain a figure at 20 is one thing, and at 50 it is quite another. Unless you are genetically predisposed to a good figure, but there are few. I just meant that one must be a little tolerant of one's spouse. I say that because I am like you and that causes me a lot of marital problems.

   Olele ... now we will make it, the hanging men and women will be preferred to the tight ones ...

   I am currently 44 and for several months I have been struggling with the weight I have gained over several years, repeating to myself - I don't care who likes me, I will like it with my belly! I got to the point where I couldn't button my shirts because of the belly and the slings that shook as I walked! Abe, in a word - disgusting work. Eventually I started to hate myself! My wife has "not moved" over the years, even though we have two children, she was just in shape when she left the maternity ward! In the last few months I have lost a lot of weight, and my belly is almost invisible and there are tiles under the other bacon, but I need a few more months to show more or less. Ever since I lost weight, I have started to feel a surge of energy, self-confidence and confidence, feeling like a young person again, on which many girls / women used to fall in love :) I feel how even much younger women started looking at me again! It's cool to be in shape, but you need a lot of willpower, especially after 40!

   With a belly you will like it if you have a nice black SUV and wide fingers and hands. Now seriously. I am a woman of 31 and when I uploaded 2-3 rings, and without that I have French measures that weigh me, then I stopped liking myself so much, but I received more offers than before. Some like hunchbacks, others don't. A matter of choice.

   Number 3 - I have two children and I'm 40 and a few and I don't have a belly. I watch what I eat, I move and I look good. Yes, I'm not Taylor Swift or Angelina Jolie's sister, of course. You're not from Hollywood either, I guess? Fat people disgust me because it shows laziness, irresponsibility towards myself and others as well. And greed in every aspect. I despise people who live to eat.

   14, I'm telling you this - that for some it's not laziness, and sometimes the metabolism slows down with age, from birth, etc., and no matter how hard they try, it's not easy to lose weight. For some more, for others less - genetics, but slows down at some point. And if it's more, it's not so easy to be thin - even if you don't eat a lot and exercise. I just note it, not that I care what you like and what you don't. I mean, don't rush to judge people, because things aren't always as they seem in your eyes. We need to be broader sometimes. And I tell you again - you may not have a belly, but you certainly do not look like you were 20. Certainly your skin is not like 20. And if your husband, like you, decides that you do not make enough masks, no you try hard enough, you don't do lifting and such, he can say "sorry, but you don't try, together and almost become disgusting to you because his metabolism has slowed down with age or it's just not his priority to play sports because he is non-stop at work (for example), he says that you look at your relationship superficially and consumeristically. Well, now that my wife has given birth and screwed up her metabolism and can't lose weight, no matter how hard she tries, let me dump her with the child and find a sapling. I just expressed an opinion. together and almost become disgusting to you because his metabolism has slowed down with age or it's just not his priority to play sports because he is non-stop at work (for example), he says that you look at your relationship superficially and consumeristically. Well, now that my wife has given birth and screwed up her metabolism and can't lose weight, no matter how hard she tries, let me dump her with the child and find a sapling. I just expressed an opinion.

   Again, we come to the point with the "point of view." Yes, ok, we all like tight men and women with tiles, etc. But if that's the only thing that excites the woman next to me, it won't last a week. It's disgusting to have a partner who is 90% (or more) of the time focused on their appearance. I would prefer the woman next to me to have 4-5 kg ​​more, but to have a brain, to be realized and to be smiling. It is disgusting for a "hungry and vicious" person to walk around me, because there is no cheerful hungry person :), to constantly walk from the gym - to the beauty salon and back, to monitor himself (and me !!!) what is being eaten, how much it is healthy, etc. to look critically at everyone around and to pursue some imaginary ideals ... It's the same with women - I don't know a woman who has supported a man who has subordinated her life to having "

   Up to 16 - you are absolutely right. I tried to explain this to my colleague from number 14. She claims that if her long-term partner lets go of her belly and ends - she will not want it anymore. As he said, we all want our partners to be beautiful, and there's nothing wrong with that, but if you stop wanting your partner after 20 years of marriage just because he's put on a little belly, then that's how connected it was. This is already an extreme. If love is leaning against a belly, let me pee on love. So a person can support her, help her, have sharing, everything, but you see the lack of a belly is much more important than that. If someone thinks this way, it is either superficial or the relationship has not been a relationship for a long time.

   My friend has a light belly that I like. Not much, because I still don't like too much, but it's sweet and soft.

   Number 14. As long as there were people, you stoned me. I meant that one should not neglect oneself and then justify oneself with age, hormones, lifestyle, problems. Everyone has them! Looking decent is achievable. Of course, I wouldn't dump my husband if he dropped a little belly and stuff - there are acceptable things, I won't make him eat einkorn, whose nonsense - we're not talking about extremes. But to brag that you're sexy with a belly like the author ... is still too much. Understand, you can't get bored because of laziness and then say - well, whoever likes my soul, I will also like my body, otherwise he is a fool! A curved rocket interferes with space.

   It is okay for every self-respecting person to take care of both their appearance and their inner world. In order to be in harmony with yourself, you must make the necessary efforts - to eat healthy, to play sports, to read books, to have a constant desire for self-improvement. A person with a stomach in most cases means that the person in question has been neglected, and this in turn is indicative of his attitude to other aspects of life.

   20, I do not agree with you. The person may be ill or have hormonal problems, which is why you automatically equate belly and laziness. Second, the fact that proper nutrition and exercise are not his priority also does not mean that other things in life are not his. On the contrary, people who work hard and are workaholics often neglect sports. So there are people who are fat, but are good at other things - work, family, etc. Third - you say "In order to be in harmony with yourself, you must make the necessary efforts." And when are you yourself? You always have to be weak, to be hardworking, to be who you are. Okay, but if all these things don't come from inside you and aren't natural to you, when do you end up yourself? And when you stop bullying yourself and constantly push yourself to be someone, who aren't you Until recently, I thought like that - to still be someone I am not. And do you know what the result was? Fix ideas, blockages, constant tension and ultimately no results other than stress. Ever since I realized that I had always aspired to be someone other than myself all along, everything had fallen into place. My depression is gone, I feel super emotional, I'm definitely in harmony with myself, I've become more confident, more natural and relaxed, my relationships with people have improved a lot, incl. and in the marriage and the family and somehow things worked out on their own without much, much effort and the most important thing is that for a long time I feel good in my skin and there is no tension in me, only in harmony. The feeling is amazing. People think that by constantly criticizing and demanding of themselves, they will achieve a lot. BUT don't realize that instead of concentrating on the things they are good at, they focus on their bad qualities, ostensibly with the idea of ​​improving them, but this never happens, simply because it is something that we do not like, it is not inherent in even with a lot of effort, either it happens, or if it does, it is at the expense of violence against oneself. It's like raising a child - if you constantly tell him what he's doing wrong and how he needs to improve it, he grows up with complexes and feels guilty that something is still wrong with him. But if you praise him and emphasize the good things he has done, he will be enthusiastic and thus spontaneously stimulate himself to try and develop self-confidence that he is doing well. More or less this happened to the author without realizing it. focus on their bad qualities, ostensibly with the idea of ​​improving them, but this never happens, simply because it is something that does not bother us, is not inherent in us and even with a lot of effort either it is obtained, or if it is obtained at the expense of violence against themselves. It's like raising a child - if you constantly tell him what he's doing wrong and how he needs to improve it, he grows up with complexes and feels guilty that something is still wrong with him. But if you praise him and emphasize the good things he has done, he will be enthusiastic and thus spontaneously stimulate himself to try and develop self-confidence that he is doing well. More or less this happened to the author without realizing it. focus on their bad qualities, ostensibly with the idea of ​​improving them, but this never happens, simply because it is something that does not bother us, is not inherent in us and even with a lot of effort either it is obtained, or if it is obtained at the expense of violence against themselves. It's like raising a child - if you constantly tell him what he's doing wrong and how he needs to improve it, he grows up with complexes and feels guilty that something is still wrong with him. But if you praise him and emphasize the good things he has done, he will be enthusiastic and so he will spontaneously stimulate himself to try and develop self-confidence that he is doing well. More or less this happened to the author without realizing it. or if it happens, it is at the expense of violence against oneself. It's like raising a child - if you constantly tell him what he's doing wrong and how he needs to improve it, he grows up with complexes and feels guilty that something is still wrong with him. But if you praise him and emphasize the good things he has done, he will be enthusiastic and so he will spontaneously stimulate himself to try and develop self-confidence that he is doing well. More or less this happened to the author without realizing it. or if it happens, it is at the expense of violence against oneself. It's like raising a child - if you constantly tell him what he's doing wrong and how he needs to improve it, he grows up with complexes and feels guilty that something is still wrong with him. But if you praise him and emphasize the good things he has done, he will be enthusiastic and so he will spontaneously stimulate himself to try and develop self-confidence that he is doing well. 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   Number 21 - you mix things up. Being in harmony with yourself has nothing to do with having a measure. No one condemns people with hormonal problems and other health reasons to be obese. But they are a minority. However, all the fat people I know just eat a lot, mostly junk food!

   14, I am disgusted by the ARROGANT people, and those who allow themselves to judge others, the basis to know and understand (not to mention that they do not try) what is on their heads ...

   21 - Proper nutrition and exercise do not have to be priorities, but nothing prevents them from being in your life. Of course, you are right about yourself. I can't do without criticizing and improving myself, because I'm not a very good person, for starters. I don't have the best genes, and my personality is naughty, I have misnotropic thoughts, in general I lean more towards chaotic evil than good. If I didn't try, I would be 140 kilos, uncle businessman who has a few hidden corpses and everyone would hate me. It's easy when the right things come from inside you ...

   22 Well, that's how it comes to them from the inside, and that's their natural behavior. Should they be made to someone who is not? Do they have to bully themselves? Yes, I agree that there are people at the extreme who risk their health and treat themselves and their loved ones irresponsibly. But the other extreme is not good either - constantly demanding something from ourselves and harassing ourselves. As you say, the balance is really in the balance - neither to be completely irresponsible, nor to live according to the expectations of others.

   24, that's right, yes. We are all different and resp. there can be no universal formula for success. Your comment made me think a lot. Indeed, my approach to you would be disastrous, as well as the opposite - yours to me.

   26 - This is the main thing for life and harmony in a society. To understand each other, to tolerate each other and not to strain each other's nerves, and if we can help each other, it will be great. Fat, weak, ugly, etc ... As long as we respect each other, we will be fine. Of course, if a woman doesn't like a man with a belly - Well, it's her job. You can't make her like him. It's like with beards - many Bulgarian women don't like men with beards, but there are also those who adore a man with a well-groomed beard. Come on, have a nice weekend everyone :)

   From the author. Many assumptions were made. It's not about a belly like Sancho Panza's, but rather that if I drip there is a chance that my shirt will drip, and not like before I drip my shoes, if I eat right. It's just pretty visible. I'm 49 years old and I'm running up the stairs, I have normal blood pressure, I don't snore, I don't have health problems, but the damn belly is obviously genetically haunting me. But whatever, such! I wanted to share that I'm tired of caring about him and as a result there is obviously a change in my general behavior, and women are much more responsive. Obviously, we have to come to terms with the fact that the body is changing, the spine is twisting, and all sorts of other miracles that end in death. Thanks for the comments I read with interest and for the sympathy, mainly from the men!

   Author, you have correctly understood that you have to stop living in order to fit into someone else's understanding of attractiveness. Just be yourself and everything will be fine. Nobody is perfect. If you have a belly, you have a belly, so what? Be alive and healthy and don't listen to those who understand.

   To number 25 "and everyone would hate me": D Ever since I overcame my need to be perfect, "ordinary" people have loved me and I loved them. And until a year ago I was a seasoned misanthrope, self-critical and ... it was horrible, I only understood people like number 25. Now they like me without make-up, I replaced my heels with sneakers, I talk to shampoo sellers, not just philosophers of topic dialectical semiotics in the historical aspect of spatial formation. I had thoughts of selective genocide, now I understand how far I have been from life with the heart, not just the mind. And I definitely like a man with a tummy more than Mr. Perfect. :) Good luck!

   F65 I am in good shape, I have no wrinkles, it is natural for me. My husband was slender, handsome, now fat, belly, slings. He works a lot, earns well, when he comes home he lies down and takes a nap. I walk and swim with my grandson, the grandfather sits by the beach and eats. He is kind, good, caring, loving. To abandon him according to # 14? After 45 years together? Because they look good-looking and much younger? Author, if you're single it makes sense if they're looking at 49, but if you're not, don't make dramas. You will notice your partner and you may lose her. After 40, women are not looking for love, but only adventure and personal gain. What do they value? Intelligent, funny, storytellers, conversational, self-confident, without complexes and OCD men. We make money ourselves, to go where we want at our own expense, but the companion is important.

   At almost 50 ... um now I understand ... I'm 3 and 8, read 8 carefully again. Live with your belly when you're ready, and women like that (I guess at your age, with similar bodies or just hoping for a "bumpy good guy" and it's immature) To the most ardent "defender" (you'll recognize yourself;) yes, that's what I said, if I'm already in a long-term relationship with one person, my stomach will be my last concern. But there's nothing to lie about even as anonymous, is there? !! I can't wish for him in the same way, he's ugly even out of bed and dressed, and in bed he'll be downright repulsive. Yes, maybe I will be able to swallow for a while, turn off the lights and imagine something else, always be on top so that my stomach doesn't shake above me ... but I won't be happy and no, I definitely won't I wish with passion, it will be a beating of the number and only as long as I can (if) I can stand it. If I see that he is trying to lose weight, believe me, I will be with him at all times, I will train with him, I will completely change my diet to support him, but if I see that he is "happy" with his stomach and he has no intention of changing that, well, I'm leaving it to others to look for women with bellies like themselves. However, it is interesting how you do not stop complaining if a woman tired after work, home care, and children, a woman looks tired, withered, etc. you wait for her on the cross. However, your ego is so tender that you don't want to hear truths about yourself. And how many things do we women keep quiet about ... ah, if you only knew! You don't want to know, and when you are decorated with horns, you get angry that your wives didn't talk if there was a problem. And yet I repeat about the author because he is not talking about a long relationship, but a summary: A man of almost 50 years with a belly thinks that women are already throwing themselves at his neck because he has become irresistible. Conclusion: it is clear to all of you, including men with a gentle ego, but if you want, lie to the author, and deceive yourself!

   Up to 7 "That we should like ugly people if we are not beautiful? This is nonsense ..." Abe cheered every frog to know his goal, I personally am a man and I look extremely good, that's why I catch / look only beautiful women. And you, being decent or ugly, how did you decide that you have the right to look at the beautiful, since you are not from their class? Know your place, if some ugliness blooms for me to want me, I will send her where she came from, and I don't see what normal beautiful woman would catch up with an ugly man, unless she's a gold digger or something is wrong.